The following tidbits of wisdom are things I seem to repeat
to family friends and clients
because they were pivotal and instrumental to my own personal growth.
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“Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on your job. If you work hard on your job you’ll make a living, if you work hard on yourself you can make a life.” — Jim Rohn
Surround yourself with the right people. No compromises because energy is contagious “If you are driven by fear, anger or pride nature will force you to compete. If you are guided by courage, awareness, tranquility and peace nature will serve you.” -Amit Ray, Nonviolence: The Transforming Power
What is an excuse? An excuse is a way to step in front of yourself to prevent forward momentum. The next time you find yourself thinking of an excuse ask yourself the real reason why
“As you begin to let go of your old patterns, it may appear that things in your life are falling apart. You may find that you have to let go of certain things you’ve been attached to. Some relationships in your life may dissolve or simply “fizzle out” from lack of energy. Old pastimes may no longer interest you. You may even lose your job or decide to leave it. Of course, these changes can be upsetting and frightening. Over time, however, you will find that this is all part of the transformation you are going through. As you learn to be true to yourself, you will find that you attract people, work, and other circumstances that reflect your evolution and development.” Shakti Gawain
“PPS (Perpetual Positivity Syndrome) is one of the most common obstructions to awakening on the spiritual path. Defined as ‘the addictive need to default to positivity under any and all circumstances’, it prevents a maturation in the deep within because sufferers refuse to be present for all that is. Symptoms include a constant need to find the light in every situation, a tendency to forget or ‘rise above’ the negative aspects of their partners, an inability to fully support and hold the space for other’s suffering, and a turning away from the growth work demanded by life’s challenges. Instead of forging a grounded, discerning positivity in the heart of all that is, they jump to the light, while averting the shadows that inform it. They re-actively bliss-trip, when lessons are waiting in the wings to be learned. Those who suffer with PPS are often of the illusory view that they had perfect childhoods or that they have moved beyond the shadow, but they are sadly mistaken. If anything, their obsessive clinging to the ‘positive’ is rooted in their unresolved emotional material: pain and anger that will only come back to haunt them. At the end of the day (when the darkness settles in…), there can be no light without shadow. And no substitute for hard-earned transformation.” ~ J. Kay Brown Lynn
Freedom is what you do with what happened to you.
Be impeccable with your words. Don’t take anything personally. Don’t make assumptions. Always do your best. Four agreements.
God, grant me the serenity and courage to accept the things I cannot change, grant me the power and wisdom to change the things I cannot accept. Dr Richard Bartlett
People who offer you conflict may be offering you the opportunity for growth. Seek these people out. These are the people who can show you that you can do it for yourself. You can be a big circle. Kaleel Jamieson
We need to give each other the space to grow, to be ourselves, to exercise diversity. We need to give each other space so that we may both give and receive such beautiful things as ideas, openness, dignity, joy, healing, and inclusion. Max de Pree
Sad but true: if another person is on a different ‘frequency’, like radio channels, anything you say, whether wise or sweet or encouraging, will only fall on deaf ears. So goes our individual lessons and journeys in life…
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can also hurt me. Sticks and stones break only skin while words are ghosts that haunt me. Pain from words has left scars on mind and heart that’s tender. Cuts and bruises have now healed, it’s words that I remember.
A person’s insecurities and self esteem are weighed by how much they consume themselves with other people’s business.
When “I” is replaced by “We”, even “Illness” turns into “Wellness”.
If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of Energy, Frequency, and Vibration. Nikola Tesla
Your health is an investment not an expense. Although it will become an expense if you don’t take time to invest in it.
P.O.O.R. Passing Over Opportunities Routinely.
It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are without any self deception or illusion that a light will develop out of events by which the path of success may be recognized. I Ching
Love is supported by two things: your total surrender into it and your complete autonomy out of it.
EGO: Edging God Out
What ties all sorts of regret together is the fact that no matter how much we try, how hard we work what’s done is done and cannot be reversed. Sometimes you let go of a good thing only to realize too late what it could’ve meant in your life and sometimes you’re too late in preventing something that shouldn’t have gone on for that long anyway.
“Complaining is one of the ego’s favorite strategies for strengthening itself. Every complaint is a little story the mind makes up that you completely believe in. Whether you complain aloud or only in thought makes no difference. Resentment is the emotion that goes with complaining and the mental labeling of people and adds even more energy to the ego. Resentment means to feel bitter, indignant, aggrieved, or offended. You resent other people’s greed, their dishonesty, their lack of integrity, what they are doing, what they did in the past, what they said, what they failed to do, what they should or shouldn’t have done. The ego loves it. Instead of overlooking unconsciousness in others, you make it into their identity. Who is doing that? The unconsciousness in you, the ego. Sometimes the “fault” that you perceive in another isn’t even there. It is a total misinterpretation, a projection by a mind conditioned to see enemies and to make itself right or superior. At other times, the fault may be there, but by focusing on it, sometimes to the exclusion of everything else, you amplify it. And what you react to in another, you strengthen in yourself.” Eckhart Tolle
“It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” —DAVID STEINDL-RAST
If you only love yourself 10%, another person can only love you 10%. Love yourself 100%!!!
“Meaning doesn’t lie in things. Meaning lies in us. When we attach value to things that aren’t love- the money, the car, the house, the prestige, we are loving things that can’t love us back. We are searching for meaning in meaningless. Money, if itself, means nothing. Material things, of themselves, mean nothing. It’s not that they’re bad. It’s just that they’re nothing.” – Marianne Williamson, A Return To LOVE
Embrace your desire for separateness as much as your passion for togetherness.
When hell unleashes its wrath, we learn survival skills in the most unpredictable ways. Strong body is one thing but strong mind is needed to get thru life’s challenges. Never let anything break your spirit. Sometimes faith is the only reliable source of strength when the world around us is in chaos.
“Freedom is what you do with what’s been done to you.”.–Jean-Paul Sartre
You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop and look fear in the face. you are able to say to yourself, “I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along”. You must do the thing that you think you cannot do”. Eleanor Roosevelt.
Abracadabra: I create what I think.
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine. Ralph Waldo Emerson
It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable with yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others. – Sidney J. Harris
“Awakened Doing” : if you are not in the state of either acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm, look closely and you will find that you are creating suffering for yourself and others. – Eckhart Tolle
All change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and Gorgeous at the end!
All great changes are preceded by chaos.
Sad but true: if another person is on a different ‘frequency’, like radio channels, anything you say, whether wise or sweet or encouraging, will only fall on deaf ears So goes our individual lessons and journeys in life…Basically people will only see and hear their own level of perception.
Hurt people hurt people.
The difference between superficial and true aligned integrity: By three methods we may learn wisdom: First by reflection, which is noblest; Second by imitation which is easiest; and third by experience which is bitterest. Confucius
Stay away from STILL people: Still broke, still complaining, still borrowing, still hating, still childish, still insecure, still stupid, still not making a change in their lives.
No matter what happens or how devastating it is, it ALWAYS serves a Divine Purpose. If you look for it you will always find it.
Your greatest adversary is also your greatest teacher. Like it or not, it is the job of certain people to bring out the worst in you. What they trigger is already in you, They are here to reveal the sore, tender, wounded places in your heart and mind, and they are providing you with a wonderful and divine opportunity for healing. Iyanla Vanzant
The eyes only see what the mind is prepared to comprehend.
Magic truly happens when you are outside of your comfort zone. There are three C’s in life: Choices, chances and changes. You must make a choice, to take a chance, or your life will never change.
In the world of the successful entrepreneur, there is no such thing as standing still.
If you have done well, it is your duty to send the elevator back down. Kevin Spacey
Even the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the wisdom our soul came into this life to learn.
The word ‘integrity’ comes from the Latin integer, meaning whole or complete. So fractured people are out of integrity with themselves. I don’t mean that they’re immoral or unethical, but rather that they simply can’t gain the power they need, because of their misalignment. The more fractured you are, or the less whole and complete you are, the less power you have. Kris Krohn, Conscious Creator
All flowers grow through dirt.
Life is an illusion created by our perception of events and stories we create around them. Colin Sprake
It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” ~ Leonardo da Vinci
Everything that you need will come to you, exactly when it’s supposed to, in exactly the right way.
Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.
A wise man never knows all, only fools know everything.
Fear does not stop death. It stops life.
The older you get, the more quiet you become. Life humbles you so deeply as you age. You realize how much nonsense you’ve wasted time on.
Today I will live in the moment. Unless the moment is unpleasant, in which case I will eat a cookie.
Don’t talk, just act. Don’t say, just show. Don’t promise, just prove.
Weak people spread rumors. Stupid people believe them.
Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind — even if your voice shakes! Maggie Kahn
If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished? Rumi
When you start looking at people’s hearts instead of their faces, life becomes clear.
Pay close attention to whom your energy increases and decreases around. That is the universe giving you a big hint on who you should stay away from and who you should keep in your life. Trust your instincts. Energy never lies.
The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new. Socrates
Sometimes one creates a dynamic impression by saying something, and sometimes one creates as significant an impression by remaining silent. Dalai Lama
It is wise to pay attention to the coincidences, the synchronicities, and the deja vu experiences in your life. These are not random events. They are where our spiritual plan, set up before we are born, and the actual path we are traveling in this lifetime converge. Dr. Brian Weiss
We cannot choose our external circumstances, but we can always choose how we respond to them. Epictetus.
Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.
“Those of us who study the laws of attraction and abundance, energy work, etc. often come to believe there is a reason behind EVERYTHING that’s happening amiss in our lives. We become convinced that if things aren’t going our way, if angels aren’t running to keep us from stubbing our toe on every rock, that we must be doing something wrong. The fact is, we’re living in a fallen world. Bad things happen to good people; and I think we need to stop over-analyzing everything. You’re doing your best, keep going, have faith that things will work out. God’s got a happy ending in store for you, and every hero by definition must face some opposition to be a hero.” – Marnie Pehrson.
What can you do to promote world peace? Go home and love your family. Mother Teresa
God often uses our deepest pain as the launching pad of our greatest calling.
Everything is energy. Your thought begins it, your emotion amplifies it, and your action increases the momentum. Jeffrey Miller
Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing. Eckhart Tolle
As you think, you feel. As you feel, you radiate. As you radiate, you CREATE. Abraham Hicks
If you cannot find a leader that inspires you, be the leader you wish you had. Simon Sinek
When it feels like He isn’t doing anything, that’s probably when he’s doing the most.
Underestimate me. That’ll be fun.
How many souls have failed to soar because they were suffocated in a loved one’s worry?
A good boss makes his men realize they have more ability than they think they have so that they consistently do better work than they thought they could. Charles Wilson
Success is about passion, guided by priorities.
Make sure your servant towel is bigger than your ego.
Ego is the anesthesia that deadens the pain of stupidity
I’m not going to teach you or tell you how to live your life, I’m going to guide you to have the courage to live the life you want to live
Let your mess become your message.
Pride is the burden of a foolish person.
Excitement comes from achievement. Fulfillment comes from the journey that got us there. Simon Sinek
A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in a crowd.
Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one who finds the gold. Proverbs 11:27
Hiding parts of yourself to avoid rejection is a paradox. When you do it, you reject yourself.
Out of the lowest lows, often comes the highest highs.
Let your hands be so busy catching blessings that you don’t have the capacity to hold on to grudges.
Addiction is a family disease. One person may use but the whole family suffers.
Good judgement comes from experience. And experience? Well that comes from poor judgement.
The dark does not destroy the light, it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows. Brene Brown
The only difference between you and someone you envy is that you settled for less. Dr. Phil
It’s good to learn from your mistakes. It’s better to learn from other people’s mistakes. Warren Buffet
If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and model what they do and you’ll achieve the same results.
What you hold on to, holds on to you.
Sometimes your circle decreases in size but increases in value.
Earthing: The process of absorbing free flowing electrons from the earth surface through the soles of one’s feet.
I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavour. Henry David Thoreau
Alchemy happens when there is no attachment or expectation. Charan Surdhar
Don’t say something permanently hurtful because you’re temporarily upset.
Everything has a voice. Listen with the soft ears of your inner spirit.
LeAnn Bond Larson: “What a huge epiphany I had last night! I figured out why many LDS shun natural and energy healing! — It’s from a lack of faith. In our culture, (not the gospel) many of us believe that there are only two ways to get healed when our natural immune systems fail us. We believe that you heal from the doctor’s medicine/surgery, or from a Priesthood blessing, PERIOD. Anything outside of that is just too weird.
The problem is that God is not confined to those boundaries.
When Christ was healing, he was having people do all kinds of nonsensical things to have them exercise or prove their faith. He was making them go outside their own belief systems. The ultimate physician was also the ultimate rule breaker for the leaders of their time and culture.
The same is happening here.
Our culture, often does not allow for going outside it’s boundaries. Cultural boundaries are what keeps us boxed in, sick and tired and not getting better. It’s because we tell God, “Here are the parameters in which I am willing to be healed.” and God says, “Huh, I had another idea. Let me know when you are willing to learn what I have to teach you.” and so we stay sick. Sometimes all our lives. All of us know someone who is suffering constantly and unwilling to step our of cultural norms and really listen to the pure inspiration of God, I am certainly part of that crowd at times. I have to face my own unbelief here. I do the research, find the solution and then wonder if I really have to do what is taught me. Do I want to heal and be free of my pain and do something weird or do I want to fit in and not risk anything? It’s really a question of faith isn’t it.
This is my declaration, that my cultural chains are OFF!
Man, that felt good to say!”
“…Trauma is the result of our nervous systems being overwhelmed by experiences that we are unable to tolerate and process. This can be the result of a single life-threatening event, or of repeated stressors accumulating over time. Trauma is particularly devastating if we’re young and vulnerable, so early traumatic experiences tend to have deep impacts that, as adults, we may be completely unconscious of. Mindfulness meditation can reopen these old wounds, and without appropriate support, anyone can get lost in these deeply painful experiences…” The concept of success, competition and striving for money are not naturally harmonious balanced concepts of life. Money was installed as a system of indebtedness and control, a prison for the commoners without bars.
Success and competition are also “I’m better than you” concepts which is not a loving basis, because when you come from those places in your heart the need for winning, to be top dog, top earner, a leader in your field, being looked up to and admired just melt away like snow in the warmth of the sun.
So much of this “get rich quick”, be successful and live the life you have always dreamed is complete BS to mislead those who are more gullible and haven’t learned to connect fully with their Soul and Source. Once that lesson has been learned you can move on to true wealth which comes from the beauty of being human on a beautiful planet in a spirit of community and contribution. If trauma resurfaces during a meditation, a retreat or some energy work make sure you do not let this unaddressed. That’s where my work with RTT and Therapeutic Hypnosis will support you in releasing the blocks and seal the positive changes in your life. Letting it come out is not enough to heal. You need to understand the source and the impact the trauma had in your life to move on in a positive and healthy way. Www.nathalieristord.com
Where would you be, what would you be doing now if Fear wasn’t an option?
FEAR: Fuck Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Recover. Your choice.
I am.. two of the most powerful words; for what you put after them shapes your reality.
“Even God can’t please everybody. Only a fool would try to do what even God can’t do.” Have you realized that there are some people you can’t please? No matter what you do or what you try or how nice you are to them. You just can’t please everybody. But the Bible tells says you don’t need to please everybody. “It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you.” (Proverbs 29:25 LB) It’s an emotional trap when you start worrying about what other people think. We buy things we don’t need with money we don’t have to impress people we don’t even like — all because we think we must be liked by everyone in order to be happy. That’s foolish!
If An Egg Breaks Due 2 OUTSIDE Force! “Inside Life ENDs!” But… If it Breaks from inside! “Life Begins!” “GREAT Things Always Begin from Inside! So try to make your inside GOOD!
When you basically love and accept yourself, you don’t need the approval or acceptance of someone else, though it always feels good to have. You feel comfortable being by yourself, However, when you are uncomfortable with and unaccepting of yourself, it is difficult to believe that others can really love you. Feeling flawed, you either distance yourself from others or do whatever you can to create a connection. If you choose the latter, you often hide your real self and present what you think others want. Sometimes your ability to see the other person clearly also suffers; you overlook flaws and inflate positive traits. And, you do it all for the reward of feeling loved. Needless to say, this does not bode well for making an honest connection and building a healthy relationship of any sort.
“Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?” ― Ian Wallace
Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.” ― Steve Maraboli
The Mirror of Relationships The essential nature of the universe is the coexistence of opposites. You cannot be virtuous if you do not have the capacity for evil. You cannot be wise if you do not have an inner fool. And you cannot be generous if you do not have a stingy person inside you. In fact, the most enlightened people are those who accept their own ambiguity and full potential for light and dark. As the Vedic seers observed, “The measure of your enlightenment is your level of comfort with your own paradoxes.” Everyone we see in the world is a reflection of ourselves, and the traits we see most clearly in others are the ones that are strongest in ourselves. This is called the mirror of relationship and it is a powerful tool for emotional freedom. When we have a strong negative reaction to someone, we can be certain that they’re reflecting traits that we also possess but have been unwilling to embrace. We spend so much time denying that we have a dark side, and then end up projecting these denied qualities onto other people. For the same reason, we are attracted to certain people because they have the same traits that we have, only more so.
“97% of people work a J.O.B = Just Over Broke. All of them want an M.B.A. = (Massive Bank Account), They are clueless on how to create wealth and be R.I.C.H. = (Residual Income Creates Happiness), Continuously surrounding themselves with H.A.T.E.R.S = (Having Anger Towards Everyone Reaching Success), and then wonder …why they are P.O.O.R = (Passing Over Opportunities Repeatedly”
“One of the most loving things you can do for another person is let them make their own mistakes, learn their own lessons and endure in the contrast of a life they don’t really want. People only really change when they’ve hit rock bottom – sometimes the most loving thing you can do for a person is to let them and be there to help pick up the pieces. Permanent change comes from within, no one can give it to you.” – Jackson Kiddard
It is a risk to share your heart, but it is a greater risk to withhold it. Those that are appropriate will receive and behold it
Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit. – Peter Ustinov
Let me not pray to be sheltered from danger, but to be fearless in facing them. Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain, but for the heart to conquer it. (Thanks Rachelle)
Parts A, B, C, and D of Adam Yauch’s autobiography will be released online for free. However, you have to fight for your right to Part E.
Being offended is a weakness of the ego.
People destroy what they don’t understand.
Kandinsky concerning the spiritual in art: Color directly influences the soul, color is the keyboard, the eyes are the hammers, the soul is the piano with many strings. The artist is the hand that plays, touching one key or another purposively to cause vibrations in the soul.
“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” — T.S. Eliot
Relationships never end, because they’re of the mind; only bodies can separate. When you’re missing someone, know it just means that on a soul level they’ve come to visit.
Life is about who you love and who you hurt. It’s about how you feel about yours…elf. It’s about trust, happiness and compassion. It’s about sticking up for your friends and replacing inner hate with love. Life is about avoiding jealousy, overcoming ignorance, and building confidence. It’s about what you say and what you mean. It’s about seeing people for who they are and not what they have. Most of all, it is about choosing to use your life to touch someone else’s in a way that could never have been achieved otherwise. These choices are what life’s about. ~Adam Fendelman
If there is one thing that the hardships in life teach us, it is that sometimes the most honorable thing you can do is to suck it up, show up and speak up. Avoidance is cowardly and gets you nowhere. Think about it…There are times in life when you may have felt between a rock and hard place and not sure what to do. When you get quiet and listen to your heart, you get the courage to face things that sometimes you think you want to hide from but that inner strength and facing up is what propels you into the best things in life that you couldn’t see before.
“A pearl is a beautiful thing that is produced by an injured life. It is the tear [that results] from the injury of the oyster. The treasure of our being in this world is also produced by an injured life. If we had not been wounded, if we had not been injured, then we will not produce the pearl.” -Stephan Hoeller
A man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it. He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened … with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom… it died. So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects and neglect to water the rose within us, and eventually it dies without realizing its potential. Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them. Help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the rose within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over…
Wayne Dyer: Unclutter your life. You’ll feel a real rush of inspiration when you clear out stuff that’s no longer useful in your life. If you haven’t worn it in the past year or two, recycle it for others to use. Get rid of old files that take up space and are seldom, if ever, needed. Donate unused toys, tools, books, bicycles, and dishes to a charitable organization. Get rid of anything that keeps you mired in acquisitions that contribute to a cluttered life. In the words of Socrates, “He is nearest to God who needs the fewest things.” So the less you need to insure, protect, dust, reorganize, and move, the closer you’ll be to hearing inspiration’s call.