Ho’oponopono in Four Simple Steps
Ho’oponopono
The Hawaiian word ho’oponopono roughly translates into English as ‘to make things right’. This ancient Hawaiian practice is a process of making things right in your relationships, including with ancestors, the earth and yourself.
Ho’oponopono, a legendary Hawaiian healing and cleansing method, focuses on healing through loving oneself.
Ho’oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian spiritual practice that involves learning to heal all things by accepting “Total Responsibility” for everything that surrounds us – confession, repentance, and reconciliation.
I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
There is a Hawaiian psychotherapist who cured an entire ward of criminally insane patients, without ever meeting any of them or spending any time with them. Sound crazy? It really happened! The therapist was Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len and instead of the typical process of reviewing each patients’ files, and then meeting with them in person, Dr Len focused on healing them by healing himself.
Sound like a miracle? It was, but one performed with conscious effort using the right tools. Dr Len used Ho’oponopono, what he calls Self IDentity Through Ho’oponopono (SITH).
The results are nothing short of miraculous. Maybe you need a miracle, or just a way to become more effective as a healing practitioner or a good citizen of the human race?
You might be thinking; how can this possibly work? What does healing yourself have to do with healing anyone? The idea of creating your own reality, take on a whole new level of responsibility with Ho’oponopono. If you do subscribe to the belief that you do create your own reality then it is no secret that there is no such thing as “out there” – everything happening to you right now in every moment is happening in your own mind. Everything you see, everything you hear, every person you meet, is not “out there” it is happening in our own mind and shaded with all of our perceptions, fears, beliefs about that experience.
Unfortunately, because of how the mind is designed, we want to think what is happening is outside of us. This takes away any responsibility for what is happening. In reality, it’s quite the opposite: we are responsible for everything we think, and everything that comes to our attention. If we watch the news, everything we hear is actually our responsibility. That might be a little difficult to accept at first, but the good news is that we are now able to clear it, clean it, and through forgiveness change what is happening in our reality.
The good news is that you can do this process yourself, without anyone to help you. All you have to do is “say” the words in your head. The power is in the feeling and in the natural order of how our “universe” is designed.
Let’s face it, our lives unfold base on how we think. The good news is that if we think the right thoughts then life unfolds accordingly. The bad news is that if we think the wrong thoughts then life unfolds accordingly. Controlling our thoughts is one of the most difficult things we can do, because the mind, left to its own devices is like a drunken monkey sometimes, randomly jumping from one thought to the next. One thought makes us happy; another makes us sad; another thought starts us worrying about something that only “might happen”. It is pretty crazy sometimes. Do you know what your next thought is going to be? Not usually, it just shows up.
The good news is that whenever you are having difficult thoughts that are non-productive and stressing you out, it is time to take control of your thoughts and focus on happier thoughts. The practice of Ho’oponopono will do just that and the good news is that you can do it in just four easy steps.
Step 1: Repentance – JUST SAY: I’M SORRY
The first step is to realize that you are responsible for everything in your mind, even if it seems to be “outside” of you. Once you accept that, it’s very natural to feel sorry. When I read about all the heartache and destruction in the world and take responsible for becoming aware of that reality in my consciousness, I am very sorry. This realization can be difficult to accept, and our ego will definitely resist this level of responsibility, but once you start to practice this method and see results it is nothing short of miraculous. A great exercise is to choose something that you already know you’ve caused for yourself? Over-weight? Addicted to nicotine, alcohol or some other substance? Do you have anger or self esteem issues? Health problems? Start there and say you’re sorry. Just say I’M SORRY. That’s it! It is even more powerful to say it more clearly: “I realize that I am responsible for this (issue) in my life and I feel remorse that my consciousness has allowed this.”
Step 2: Ask Forgiveness – SAY: PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Don’t worry about who you’re asking. Just ask! PLEASE FORGIVE ME. Say it over and over. Mean it. Remember your remorse from step 1 as you ask to be forgiven.
Step 3: Gratitude – SAY: THANK YOU
Say “THANK YOU” – again it doesn’t really matter who or what you’re thanking. Thank your body for all it does for you. Thank yourself for being the best you can be. Thank God. Thank the Universe. Thank whatever it was that just forgave you. Just keep saying THANK YOU.
Step 4: Love – SAY: I LOVE YOU
This can also be step 1. Say I LOVE YOU. Say it to your body, say it to God, say it to the universe. Say I LOVE YOU to the air you breathe, to the house that shelters you. Say I LOVE YOU to your challenges. Say it over and over. Just say I LOVE YOU and mean it. There is nothing as powerful as Love.
That’s it. The whole practice in a nutshell. Simple and amazingly effective.
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And another explanation:
HO’OPONOPONO
I APOLOGIZE
I perceive that I was suffering, and that connects me with my feelings. I oppose the problem from not but recognize my learning task. I or my ancestors (am connected through you energetically, genetically and by tradition and history) have caused suffering. I am now free of that debt through the power of the spoken word.
I LOVE YOU
I love you, and I love myself. I see and respect the divine in you. I love and accept the situation as it is. I love the problem that has come to me to me to open my eyes. I love me and you unconditionally with all our weaknesses and faults.
PLEASE FORGIVE ME
Please forgive me that I or my ancestors have disturbed you consciously or unconsciously of our development. Please forgive me that I have acted against the divine laws of harmony and love. Please forgive me that I judged you (or the situation) and yet disregarded our spiritual identity and solidarity in the past.
THANK YOU
Thank you, because I understand that the miracle is already underway. I thank God and the angels for the transformation of my request. Thank you, because what I received and what will happen is what I deserve by the law of cause and effect. Thank you, because through the power of forgiveness I am now free from the energetic bondage of the past. Thank you, that I am allowed to recognize, and associated with the source of all being.
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Of course, we need a Court of Atonement to go with this as well:
Amy Jo Ellis:
I place myself, ___________, in a full court of atonement with all levels of my consciousness, God and my Guides, for the purpose of being willing to feel safe. I ask to bring my guides into alignment with being willing for me to feel safe. I ask to feel safe about feeling safe!
Some people think that fear keeps them safe, but it is quite the opposite! Fear attracts things to be fearful of and actually endangers you. We can have so much fear running that we will not feel the danger until it is eminent. I will sometimes lay in bed just saying to myself. “I am safe, I am safe, I am safe.” This really works and I highly recommend it.
The suggestion of Ho’oponopono is awesome, but I add another line to it when I use it:
“Even though there is a part of me that is unwilling to forgive you, I am sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you.”
Use that statement over and over and over as you are working throughout the day or laying in bed at night. It’s like peeling layers off of an onion.
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Two sides to Forgiveness:
Someone else: When you forgive, you also release others from the energetic attachment that you are creating when you hold them in your thoughts and focus.
You: To forgive, you don’t need to communicate it to another person. It is a self resolution.
Forgiveness really happens toward yourself, not toward someone else.
Forgiving is releasing a frequency of hatred that really only affects you.
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Many quotes on forgiveness show that the only path to peace is through forgiveness of self and others.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
– Mark Twain
“Forgiveness is a reflection of loving yourself enough to move on.”
– Dr. Steve Maraboli
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.”
– Nelson Mandela
“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
– Bruce Lee
“When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future.”
– Bernard Meltzer
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”Xavier student in graduation garb hugging a parent
– Mahatma Gandhi
“To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace and happiness.”
– Robert Muller
“Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
– Luke 6:37
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, heartfelt compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another, if one has a grievance against another; as the Lord has forgiven you, so must you also do.”
– Colossians 3:13
“It’s toughest to forgive ourselves. So it’s probably best to start with other people. It’s almost like peeling an onion. Layer by layer, forgiving others, you really do get to the point where you can forgive yourself.”
– Patty Duke
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel. Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve the link and get free.”
– Catherine Ponder
“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.”
– William A. Ward
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.
“Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness.”
– H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you.”
– Tyler Perry
“Anger begets more anger, and forgiveness and love lead to more forgiveness and love.”
– Mahavira
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
– Lewis B. Smedes
“There is nobility in compassion, a beauty in empathy, a grace in forgiveness.”
– John Connolly
“If we really want to love we must learn how to forgive.”
– Mother Theresa
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Victoria Reynolds December 20, 2012
Forgiveness is not about forgetting or denying the experience. It is simply seeing the experience with new eyes. Many cling to the misunderstanding of “the sins of the parents upon the children.” In its original meaning, sin simply means “to miss the mark.” I have come to a place in my life where I understand the man-made concepts of sin, hell and heaven were conceived as a means of controlling humanity and holding us in fear. It was a necessary part of our evolution which we are now outgrowing. The mistakes of the parents are reflected in their children for generations until someone finally stands up and breaks the cycle, until one family member finally decides that enough is enough and it all stops here. I sincerely hope that many will find the courage within themselves to no longer accept their parent’s fears and irrational beliefs as their own. I have personally witnessed the radical miracle of forgiveness spread like wildfire through families and heal generations of pain and trauma.
This ancient wisdom reimagined for the modern day is changing lives all around the world, even with its “funny” name…
Known as Ho’oponopono, this practice from Hawaiian culture helps unblock the obstacles and barriers that stop us reaching our goals.
People today are using this method to…
~ Boost their mental power and concentration
~ Keep calm and centered in the face of challenge or crisis
~ Find the spirit and energy to touch their dreams
But what is it exactly?
Ho’oponopono stretches back to traditional times in Hawaii and the Pacific.
The rituals practiced by communities on the islands hid not just the wisdom but the effectiveness of this practice.
It wasn’t until the 1980s when Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len dived into the study of Ho’oponopono that he discovered the incredible power behind the techniques.
Ho’oponopono revolves around 3 key principles:
Taking Responsibility – for our thoughts, beliefs, and actions
Forgiveness – not just from others, but from ourselves
Reconciliation and Restoring Harmony – in our relationships, communities, and world
While each principle sounds simple, this method combines them in a unique way…
So those who use Ho’oponopono can find balance, boost their mind, and clear a path to the success they deserve.
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This article is an intuitive perspective about shadow work and returning to wholeness through forgiveness and gratitude in thanking others for the experiences rather than being in judgement.
“If we cannot forgive, it’s being asked that we try gratitude. “Thank you for having and living that experience, so that the whole can learn.”
The more we can walk in another’s shoes and learn from their experiences, the faster we will move through this ascension and evolutionary growth”.
https://www.jennyschiltz.com/waydownwego/
An extensive article and explanation for world issues: https://unlimitedpotentialhealingcenter.com/2022/08/29/ho0ponopono-for-world-issues/