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People weave in and out of our lives in ways that may seem random, but they never are. Life is a far more organized production than most of us give it credit for. It’s like a well written movie. And, as in a movie, nobody and nothing appears on screen without purpose. Things happen the way they happen, when they happen, for a reason ~ all of which is in perfect order, reflecting the perfection of the Univesre and life itself ~~ You never know when someone who is entering your life is really returning to your life to continue an eternal partnership ~ As we move through the moments of our lives, and encounter the people we meet, this can be helpful to understand ~ for all paths ultimately turn in on themselves, and nothing we do or say today is without impact on some tomorrow, I promise you ~~ Neale Donald Walsh

A saint once asked his disciples, “Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?” His disciples thought for a while, and one of them said, ”Because we lose our calm, and we shout for that.” The saint replied, “Yes, but why the need to shout when the other person is just next to you?  Why is it not possible to speak with a soft voice when you are angry?” The disciples gave some creative answers which did not satisfy the saint.  Finally the saint explained to them, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are very distant. To cover that distance they must shout to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they need to become to reach across that great distance.” Then the saint added, “When two people are in love they talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is small so they only need to whisper, and they become even closer to each other in love. Finally they need not even whisper, they just look at each other in silence. That’s how close two people are when they love each other.” ~Anonymous

Be careful giving too much too soon. They may fall in love with your hand rather than your heart.

Even though we may age, our eyes will always look the same. The eyes we fall in love with will never change.

The work of a relationship is to bring out the complexity in each person and create a fresh story, in which the common motifs weave together like subtle colors in a fabric. Thomas Moore

Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you. – Dr. Wayne Dyer

I’m very picky with whom I give my energy to. I prefer to reserve my time, intensity and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity.

Distance teaches us to appreciate the days that we are able to spend together and distance teaches us the definition of patience. It is a reminder that every moment together is special, and every second together should be cherished.

If a man expects a woman to be an angel in his life, he must create heaven for her. Angels don’t live in hell.

A healthy relationship is where two independent people just make a deal that they will empower the other person to become the best version of themselves.

Boys and girls make mistakes, but it takes a man/ woman to admit it, stand through it, and learn from it.

Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.

It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking for love to compensate for a self love deficit.

Lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.

Don’t be eye candy, be soul food.

You know when you have found your prince because you not only have a smile on your face but in your heart as well.

The biggest coward is the man that awakens a woman’s love with no intention of loving her. Bob Marley

Always be careful of what you hear about a woman. Rumors either come from a man who can’t have her or a woman who can’t compete with her.

If you asked me how many times you have crossed my mind, I would say once because you never really left.

Intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

A great relationship is about two main things: Finding out the similarities and respecting the differences.

A well tailored suit is to a woman what lingerie is to a man.

A woman that can be bought isn’t worth having.

Choose your lady wisely. She represents you.

What is love? Love is the absence of judgement. Dalai Lama

The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding.

I’m not searching for my other half because I’m not a half.

I’m not a one in a million kind of girl, I am a once in a life time kind of woman.

Having a deep conversation with someone who has a brilliant mind and a beautiful soul is a new way of making love.

Being unwanted, unloved, uncared for, forgotten by everybody, I think that is a much greater hunger, a much greater poverty, than the person who has nothing to eat. – Mother Teresa

Human relationships exist to produce love when we pollute our relationships with unloving thoughts, or destroy or abort them with unloving attitudes we are threatening our emotional survival. –Marianne Williamson, Return to Love

You don’t need another Human Being to make your life complete, let’s be honest. Having your wounds kissed by someone who doesn’t see them as disasters in your soul, but cracks to put their love into, is the most calming thing in this world. – Emery Allen

People who offer you conflict may be offering you the opportunity for growth. Seek these people out. These are the people who can show you that you can do it for yourself. You can be a big circle.
Kaleel Jamison, The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of Power: A Book about Leadership, Self-Empowerment, and Personal Growth

“We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion.” ~~ Max de Pree

A saint once asked his disciples, “Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?” His disciples thought for a while, and one of them said, ”Because we lose our calm, and we shout for that.” The saint replied, “Yes, but why the need to shout when the other person is just next to you?  Why is it not possible to speak with a soft voice when you are angry?” The disciples gave some creative answers which did not satisfy the saint.  Finally the saint explained to them, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts are very distant. To cover that distance they must shout to hear each other. The angrier they are, the louder they need to become to reach across that great distance.” Then the saint added, “When two people are in love they talk softly because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is small so they only need to whisper, and they become even closer to each other in love. Finally they need not even whisper, they just look at each other in silence. That’s how close two people are when they love each other.” ~Anonymous

Never chase love, affection or attention. If it isn’t given freely by another person, it isn’t worth having.

Relationships never end, because they’re of the mind; only bodies can separate. When you’re missing someone, know it just means that on a soul level they’ve come to visit. Marianne Williamson

When you truly care for someone, their mistakes never change our feelings, because it is the mind that gets angry, but the heart that still cares.

Find someone who isn’t afraid to admit that they miss you. Someone who knows that you’re not perfect, but treats you as if you are. Someone whose biggest fear is losing you. One who gives their heart completely. Someone who says I love you and means it. Find someone you wouldn’t mind waking up with you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and your gray hair but still falls in love with you all over again.

The only people you need in your life are the ones who want and make an effort to be in it.

High end relationships are created and not found. You create them through the value you bring to their lives.

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Soul Ties
Here are a few signs that you have unhealthy soul ties with someone:
1- You are in a physically, and/or emotionally, and/or spiritually abusive relationship but you “feel” so attached to them that you refuse to cut off the connection and set boundaries with them.
2- You have left a relationship, (maybe long ago) but you think about them obsessively, (you can’t get them out of your mind).
3- Whenever you do anything…make a decision, have a conversation with someone etc., you “feel’ like this person is with you or watching you.
4- When you have #sex with someone else (hopefully your husband or wife), you can hardly keep yourself from visualizing the person you have a soul tie with.
5- You take on the negative traits of the person that your soul is tied to and carry their offenses whether or not you actually agree with them or not.
6- You defend your right to stay in a #relationship with the person (that your soul is tied to), even though it is negatively effecting or even destroying the important relationships in your life, (husband, wife, kids, leaders, etc.).
7- You have simultaneous experiences and/or “moods” as the person your soul is tied to. This can even include sickness, accidents, addictions etc.

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If there is no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. Mother Teresa 🙂

Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.

Life has taught us that love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward in the same direction. 

A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other the guardian of his solitude. ~Rainer Maria Rilke 

If you get married in puppy love, you’ll probably lead a dog’s life.  

A wedding ring soaked in dishwater three times a day will last longer.  

The worst thing about being lied to, is knowing you weren’t worth the truth.

The burden of life becomes light when love carries it.  

We should never withhold from another the forgiveness of which we are so often in need of ourselves.  

Any relationship where you put yourself first, won’t last.  

They say the world is round, and yet it must be square; So many little hurts we get from corners here and there. We flatter those we scarcely know, we please the fleeting guest, And deal full many a thoughtless blow to those we love the best. 

 Love says, I love you. Pity says, I love you and I hurt when you hurt. Compassion says, I love you. I hurt when you hurt, but I’ll stay until the hurt goes away.

To love a person is to learn the song in their heart, and to sing it to them when they have forgotten. ~Anonymous

When love is real, it’s seen as well as felt.  

The worst distance between two people is misunderstanding. 

How many scars did we justify because we loved the person holding the knife? 

What is love? No words can define it, it’s something so great–only God can design it. ~H. Steiner-Rice  

Relationships—of all kinds—are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold on to some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold on too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. ~Kaleel Jamieson, The Nibble Theory  

Where we love is home, home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.  

It is possible to give without loving, but it is impossible to love without giving. ~R. Braunstein  

If there is anything better than to be loved it is loving.  

A wise husband buys his wife such fine china that she will not trust him to wash the dishes.

There are tulips in the garden, there are tulips in the park, but the tulips Mommy likes— are Daddy’s “two lips” in the dark. 

Kindness in women, not their beauteous looks, shall win my love. ~William Shakespeare  

Love built on beauty, soon as beauty, dies. ~J Donne

A relationship is like a tapestry. The fabric is strongest where the threads that hold it are spun of openess, love and trust.Dadi Janki

I don’t think it’s loving that takes courage, it’s loving after heartbreak. Being able to give yourself to a person again after having all that trust shattered.

If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second one. ~Johnny Depp

LIFE by Cynthia Occelli To the men who honor us with devotion, reverence, and loving protection. Though you keep your struggles so quietly, we know your heart bleeds with every loss, heartache, and seeming failure. Take heart, the mark of a champion is not revealed by his triumphs, it’s forged by perseverance, the rising after every fall and pressing forward. Thank you for your bravery, steadfastness and love. You are heroes; our hearts find rapture in your embrace.

“Reliable” is not necessarily a trait people have, it is a CHOICE they make based on their own values and priorities. In that sense, everyone is ‘reliable’ in one way or another… perhaps just not in the way we want them to be… which is something out of our hands.

In life there are people that will hurt us and causes us pain, but we must learn to forgive and forget and not hold grudges….. In life there are mistakes we will make, but we must learn from our wrongs and grow from them.. In life there are people we will loose forever and can’t have back but we must learn to let go and move on.. Everything in life happens for a reason even if we dont understand….

A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one.  Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings

A man cannot reason with the woman he loves: he cares about her too much.

Woman was taken out of a man; not out of his head to top him, nor out of his feet to be trampled underfoot; but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.

Every relationship rests on three legs: accepting, supporting and challenging. That’s really it, isn’t it? You want relationships to be grounded on accepting each other as you are. On supporting each other through the inevitable ups and downs. On challenging each other to become more, to grow, to flourish.
We must learn to love those with whom we do not agree and who have not necessarily treated us justly. Just as we work to build up our muscles, we must work to expand our capacity to love. The Shadow Effect

Joy will come when you pass on the love you have received. If you hoard love, it melts away. If you lock love, it breaks free. If you grab on to love, you end up holding an illusion. When you let love flower in its own way, it stays to support you. When you pass on love, it multiplies beyond measure.

Loving someone is giving them the power to destroy you, yet trusting them enough not to.

Love has to be found not given, Respect is earned, but compassion is given.. and to exept any of these… first you need to know your self..
Never cease loving a person, and never give up hope for him, for even the prodigal son who had fallen most low, could still be saved; the bitterest enemy and also he who was your friend; love that has grown cold can kindle again. Soren Kierkegaard

The best love is the one you fell in accidentally.The strongest love is the one you fell in unexpectedly.The truest love is the one you fell in wholeheartedly!

Immature love says, “I love you because I need you.” Mature love says, “I need you because I love you.”
When I saw you, I was afraid to meet you… When I met you, I was afraid to kiss you… When I kissed you, I was afraid to love you… Now that I love you, I’m afraid to lose you.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.
When you are important to another person that person will always find a way to make time for you, no excuses, no lies, no broken promises…

A relationship without trust and commitment is like pushing a door that says PULL!!! It just won’t work.

From every human being there is a light that reaches straight to heaven and when two souls that are destined to be together find each other… their stream of light flows together and as a single brighter light goes forth from their united being.  unknown author
Its always good to feel that your needed, but just once in a while it would be amazing to actually feel like I’m wanted…

I don’t think it’s loving that takes courage, it’s loving after heartbreak. Being able to give yourself to a person again after having all that trust shattered.

Romantic films are known to ruin relationships as they give unrealistic expectations to women about what to expect from men. Porn has the same effect on men.

Women are like cell phones. They love to be held, talked to, and handled with care. But if you hit the wrong button, they’ll disconnect you in a heartbeat…

Never reject anybody in your life, because good people give us happiness & bad people give us experience. Both are essential in life.

He is soft spoken, she is a chatterbox. He loves a love story, and she likes to laugh. He whispered, “Will you marry me?” and she said “YES”. (Seen on a wedding invitation I sorted at work).

Relationships aren’t perfect. Perfection is when you and I can go through anything and still stand strong together. Wiser. and more in love than imaginable.

 Everybody says love hurts but that’s not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Loss hurts. Love is the one thing that makes everything better again.

Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.” -Bob Marley

“A man reserves his true and deepest love not for the species of woman in whose company he finds himself electrified and enkindled, but for that one in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy.” George Jean Nathan /Thomas Moore

Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots.”Hoosier Farmer

We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”

You are not to shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find and keep. The quickest way to find love is to give love. If you want it too badly, you will not find it. The most secure way to keep love is to give it space and care to grow. If you hold it too tightly, you will lose it.

I’d rather you tell me the truth and risk hurting me than decide that I’m not worth the truth and you end up lying to me…The truth hurts but a lie hurts more.

A gentle thought when one opens the mind and accepts what could be.
The senses reach they touch the sky, to please a heart in need
If the words that are spoken with out passion then hurt will surely be
The feelings lost the senses hurt the tortured heart will bleed
Words can make the body tremble stimulate a mind and soul.
If words are stated as in passion, love, gentleness to caress the mind.
lf words spoken harsh in a way to hurt, demean, criticize, humiliate so cruel.
The mind retains a simple word, a bad memory to hide for the heart to find.

Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so you can be all that you were intended to be. — Samuel Johnson, English Author

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
-Maya Angelou (1928 – )

Marriage is like a deck of cards, in the beginning all you need is 2 hearts and a diamond, 10 years later you’ll want a club and a spade!!! 😉

Just because you don’t see me cry you think I am strong, but strength comes only after the tears fall…

Friendship isn’t about   who you have known the longest   It’s about those who came and   never left your side …. 

Faith makes all things possible. Love makes all things easy. Hope makes all things work.” ♥

Never let your heart take you where your gut tells you not to go………..

Intelligence is the sexiest trait one can possess. If you can mentally turn someone on…the body will naturally follow.

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WITHHOLDING: BY MADISYN TAYLOR Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and this causes pain to the people subjected to it.
The most common form of withholding is what we commonly call “the silent treatment,” but withholding encompasses any unwillingness to express your true feelings. It also includes an unwillingness to give support, praise, or positive attention to the people you love. We have all known someone who is impossible to please, and many of us have suddenly found ourselves at the other end of a chilly silence with no explanation. At the same time, many of us will recognize our own tendency to withhold our emotions rather than express them. Most of us have seen both sides of the withholding dilemma. Emotional pain is at the root of our tendency to withhold, and withholding causes pain to the people subjected to it. It is a dysfunctional pattern that creates a breakdown in communication and understanding.
No one deserves to be subjected to withholding. Feeling ignored, disrespected, or shut out, and to not know why, is a terrible feeling. The first thing to remember if this is happening to you is that you are not to blame. You are caught in someone else’s pain pattern. This person does not know how to express feelings in a healthy way probably because this is what they learned when she or he was a child. The second helpful thing to remember is that the withholder is acting out of pain. They are stuck in a habitual mode of response that is self-defeating and alienating to the people they love. Remembering this will help you feel compassion for the person hurting you. However, if you have suffered too long with this pattern, you may need to get some space. Take some time to look at your own patterns and understand why you have taken part in this drama. If you are dealing with people in a family situation, you can step up to the plate to help break the chain of this behavior pattern.
If, on the other hand, it is you that tends to withhold, understand that this is a learned response and it can be unlearned. Find safe places to begin to express all that you’ve been holding back. Begin to make an effort to say what you’re feeling and thinking. Give praise to someone you love. The more you do this, the healthier you and your relationships will become. What was learned over a course of a life cannot be changed overnight–remember, one day at a time.
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When I was a kid, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work. On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned biscuits in front of my dad. I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his Biscuit, smile at my mom and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the biscuits. And I’ll never forget what he said: “Honey, I love burned biscuits.” Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if he really liked his biscuits burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, “Your momma put in a long hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides… a burnt biscuit never hurt anyone!” You know, life is full of imperfect things… and imperfect people. I’m not the best at hardly anything, and I forget birthdays and anniversaries just like everyone else. What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each others faults and choosing to celebrate each others differences, is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship. So…please pass me a biscuit. And yes, the burned one will do just fine!! Life is too short to wake up with regrets… Love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t. ENJOY LIFE NOW – IT HAS AN EXPIRATION DATE….


Love is: Intimacy (not sex); hard work; pleasure; commitment; caring; honesty; responsibility; recognizing differences; friendship; sharing; strong feelings; closeness; communication; vulnerability; compromising; openness, respect; and trust.

Love is NOT: Jealousy; possessiveness; pain; violence; obsession; expecting all your needs to be met; being selfish; cruelty; getting pregnant; making someone pregnant; dependency; giving up yourself; intimidation; proving yourself; manipulation; scoring; sex.

Just my opinion:

The ultimate lessons in life are to learn to love, and to learn to be loved. When it comes to relationships with the opposite sex, it’s friendship on a whole different level. These days with the promiscuity of sex, it is possible to have meaningless, loveless ‘relationships’ based only on sex and lust. Some people even have relationships based on circumstances and loneliness rather than wanting to be there. Some people think “there’s lots of fish in the sea”, or “the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence”. This is illusional thinking.

Sometimes in life we are lucky enough to meet someone that sends our whole world spinning. There is not only an attraction and spark, but also shared experiences–moments and memories that make being with that person special. It feels exhilarating, safe, and peaceful all at the same time. You look forward to talking to and being with that special person and this can make or break your whole day. Interaction with that special someone can stir up indescribable feelings inside that make you want to give anything to make that person happy, and to say and do anything that will express these feelings.

There are three powerful little words in the English language that sum up all these feelings. So powerful are these three little words that they should be reserved only for someone really special, and only when feelings come from the heart. The words: I love you.

‘Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’ 1 Cor. 13:4-7

Of all the great literary works in this world, this is the best description of unconditional love. In these days of so much lies and deceit, if you are ever fortunate enough to find this kind of unselfish, unconditional love; love that is not based on what a person has, or hasn’t got, whether it be a trait or something material, then you have found God’s most precious gift to man, and it should be cherished!