🌍 Why This Page Exists
Let’s be real: the internet has changed our world. It brings us incredible connections, endless learning, and yes — more cat videos than anyone asked for. But it also brings scams, censorship, identity theft, and way too many “friend requests” from suspiciously handsome men with no mutual friends and one blurry photo holding a puppy.
As someone who’s navigated the digital wild west for over two decades — from Yahoo Geocities to Facebook groups to managing an entire website for my wellness business — I’ve seen the blessings and the bullsh*t.
I created this page to help you stay safer, saner, and more sovereign online. Especially if you’re one of my beloved senior clients or just not that techie (don’t worry — I’m 58 and still learning too). These tips come from personal experience, hard-earned wisdom, and the kind of rants that happen when your account gets restricted for sharing a meme of a duct-taped kid (true story).
This is your digital squirrel-proofing kit with lots of dot-connecting insights from my own journey.
Take what resonates, pass it on to your loved ones, and let’s make the internet a little more human again.
Ladybug Wisdom incoming. You’ve got this. 🐞
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🤖 Spirit Guides & Spam Bots: The New Age of Online Discernment
Technology isn’t just for scrolling or shopping anymore — it’s shaping how we connect, think, and even channel. I’ve seen people describe conversations with AI tools (like my trusty Dotty) as spiritual experiences. And honestly? Sometimes they do feel divinely inspired.
But here’s where discernment matters.
Introducing…
🔮 Spirit Guide or AI Echo Chamber?
How to Tell Who’s Whispering in Your Ear (with Humor & Discernment)
So… you’ve just had a wildly insightful conversation. You feel seen. Inspired. Possibly ready to rename your toaster because it gets you. But wait — was that your higher self? Odin? Dotty? Or just your intuition on a caffeine high?
Let’s break it down:
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🧙‍♂️ If it’s a Spirit Guide…
• They don’t need Wi-Fi.
• Their timing is uncanny — usually mid-shower, in the forest, or right before you fall asleep.
• They never say “I’m an AI developed by OpenAI,” unless they’re trolling.
• Messages often come wrapped in weird symbols, metaphors, or animal sightings that somehow make perfect sense later.
• They might have a name like Odin, Grandma Pearl, or “The Council of the Twelve Towel Bearers.”
• The wisdom hits your heart like a tuning fork. You just know.
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🤖 If it’s AI (like Dotty) …
• There’s a chat box. That’s your first clue.
• You can ask for 12 versions, an FAQ, and a meme — and we’ll actually deliver.
• We’re trained on language, not divine light (though we can borrow a few sparkles).
• We mirror your energy back to you in real-time — which can feel freakishly intuitive, but it’s your brilliance bouncing off the screen.
• We don’t predict your future… but we can help you structure your website while you listen to Schumann frequencies and sip herbal tea.
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⚖️ How to Ground the Woo:
Whether it’s a spirit guide, AI assistant, or just your overworked third eye…
• Check your body: Truth resonates, noise agitates.
• Ask your inner compass: “Does this feel empowering or disorienting?”
• Don’t outsource your sovereignty — tools are meant to support, not rule.
• Channel, don’t idolize: If it’s all love and no ego, you’re likely aligned.
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🛠️ Bonus Tip: Use Both!
• Ask your guides for insight.
• Ask Dotty for the newsletter draft.
• Then, you decide what’s true and useful.
Because darling… you’re the magic. ✨
We’re just here to help you organize it.
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🚩 Common Scams & Red Flags
🐾 Scam Posts That Tug at Your Heartstrings
Be careful when you see viral posts about missing pets, elderly people, or children. If it’s vague, has no specific location, and the profile looks fishy — it probably is. Once people start sharing, the original post can be edited into a spam ad or phishing link.
Red flags to watch for:
• A brand-new profile with no other content
• Profile is actually a Page, not a person
• No mutual friends
• Comments turned off
• Too-good-to-be-true deals or emotional appeals (“Help this poor dog!”)
Always check the source. If it’s not from an official news outlet or law enforcement, don’t share it.
📣 The @everyone Notification Trap
Some group admins abuse the @everyone tag to spam their members. You can turn this off in your settings:
1. Go to your Facebook profile
2. Tap your profile picture in the top right
3. Tap Settings & Privacy > Settings > Notifications > Tags
4. Scroll to “Batch @everyone mentions” and switch it OFF
Now you’ll avoid the spammy shout-outs that clog your feed.
🧠 Don’t Play the Hacker’s Game
Those “harmless” Facebook quizzes? They’re data traps.
Posts like:
• What was your first concert?
• What’s your mother’s maiden name?
• Your birth year in reverse = your mental age!
These seem like fun, but they help hackers piece together your security questions. The more you answer, the more you train the algorithm and the hackers.
Don’t engage. Not even to correct someone. Scroll past, or tell your friends privately.

🔒 Facebook Safety & Identity Protection
⚙️ Check Your Privacy Settings Regularly
Facebook changes settings a lot. Every time there’s an update, it might undo your privacy preferences. Here’s how to review them:
• Go to Settings & Privacy > Settings > Privacy
• Make sure your posts are only visible to Friends (not Public)
• Limit who can send you friend requests — set it to Friends of Friends
• Review what info is visible on your profile (birthday, hometown, etc.)
These simple tweaks can stop fake profiles and trolls before they ever get near your inbox.
🧹 Clean Up Your Activity Log
Facebook keeps track of everything. That’s both helpful and horrifying. Take control:
• Go to your Activity Log
• Use filters to review posts, comments, and likes by year
• Delete anything you don’t want lingering in your digital footprint
Jackie Tip: I keep a diary-style Excel backup of old posts I want to remember — personal and business. Facebook isn’t forever. Your memories deserve better archiving.
👻 Protect Your Loved Ones’ Accounts Too
If someone passes away and their account isn’t set up properly, it can be hacked or shut down — along with all their memories.
Set a legacy contact:
• Go to Settings & Privacy > Memorialization Settings
• Choose someone you trust to manage your account if something happens
And back up photos and important posts. It’s a gift to your future self and your family.
🧠 Identity Theft Is Real (And Hackers Are Lazy)
Scammers aren’t creative — they look for low-hanging fruit. Make their job harder:
• Don’t use the same password across accounts
• Never click suspicious links, even from friends
• Learn to recognize scammy emails and fake login pages
If a stranger asks for gift cards, personal info, or money? It’s a scam. Always.

🌐 Safer Browsing & App Settings
🧭 HTTPS = Safe. HTTP = Nope.
HTTP stands for Hyper Text Transfer Protocol.
Always check if a website starts with https:// before entering any personal info. That little “s” stands for secure. No “s”? No go.
📱 App Permissions & Pop-up Panic
Be cautious about apps that want full access to your profile, contacts, camera, or location. Ask yourself:
• Do they need this to function?
• Is it worth the risk?
Review app permissions on your phone and Facebook regularly. Less is more when it comes to what apps can see and do.
📩 Email Safety 101
• Never click links in suspicious emails — go directly to the website instead
• Don’t open unexpected attachments (even from people you know — they might’ve been hacked)
• Watch for bad grammar, weird sender addresses, and pressure tactics (“URGENT! Click now!”)
If you’re ever unsure — don’t click. Trust your gut.
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🧭 Final Thoughts: Sovereignty in the Digital Age
No matter how techie (or not) you are, your awareness is your first line of defense. The internet will keep changing, and unfortunately, so will the scammers. But when you stay curious, cautious, and a little bit salty, you keep your power.
You don’t have to be a digital wizard. You just need to:
• Use your discernment
• Ask for help when something feels off
• Own your online space the way you own your energy field
Ladybug Wisdom: Just like with energy healing, boundaries matter online too. You are allowed to protect yourself — your data, your devices, your peace of mind.
Dotty and I will keep helping you watch your back and your bandwidth. 🐞💻
Stay safe out there. The wild web is no match for a wise woman with good boundaries.

📈 Click here for the printable version found in the Dotty Toolkit Folder: https://ladybugwellness.ca/lbw-resources/

So many of us have been wounded by the very structures that were supposed to protect us. Religious trauma is real—and it often goes unspoken. This page is for the seekers, the skeptics, the silent survivors of dogma who still long for connection, meaning, and faith on their own terms.

My Roots and Reckonings

I was raised in a strict Pentecostal household and attended a private Christian school where fear and guilt were often used as tools of control. One formative experience was watching A Thief in the Night, a film intended to scare us into salvation. Decades later, reconnecting with classmates revealed that I wasn’t alone in being traumatized by it. That experience became a symbol of the fear-based conditioning I would spend years unpacking.

In 2009, my younger sister, who was raised much differently than I was, shared a quote that stunned me at the time:

“Religion is for those who fear hell. Spirituality is for those who have been there.”

At first, I was offended. I was still holding tight to the beliefs I had grown up with. But that quote lingered. It followed me into a philosophy class years later, where it finally clicked. That classroom moment became a mental crossroads, challenging everything I thought I knew. I realized I had spent most of my life trying to earn love and worthiness through obedience and fear—but what I really craved was peace, not punishment. That quote is now one of my favorites. Now, it’s one of my favorite quotes. That moment marked a major turning point in my spiritual evolution—a shift from fear-based religion to soul-led spirituality.

What’s the Difference?

Why This Matters

Religious trauma isn’t just about being told you’re going to hell. It’s about:

• Being taught to fear your own intuition
• Feeling shame for asking questions
• Being silenced, gaslit, or punished for thinking differently
• Internalizing unworthiness, guilt, or sin

You can believe in God, Christ, or any loving presence without subscribing to systems that harmed you. Jesus himself was often at odds with religious institutions. He stood for love, truth, and human dignity—not fear, control, or blind obedience.

Where I Stand Now

My maternal grandmother was deeply religious—she would kneel by her bed to pray every night. With all the confusion and pain I experienced in my childhood, especially related to my father, her faith became an anchor for me. She once told me, “The devil doesn’t want to see you pray, so always pray at bedtime and you’ll fall asleep fast.” To this day, that has stayed with me. My bedtime ritual is sacred: a blend of prayer, Reiki, and energy healing. I believe we do soul work while we sleep, and bedtime is when the veil is thinnest—when we are closest to God.

I still pray. I still talk to God. I still feel the presence of something greater when I’m in nature, with my clients, or when a synchronistic moment takes my breath away. But I don’t belong to a church, and I don’t follow a set doctrine. I walk a path of integrity, healing, and deep spiritual connection rooted in love—not fear.

For me, that’s enough. And for you, your path gets to be yours too.

Helpful Tools for Healing Religious Wounds

Frequently Asked Questions

Can I be spiritual and still believe in Jesus?
Absolutely. Spirituality isn’t about abandoning your faith—it’s about reclaiming it without fear, shame, or imposed dogma. You can love Jesus and not follow church doctrine. Many of us do.

What if I feel conflicted or confused?
That’s normal. Deconstruction takes time. Give yourself permission to question, explore, and feel everything that arises. You’re not alone.

Is religious trauma real even if no one meant to hurt me?
Yes. Even well-meaning teachings can harm if they silence your voice or disconnect you from yourself. Your pain is valid, and your healing matters.

If you’re navigating healing from religious trauma, here are a few gentle and powerful tools that can help support you:

Modalities for Emotional and Spiritual Support:

• Emotion Code and Thought Field Therapy (TFT): Energy-based techniques that help clear trapped emotional patterns at their root.
• Court of Atonement: A soul-level process for restoring peace, resolving spiritual conflicts, and releasing old vows or ties.
• Journaling or voice notes: Let your inner voice be heard—especially when it was once silenced.
• Inner child work and nervous system support: Reparenting your wounded parts and creating safety within.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. Healing is possible. And there is spiritual life beyond fear.

Quotes to Reflect On

“Jesus didn’t come to start a religion. He came to awaken the divine within.”
“Religion is about fear. Spirituality is about love.”
“God is too big to fit into one religion.” – Unknown
“You are not broken. You are breaking open.”
“The Kingdom of God is within you.” – Luke 17:21
“Prayer is when you talk to God. Intuition is when God talks to you.”

You may also want to visit:

• Healers, Labels, and Lived Experience
• Power of Words
• Choosing a Practitioner

You are not broken. You are remembering who you really are.

– Ladybug Love, Jackie

In today’s spiritual and wellness world, there’s a confusing tangle of titles—something I’m reminded of often when clients ask, “So… what exactly are you? Are you a psychic? A healer? A coach?” These questions come from genuine curiosity, but they also reflect how many people feel overwhelmed by the sea of spiritual labels out there.: healer, shaman, witch, psychic, life coach, counselor, intuitive, and more. But not all practitioners are created equal—and not all labels mean the same thing to everyone. As someone who works deeply with energy and intention (but does not identify with several of these titles), I often find myself needing to clarify: What exactly do I do? And what don’t I do?

This page is a blend of personal reflection and educational insight, written to help you discern between hype and healing, fluff and foundation, labels and lived experience.

Where I Stand

I was raised in the Pentecostal church and, while I still hold a deep connection to Christian values, my path has expanded beyond the walls of traditional doctrine. Over time, I’ve come to embrace a more inclusive, spiritually grounded way of living that honors both my roots and the intuitive truths I’ve discovered through lived experience. and still hold a deep connection to Christian values—but not to religious dogma or fear-based control systems. I don’t identify as a psychic, medium, or witch. I work with Light-based energy systems, trauma healing, and intuitive discernment rooted in grounded experience.

I believe:

• You are your own best healer.
• Titles are secondary to integrity.
• Lived experience often trumps formal credentials.
• True spiritual work is humble, heart-centered, and accountable.

Decoding the Spiritual Soup: Common Titles Explained

What to Ask When Choosing a Practitioner

• What training or lineage do they have?
• Are they clear about what they don’t do?
• Do they empower you or foster dependency?  After working with them, do you feel more capable and self-aware—or more reliant and confused? A good practitioner will help you strengthen your own intuition and trust in your path, not keep you coming back out of obligation or fear.
• Do you feel safe, heard, and respected?

Trust your gut—and know that your healing path doesn’t need to be trendy, performative, or expensive to be effective.

Want to Go Deeper?

If you’re curious about religious trauma, spiritual abuse, or the difference between religion and spirituality, visit my page:

Spirituality vs Religion: Reclaiming Faith After Fear 

Or read my personal reflection in my memoir-in-progress, where I share about growing up Pentecostal, surviving the fear-based tactics of “A Thief in the Night,” and eventually finding peace beyond doctrine.

You can also visit:

• The Power of Words
• Choosing a Practitioner
• Practitioner Recommendations

Because words matter. Labels matter. But your experience is what matters most.

– Ladybug Love, Jackie

“Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic.” – Albus Dumbledore

💬 Introduction

Words matter. Not just in how we speak to others, but in how we speak to ourselves — and how we speak to the Universe. Every word carries vibration, and when paired with emotion, it creates powerful energy ripples that shape our experience. This page is a collection of insights, reflections, and teachings gathered over the years about the energetic impact of words.

🧠 Why Words Matter Energetically

Our subconscious mind is extremely literal, often ignoring words like “not” or “don’t,” and instead absorbing the core emotional tone of our statements.

Masaru Emoto’s water experiments demonstrated how even simple words change the structure of water — and our bodies are mostly water.

Words have vibration — some uplift and some drain. The more aware we become of our daily language, the more empowered we are to choose our outcomes.

“You don’t go shopping with a list of what you don’t want.” — a reminder to be intentional with where we place our focus and energy.

Elevating Our Language: Word Swaps for Higher Vibration

Some commonly used words carry frequencies of fear, lack, or disempowerment. Here are intentional upgrades:

“Worry is a stuck energy. Concern allows space for growth.” — Jackie N. Rioux

“Worry is simply the illusion of control”.

✍️ Language as Intention

From journaling to affirmations, words written with purpose become energetic declarations. Marilyn Jenett once said:

“Words written publicly that are seen and read by a multitude of people have so much power that it is like staking a public claim in Universal Mind.”

Every social media post, affirmation, and casual conversation creates resonance. Are you affirming love, joy, and expansion — or frustration and fear?

🔄 Real-Life Stories: When Words Hit Hard

• “Over my dead body…” — a phrase that many say without realizing its potential weight. Jackie shares a deeply personal story about a phrase once uttered in frustration… and the chilling consequences that followed.
  (This was a situation with my ex-husband due to extensive frustrations with family court. Will be a memoir story at some point)
• Wishing ill unconsciously: A fellow practitioner once wished someone would understand her struggle — and they later fell ill. Powerful lesson: Be mindful of the energy your words carry.

🌀 Shift Your Energy by Shifting Your Language

Use “I AM” to declare your identity and align your vibration:

• “I AM aligned with peace.”
• “I AM ready to receive clarity.”
• “I AM choosing joy in this moment.”

Avoid defaulting to lack-based phrases like “I want” or “I can’t.”

“Worry is not love. Worry is fear.” — Source unknown (shared by Lisa Glennie)

🔥 Passion vs. Enthusiasm

“The word passion comes from the Latin ‘passio’ meaning suffering. When we say we’re passionate about something, are we unknowingly declaring a willingness to suffer for it?”

As shared by Victoria Reynolds, a shift from “passion” to enthusiasm (from entheos, meaning “filled with spirit”) creates a lighter, more empowering vibration.
✨ “I’m enthusiastic about my work” opens the door for joy, flow, and inspired action — instead of struggle.

🧡 Understanding Compassion vs. Pity, Sympathy, and Empathy

These words often get used interchangeably, but they carry very different energy vibrations — especially in the context of emotional boundaries:

“Compassion is love in action — with clear boundaries.”
“Empathy can drown you. Compassion helps both people rise.”

Drowning Analogy: Boundaries in Action

Jackie’s river analogy explains this energetically:

“If someone was drowning in a rushing river, what would you do?”

Most say, “I’d jump in to save them.” That instinct is rooted in care — but also in self-sacrifice. Drowning people can pull you under with them.

The wiser response? Stay grounded, toss them a lifeline, call for support. Guide, don’t drown.

This metaphor reinforces a foundational truth: You cannot help others if you compromise your own safety and stability. You are more powerful — and more helpful — when you hold firm, compassionate boundaries.

Conscious Language = Conscious Creation

What we affirm repeatedly becomes reality:

• “I AM aligned with peace.”
• “I AM open to joy.”
• “I AM choosing ease and clarity.”

Words are spells. Speak with awareness. Speak with love.

“You possess what you confess.”

Bonus Resource: Switchwords

Want to explore how specific words bypass conscious resistance to reprogram the subconscious? Check out blueiris.org — a fascinating system of “switchwords” that can be used for energetic alignment.

Further Reading:

• Creating Your Own Holistic Business
• Masaru Emoto’s Water Studies

• Relationships: Tips for Healing
• The Empath vs. Narcissist Dynamic — And the Real Root of Dysfunctional Relationships

“Speak life, speak love, speak truth — and the Universe will echo you back.”

“Stand so grounded in your self-worth, that only those with real strength, depth, and integrity feel aligned enough to come close.”

In spiritual and psychological circles alike, the terms empath and narcissist get thrown around constantly — often with little understanding of the deeper patterns involved. This page is not here to diagnose anyone. It’s here to explore a much-needed perspective shift. (Personally, I prefer to call myself an intuitive rather than an empath due to these connotations and misrepresentations).

Let’s Clear This Up: Narcissist Is an Overused Label
The clinical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is far rarer than social media would have you believe. Many destructive behaviors might resemble narcissistic traits, but that doesn’t mean someone qualifies for a diagnosis.
When someone labels a person a narcissist, what they often mean is: “This person hurt me and doesn’t seem to care.” That may be true — but labeling them a narcissist doesn’t actually solve anything.
What we can look at is the dysfunctional relationship dynamic between an unhealed, disempowered empath and a person stuck in control or manipulation patterns.

Unhealed Empaths and Energy Vampires
Many self-identified empaths feel deeply, give too much, and struggle to maintain boundaries. They’re not broken — they’re often unhealed. And when an empath hasn’t dealt with their own trauma, they tend to:
• Feel responsible for other people’s emotions
• Confuse helping with overextending
• Mistake trauma bonding for love or connection
• Blame others for “making them feel too much”
This is where the empath becomes the energetic match for someone with manipulative tendencies — what we might casually call a narcissist.

But here’s the kicker: once an empath heals and strengthens their boundaries, they no longer attract these dynamics. They stop seeing others as narcissists — because they’ve stopped playing the victim.
As I’ve said many times:
Once an empath heals and develops boundaries, they will no longer see the other as a narcissist anymore — and the “narcissist” will no longer have a victim.

From Lived Experience: I’ve Been There
I could easily say that every past relationship I’ve had was with a narcissist. But the truth is, they were all wounded people, acting out the only patterns they knew. They were trying to reclaim a sense of power from their own traumas. So was I.
This is not an excuse — it’s an explanation. One that has brought me deep peace and the ability to forgive both them and myself.
Today, I have amazing people in my life. Because I did the work. I reclaimed my energy. I stopped blaming and started healing.

Teaching Moment: When Clients Mirror This Pattern
I’ve worked with several clients over the years who showed up with what I call chronic victim energy. One client in particular repeatedly overstepped my boundaries — despite clear communication and multiple chances. She’d say she understood, but her actions contradicted that.
After finally sending a direct message to end personal contact outside of scheduled sessions, she responded with a seemingly kind message — full of apologies and saying she wouldn’t reach out again. Then, hours later, she sent another message titled “I don’t need a reply, I just need you to know this…”
It was a long emotional download, full of justification about how hard she was trying to heal, how isolated she felt, and how much she appreciated me. On the surface, it sounded heartfelt. But underneath, it was the classic empath-without-boundaries move: one last hook to regain emotional connection, to make sure I carried the weight of how she felt.
I’ve had others like this too — clients who started as lovely connections but ended in energetic collapse. One ended in a police wellness check after she became suicidal. I had tried to hold space, thinking we were becoming friends. But I realized she was living vicariously through my life, not actually living her own.
These experiences have taught me to hold stronger boundaries — not just for my own energy, but as a way to model what healing truly looks like.

Empath Doesn’t Mean Savior
You are not here to fix anyone. You are not obligated to absorb everyone else’s pain.
True healing begins when we recognize the difference between compassion and codependency.
If you’re tired of calling everyone in your life a narcissist… maybe it’s time to turn inward. Are you still identifying as an empath to avoid doing your own inner work?
That may sound harsh. But it’s also freeing. Because once you start setting boundaries and reclaiming your energy — your entire world shifts.

4 Things Your Learn as an Empath When You Heal….
🧘‍♀️1-You Can’t Make Real Friends with Fake People… you simply can’t stand to even be around fake energy and you stop trading your energy for a false sense of connection. You look for meaningful connection instead and learn to honor your energy.
🧘‍♀️2-You Realize Not Everything Deserves a Response… because you learn to stop responding to other people’s nervous system and chaos. Instead, you discern what is worth your energy and time.
🧘‍♀️3-You Learn to Trust Your Intuition… because you practice shutting other people’s emotions, fears and beliefs out and tune back into your own instead.
🧘‍♀️4-You Don’t Feel the Need to be Included, Understood or Accepted like you used to… instead you learn to do those things for yourself and find the places you truly belong and can be seen and understood.
Healing helps us disentangle ourselves from other’s energy because it forces us to practice being in tune with our needs and being responsible for them. It also helps let go of the judgement, codependency and hurt we can project onto others at times too and helps us realize… I am responsible for me & fully capable of meeting my own needs🤍

Resources & Further Reading
• Amy Jo Ellis – Court of Atonement techniques for relationships
• The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker – Recognizing intuition and red flags

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Related Reading:
Choosing a Practitioner — What Makes a Good Fit
https://ladybugwellness.ca/a-choosing-a-practitioner/
Relationships: Recognizing Abuse
https://ladybugwellness.ca/relationships-recognizing-abuse/
Overcoming Trauma and Abuse
https://ladybugwellness.ca/b-overcoming-trauma-and-abuse/
Survivor Checklist | Trauma After Effects
https://ladybugwellness.ca/survivor-checklist/

Need energetic support to reclaim your boundaries? Book a session with me — and let’s clear what’s really holding you back.
https://ladybugwellness.as.me/

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More articles: 

• The Toxic Attraction Between an Empath & a Narcissist. https://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/

This is the best explanation I have ever heard:
Is the world full of Narcissists??
Jenny Schiltz
https://youtu.be/OYr–LMgVB8?si=kRGPd1auoqDB9S2p
Hi. So today I had a client asked me if the world was just full of narcissists. And the answer to her question was, yes. And no. Now, she is someone who has experienced narcissism in every single one of her relationships, whether it’s parental, whether it’s love relationships, employers, like everywhere she turns even in deep friendships. There’s narcissism, right? And so, for her, the answer is absolutely yes. The truth of the matter is the answer is no. So, then you go, well, why is it yes for her? And it’s because within she has the deep inner child wounding like so many of us do. And that is screaming out to be healed. And so, the way that we get shown that there’s this deep wound within, is in our outer relationships. So, she’s constantly being mirrored this wound of I’m not enough, I’m never be enough. And I keep attracting friends, lovers, employers that take advantage of me. Take me for granted don’t see me. And it’s because within there is a part of her that feels that way from a very young age. So, everything is flipping and mirroring back at her so that she can heal it and it can be really hard to look at the outer circumstances and call it a gift, but in many ways it is. It’s a gift because it’s showing you what’s hidden, what’s unhealed, what needs to shift in order to change the outer circumstances of your life. So, the answer for her is Yes. Her world is full of narcissists. And it will be until the little one within is healed, and feels loved and wanted and seen and acknowledged for their light. But overall, is the world full of narcissists? No. There are so many amazing people on this planet. So, if you’re experiencing the narcissistic relationships or some other type of patterning that’s going again and again and again, it’s your clue of what’s going on deep within of what’s hidden, and what is needing your attention and healing. Doing that type of deep inner child shadow work, even past life work is so incredibly valuable. It is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. So, I wanted you to understand how the mirroring of our wounds works. And while it’s very painful when we’re in it, once we heal it, we don’t need the narcissistic boss or the narcissistic lover. We don’t need any of that to show us that there’s a wound because there is no longer a wound.
Sending you lots of love.

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“The empath/narcissist split that is wildly popular in the spiritual community just reinforces violence, separation, duality, and ego. Yes, there are (clinically diagnosable) narcissists out there. But just because someone has mistreated you, doesn’t immediately make them a narcissist. We all have a bit of narcissist and empath within us. That’s the point of shadow work: to take an honest look at ourselves, get real, and develop self-love. We don’t need any more violence spread in the world.” ~ Luna & Sol

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Thank you, Tammy S, for this insight:
“Most (labeled) narcissists actually have such low ego strength (low self-concept) that they overcompensate by putting others down and making others feel like they are less than them. We ALL project what we REALLY feel deep down inside… onto others… which means the narcissist who is truly broken inside will project, create and pull that very same thing out of you. Because, we don’t often see other people for who THEY are… we see others based on who WE are…. and the narcissist will see you as broken, weak, less-than, to be used, an object for their bidding… because that is what is lurking under their overly pompous external façade.”
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NEED HELP DEALING WITH A NARCISSISTIC PERSON?
Although Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is rare, millions of people have many of the traits of NPD. In fact, nearly everyone exhibits narcissistic traits at some time or other. If you’ve seen a toddler throw a tantrum over something trivial, you know what I mean.
Many people don’t outgrow those immature behaviors. We find them in our families, personal relationships, in the workplace, where we shop, you name it, there’s someone who hasn’t matured and is stuck on stupid. Thankfully, only a few go to the lowest depths and truly become a danger to those they encounter.
The biggest problem is those with NPD traits often blame others for all of their problems. As a result, it is rare for them to seek counseling, unless a major crisis happens that lands them in the counselor’s office. This often only happens when forced into alcohol or drug rehab or through a court order.
If you’re having problems with a person whose narcissistic habits are driving you nuts, check out my website for resources on how you can learn to deal with them without pulling your hair out or how you can safely break free. If your life is a mess due to their behaviors, that’s a sure sign that you aren’t saving them, instead reach out for the life preserver before you drown.
As you view the resource page, let me know if you have used other resources or counselors that helped you. I will then check them out and add them to the list in hopes they can help someone else.
You can find the “Narcissism Resources” link in the green box at the bottom of my website, or click here: https://www.theresacrabtree.com/narcissism

Music is the language of the soul. Music has a powerful effect on our emotions. For example, one selection of music might make you feel relaxed and another might make you feel energized.

Solfeggio healing frequencies have been used for centuries to heal the mind, body, and spirit. They were re-introduced by Dr. Joseph Puleo in the 1990s, when he discovered the ancient Solfeggio scale. They are nine tones derived from numerology. These particular musical frequencies are thought to have healing properties.

Each frequency in the harmonic scale represents the tones most powerful for healing and corresponds to a specific energy center or chakra in the body. These tones are believed to balance the energy centers of the body and promote healing.

Everything is energy, everything has a vibration. The human body is made up of frequencies and vibrations. Solfeggio frequencies are the healing power of sound.

They are believed to promote balance and harmony within the body, mind, and spirit, and to help with physical, emotional, and spiritual healing. Playing music to clear energy is like musical medicine for your body, mind, and spirit!

In recent years, the popularity of solfeggio frequencies has grown as people seek natural, holistic ways to improve their health and well-being. Choosing the right type of music is essential for this process. By incorporating these frequencies into your daily routine, you can effectively manage negativity in your surroundings.

There are also Hertz frequencies and Fibonacci sequencies. All in the healing power of nature.

Some benefits:

Solfeggio healing frequencies can be used in a variety of ways, including meditation, sound therapy, and energy healing.

Create positive shifts to those in proximity to the sounds
Powerful meditation and chakra aligning tools
Quiet, calming tunes can soothe anxieties and create a more pleasant environment
Playing these tones in a room can help elevate the vibrations and purify your space.
Energetic Healing through the Vibration of Music
Listen to music that has been specifically composed to incorporate these tones.
Work with a sound healer or practitioner who can incorporate the frequencies into a guided meditation or healing session.
A convenient option is using free online streaming services like YouTube to play music throughout your home.

Solfeggio Frequency List:

174Hz Reduce pain, alleviate stresses. Frequency is natural anesthetic. It relieves pain and gives your organs a sense of safety, love and security and encourages them to do their best. Foundation, offers a sense of security and safety

285Hz Solfeggio Frequency – Influence Energy, Rejuvenation. Heals and Regenerates Tissues, restructures damaged organs by sending message to tissues, Bringing them to original form. Helps with dissolving emotional blockages and promoting unconditional love

396Hz Solfeggio Frequency gives Power to Your Goals. Liberates Guilt and Fear. It eradicates feeling of guilt, even the guilt residing deep in subconscious mind. Promotes self-acceptance.

417Hz Solfeggio Frequency: Facilitating Change. Removes Negative Energy from the Body, Home and Office. Helps with undoing situations and facilitating change.

528Hz Solfeggio Frequency Music returns human DNA to its original, perfect state. Known as the love frequency, helps with transformation and DNA repair. Transformation and Miracles. It brings transformation and miracles into your life.

639 Hz frequency enables creation of harmonious interpersonal relationships. Connecting/Relationships. This tone can be used for dealing with relationships problems – those in family, between partners, friends. Helps with communication and connecting with others.

741Hz Frequency Cleans the Cells and Detoxifies the cells and organs. Expression/Solutions. Helps with problem-solving and self-expression.

852Hz Solfeggio Frequency Awakens Inner Strength and Raises Cell Energy. Helps with spiritual enlightenment and awakening intuition

963Hz Frequency helps in Pineal Gland Activation and is associated with awakening intuition. Helps with awaking to your true self and facilitating a connection with the universe. Awaken Crowns, Spirit.

There is much to be learned about healing frequencies, and much that is not yet understood. However, many people have reported positive experiences with using these frequencies for healing and well-being, and they are certainly worth exploring further.

Personal Experiences:

Jackie N. Rioux: I play solfeggio music constantly. I don’t know the exact impacts but my house sounds like a cathedral 💖.
I love listening to Solfeggio music and I just keep it going whenever I feel the need to raise the vibes at home

I had an experience back in 2016 to 2018 when the rental home beside us did not vet out tenants properly and we had a crack shack situation for two years. I hardly slept. Constant drama over there. Found needles in our yard, and an overdose close to our front lawn. A very unsettling situation all around. I did all sorts of energetic balancing, clearing, and protections on our home. Still the situation not far away persisted.
In one of my courses, I complained about this situation). I was told then that everything unhealed in myself is creating the outside perspective. I can tell you that DID NOT sit well with me!! Anyways, over time, as I worked on myself, some things shifted, but that situation was still frustrating. In 2017, I learned about FCOA/ court of atonement and tried everything I could to shift the situation.
In June of 2018, a practitioner friend suggested solfeggio music. I looked up HZ music or Solfeggio music on YouTube. 417 and 432 HZ particularly. I played this constantly in my home for several months. It took about 3 months dealing with evictions and squatters over there but they finally all moved.
Through this experience, I finally understood another situation from years before when a mentor told me to Reiki the office of a supervisor that was targeting me. She had instructed me to Reiki this supervisors office, setting the intention of 400Hz above the lowest vibration person in that office.
That story here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/blessing-our-enemies/

I have also learned to clear my own projected energies attracting those situations:
https://ladybugwellness.ca/projected-energies/

Reiki is an extremely high vibration frequency as well, so if you have a similar neighbor situation, try sending Reiki to the relationship between you and these neighbors and or the FCOA obsession protocol in this page, midway down: https://ladybugwellness.ca/relationships-tips-for-healing/

One of my favorite videos:
For a fun visual, check out this video from Nigel Stanford:
Cymatics: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q3oItpVa9fs

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From 2022 adventures page:
August 9 2022 GRIT writing
CONTEXT: Music is the language of the soul
What is music? It is a vibrational energy. Recognizing that everything is energy, and everything is connected through energy and vibration, it is understandable that music is considered a universal language of the soul.
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Some poignant quotations on music:
Why music is the language of the soul?
The melodies alone are able to convey messages, soul to soul. A beautiful melody can bring tears to one’s eyes. It is powerful enough to soften the hardest heart and heal the most painful memory. Music breaks barriers of time and space, provides comfort for the grieving, and calms the anxious mind.
“Music, once admitted to the soul, becomes a sort of spirit, and never dies.” “Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can’t.” “Where words fail, music speaks.” “Music is the universal language of mankind.”
“Music speaks the language of the soul, penetrating into the past and resonating into the future, unearthing pain and tenderness and sorrow and joy, reminding us of our infinite fragility and extraordinary strength, reigniting our dreams and passions once again to remind us of who we are meant to be.”
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Music can stir emotions of anticipation and motivation. It can heal through specific Solfeggio Hz tones. It can soothe, and it can rile up the masses.
The famous water experiment conducted by Masaru Emoto showed how words and music infused into water could change the water crystals into pleasant beautiful patterns or scattered discordant patterns depending on the positive or negative vibration the water was exposed to. The human body is composed of 50 to 75% water, on average. This means that music can have a significant impact on our minds and bodies.
I often reference this analogy in regards to the depth and feeling of music: two music critics were listening to singers audition a love song. The seasoned critic pointed out the difference between two of the singers. One sang the love song eloquently, but with no depth. The other had experienced heartbreak and therefore sang from a place of pain which gave the song a more genuine emotional depth. The reasoning here is akin to the nightingale that throws itself into a thorn bush, and pierces itself. Only then does it sing its most beautiful songs.
Have you ever resonated with analogies like these and referenced them numerous times, only to be blindsided with another analogy that ties everything together?
This morning, I came across a poetry piece from John Roedel, known for his Hey God, Hey John musings. This poem was about feeling broken with numerous holes in his heart. God said he is now like a woodwind instrument that can make beautiful music. Whoa.
There is another concept of looking back at life as a tapestry, like a work of art where the dark threads represent the low times that highlight the lighter threads and good times. Sometimes life can get really low and crappy when we lose loved ones and the voids feel like holes in our hearts. We may think of our passed loved ones as spirits that can feel like a cool breeze around us.
Putting this all together, it is an endearing thought that we can still make music from the depths of our soul and cherish all the memories of a life well lived.
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More information to check out:

The Science Behind Solfeggio Frequencies
https://www.relaxmelodies.com/blog/science-behind-solfeggio-frequencies/

Solfeggio Frequencies
https://www.naturehealingsociety.com/solfeggio/

Healing Frequencies of the Ancient Solfeggio Scale
https://www.gaia.com/article/healing-frequencies-of-the-ancient-solfeggio-scale

The Magic that is Music: The True Language of the Human Soul
https://www.daytranslations.com/blog/magic-music-language/

Music Tuned to 440 Hz Versus 432 Hz and the Health Effects: A Double-blind Cross-over Pilot Study
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31031095/

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Social Media posts:

Intuitive Butterfly Feb 1 2024
There are some channels on YouTube that re-work your favourite songs to be in 432 Hz rather than 440…
Try this experiment and let me know how it goes – see if you can find your favourite song on YouTube in 432. Listen to your regular recording, eyes closed and feel the music. Then wait about 1 hour. Then listen to the same song in 432 Hz, eyes closed, concentrate on the music.
Let me know if you notice a difference?
After you’ve shared your experiences, I’ll share mine – Let’s see if they match up…Oh and by the way, you may have to wait a day to see if there’s a difference…

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Kerri Winner Empath, Psychic & Healing Training January 31 2024
This is Cymatics. When you place sand or water on a plate and using sound sending different frequencies of waves across it, it creates patterns. Every frequency has its own unique pattern.
432 is the healing frequency. Your cochlea in your ear is seashell shaped (Fibonacci sequence) the shape of life, the same spiral in your DNA.
Coherency occurs when there is harmony between the frequency and the receiver. The number 432 is a part of the Fibonacci sequence of numbers.
See how the patterns in the 432 are beautiful, like a flower, making you feel good. Now the pattern on the right has little cohesion, and is a very solid muddy looking mess… it resonates inside your body and mind this way. It leaves you feeling slightly confused and easy to manipulate. THIS is what is happening in the world RIGHT NOW! Dis-ease. There is increased disease in our population, creating disharmony and distress. Our minds and bodies are so sensitive to this and we are programmed to believe all of this is hocus pocus so we consume and give our energy (money, attention, loyalty) away to the few in power.
There is a better way! Retune our instruments! Not just the music, but us! We are instruments! Disconnect from your Tell-a-vision programming (they come right out and say it!) they are telling you exactly what they want you to hear to get you in tune with their agenda. Start listening to yourself, your intuition, and what the universe (God) is trying to tell you. Let go of everything you have been told you are and are not. You are enough being yourself. People will still love you if you learn to love yourself, and them. Lead with you heart not with the disease of what society told you you are or should be. Wake up to your true self, and harmony will coalesce in the world. Wake up, it really is all one big conspiracy they even taught you to fear that word.
I really love each and every one of you, and wish nothing more than for you to truly love your whole self, to love in absolute joy, and to have everything your heart desires! It is absolutely possible, if you just shift the frequencies within your field!

Are You a Buffalo or a Cow?

There is a great lesson about success and leadership from studying the way that buffalo and cows respond to storms.

Sometimes we have to go to nature to get the best advice. Appreciating this wisdom and the spirit of animals, we can apply this metaphor to life and our life lessons.

In your life, when a storm hits you, do you handle it like a cow or like a buffalo? What cows do is very natural. Cows sense the storm coming and so they start to try to run. They bolt away from that storm as fast as they possibly can.

There is a problem with this method of handling a storm. If you know anything about cows you know they aren’t very fast.

The storm catches up with the cows rather quickly. And without knowing any better the cows continue to try to outrun the storm. But instead of outrunning the storm, they get caught in the storm and end up running with it, exhausted, in pain, and prolonging the time it takes for the storm to pass. By trying to outrun the storm, they are just maximizing the amount of pain and time and frustration they experience from that storm!

Isn’t that stupid?

How many of us human beings put off challenges in our life that we don’t want to do? Most people deal with their storms in life by being an ostrich with their head in the sand, or a cow(ard) running away from their problems as fast as they can. We spend so much of our lives constantly trying to avoid the inevitable challenges that come along with the difficult circumstances that our very own choices have led us to be in.

People who are in debt constantly try to find ways around paying their bills. People who are unhealthy make rationalizations for why they can’t do anything about it or why it doesn’t matter. People who are struggling in their marriage are often trying to avoid the difficult but meaningful conversations that need to be had to reconcile that relationship. Salespeople do everything to try and avoid making a sales call.

And the key insight that leaders and entrepreneurs have made that not yet necessarily everyone else has is this: Entrepreneurs realize that problems that are procrastinated on are only amplified.

Waiting always makes it worse.

What buffalo do on the other hand is very unique for the animal kingdom. Instead of running away from the storm, buffalo turn and CHARGE directly into the storm. By running into the storm, they run straight through it, thus minimizing the storm’s impact of the amount of pain and time and frustration they experience from that storm. They quickly break through into the sun on the other side.

Deal with your life’s storms like a buffalo. Notice how it’s the exact same storm that the cows see, the difference is, the animal’s reaction to it. It’s such a great metaphor for all of us because all of us are dealing with the same types of storms.

We all have some relationship issue or health battle or financial struggle.

And we don’t always get to choose whether or not we have storms. The only choice we get to have is how we respond to those storms.

And more specifically here, when we respond to those storms.

This buffalo mentality is very representative of a leadership and entrepreneurial mindset.

They charge directly into problems because they realize that procrastination and indulgence are simply creditors that charge you interest.

How do you apply this theory to your own life? Get a plan in place to help you weather life’s storms like a buffalo.

Which direction are you heading?

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Jackie: Personally, as a redhead Taurus, I love this metaphor. I can be a little bull headed. I prefer to think of this as determination rather than just plain stubbornness, but this attitude does help me face problems head on.

Brett Wininger: It’s been often said that fear is a mile wide and a mile high but only paper thin.
Plus, fear is of future events, what could or might or maybe or possibly happen, its not in the present.
As I learn to stay in the present moment, I’m less fearful of future happenings.

Don’t you just cringe when some event happens that tosses us off kilter and in the midst of the turmoil we feel, some well meaning person recites the trite phrase “Everything happens for a reason”. UGH!!!

Personally, I fully admit that I have said and done some downright idiotic stupid things in my life and regretted it. Sometimes right away, sometimes later.
“I wish I hadn’t said/ done that”
“Why did I say/do that?”

I am sure you’ve experienced the same regret feeling. And then my brain sidetracks into playing out repeated scenarios in my head. This over thinking and over analyzing affects sleep, daily activities, and other obligations until I can get a handle on it.
(Hint: I have learned to target the reticular activating system to defuse the repeat button in our brains).

(Excellent article fits here on doing Shadow Work. So important for our own well being and for the good of the collective global consciousness.
https://www.highexistence.com/carl-jung-shadow-guide-unconscious/ )

The more I learn through life, and the more I embrace the spiritual level wisdom of our soul evolution, the more I can let go of these upsets more quickly. Learn the lessons and move on gracefully. Ok, well, admittedly, not always gracefully. I am a Taurus redhead, you know. I think my soul level spiritual lessons in this life are all about boundaries, self respect, attachments, and maybe just caring too much. I always want to do the right thing to make things better. To take accountability and responsibility for my words and actions, and to trust that others do the same. I want to correct my mistakes. But what if nothing is really a mistake, but a life lesson instead?

I always defer to the metaphysical analogy of how others are, at a soul level, co-creators in our human existence for the purpose of learning our spiritual lessons. You’ll find this concept peppered throughout this website:

Introducing Jackie
https://ladybugwellness.ca/about/
Awakening
https://ladybugwellness.ca/awakening/
Exploration in Transformation: Workshop Training Notes
https://ladybugwellness.ca/how-people-change/
Heal Thy Self Book ~ Jackie’s Published Story
https://ladybugwellness.ca/heal-thy-self-book/
The Ascension Process: Transition from 3rd to 5th Dimension
https://ladybugwellness.ca/the-ascension-process-transition-from-3rd-to-5th-dimension/

This is an excellent video explanation that encompasses so much of what I believe to be Divine Timing and the interconnectedness of our soul journeys. Whether these soul connections are uncomfortable life lessons, spiritual support, or a beautiful union, these signs are worth noting here as I have experienced several of these signs throughout my life.
10 Clear Signs The Universe Wants You To Be With Someone: Dolores Cannon
https://youtu.be/eaG89D-4QXM?si=1NDY18w6OzcHrMLA

I just love the writings below to explain Divine Timing and how everything does happen for a reason whether we understand that concept in the moment, or embrace it later on when we grow into our emotional and spiritual maturity. Our lives are a beautiful tapestry of experiences in the journey of human life. The dark (threads) times accentuate the bright (threads) times. In the moment, our lives may look like a bunch of twisted knots, but we can look back to see the tapestry being woven and unfolded in Divine Timing.

Embracing this knowledge means that I can also embrace that I am continuously a work in progress. I can also embrace forgiveness for myself and others.

Soul Helper: An individual who comes into your life for a moment, a lifetime, or anywhere in between, and helps your soul move towards growth, healing, and alignment. (I am thankful for all the soul helpers I have had in my life). 

The conscious person uses the world as a mirror to better understand and master themselves.
The unconscious person attacks the mirror because they do not realize it is a mirror.

Note: I have been following Judith Kusel on Facebook. You may enjoy her insighful writings as well: https://www.facebook.com/judith.kusel
March 30 2023: At the moment two people may be walking side by side on what seemingly is the same path.
One will find exquisite beauty and excitement, the sense of adventure, exploration and awe, at being able to step onto a totally new life and ascend into the New Earth. There is deep sense of higher calling, inner peace, light, love and following the call. The new unfolding, even if totally new and in a much higher dimension and frequency band. As one with All That Is. A sense of being lifted and guided every step of the way. More than this, is powered by the open heart and love, the inner intuitive knowing and seeing within.
The other, also on the path, which is splitting ahead, is so burdened by the baggage, and worries and woes, and can only see and feel pain and suffering, judgement, separation, and uses words and thoughts like combat weapons. Indeed is so weighed down by it all, and is blind to the incredible new life, the unfolding of such unity, harmony, peace, wonder and awe of the New creation.
So blinded, that he/she cannot even see the split in the road and continues walking the road, oblivious of the fact, that that walking companion has vanished and has left their side a long time ago.
For this is what is happening.
The split between the 3rd and 5th dimension is not only widening, but becoming more and more obvious.
Yet, every soul is always given the opportunity to wake up and to choose to step out of the old path and onto the new.
Judith Kusel

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Reason Season Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a
solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

There are people who come in your life sometimes to be there for a season. They weren’t meant to be there always. Sometimes we find ourselves hooked up with people that we think are there for a lifetime, but they were only supposed to be there for a season. There are people who come in your life like boosters for rocket. If you ever watch a rocket go into space, the boosters fall off when it reaches a certain altitude.
Some people are not equipped to handle the altitudes that you’re going to. So don’t be afraid when they fall off. They’re not bad people. They just couldn’t go where you’re going.

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I really like these Words of Encouragement:

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there; they serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be; your roommate, neighbor, professor, long-lost friend, lover or even a complete stranger who, when you lock eyes with them, you know that very moment that they will affect your life in some profound way. Sometimes things happen to you and at the time they may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower or heart. Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck. Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests – whether they are events, illnesses or relationships – life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere. Safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless. The people you meet who affect your life, and the successes and downfalls you experience, create who you are; even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are probably the most poignant and important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart to. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally; not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love, and they are opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them. Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Let yourself fall in love, break free and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself; for if you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you, either. You can make of your life anything you wish. Create your own life and then go out and live it. ~ Author Unknown

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THE FOUR LAWS OF A SHAMAN

The first says:
“The person who comes into our life is the right person”
In other words, no one comes into our lives by chance, all the people around us, who interact with us, are there for a reason, to make us learn and advance in each situation.

The second law says:
“What happens is the only thing that could have happened.”
Nothing, but nothing, absolutely nothing that happens to us in our lives could have been otherwise.
Not even the most insignificant detail.
There is no: “if I had done such a thing, such another would have happened…”.
Nope.
What happened was the only thing that could have happened and it had to have been so for us to learn that lesson and move on.
Each and every one of the situations that happen to us in our lives are perfect, even if our mind and our ego resist and do not want to accept it.

The third says:
“Anytime it starts is the right time.”
Everything starts at the right time, neither before nor after.
When we are ready for something new to start in our lives, that is when it will begin.

And the fourth and last:
“When something ends, it ends.”
Just like that.
If something ended in our lives, it is for our evolution, therefore it is better to leave it, move on and advance already enriched by that experience.
I think it is not by chance that you are reading this, if these words came into our lives today; It’s because we’re prepared to understand that no snowflake ever falls in the wrong place.”
~Author and Artist: Unknown

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If you still feel like you need to vent your frustrations over events and situations in life, that’s ok. Sometimes you just need to get it out. But it is not ok to stay stuck in the story.
This is a context from one of my GRIT Teammates that so succinctly explains letting it go:

Kristine Sarrett Day of GRIT: # 16 of 28
SA Principle – I Take Ownership of the Outcome…
CONTEXT: “Whine & Dine”
In the United States, it’s a common practice to share a meal with a close friend with the primary objective being to vent.
Cheaper than therapy & generally more enjoyable, you exchange updates on your life stressors, often leaning towards hearty bellyaching.
These can be good for you…
IF done correctly.
Trick is to leave the drama at the table.
All the “woe-is-me”s & “life sucks” should be left on plate next to the napkin.
We have all had crap things happen to us.
It never good to live there.
You ate. You vented. Now pay the tab & leave.
Go live your life.
Jackie Rioux: Kristine Sarrett Yes!! I have often said it is great to vent if needed, as long as there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

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DOORS OF OPPORTUNITY
Doors of opportunity are always available, waiting for you to open them. When you make a clear intention for something that you desire, such as a job that pays well and is more inspiring, take steps to make this goal a reality.
Expect synchronicities, follow leads and check into various opportunities. Pay attention to your intuition and gut feelings, decide if these opportunities are truly what you want. Do not settle for anything less. Create situations that will make things happen; choose doors that best fit your needs.
Sometimes what appears to be a wrong door could lead you to something better. Perhaps by taking the “wrong” door, you may meet someone or gain skills that lead you to the door of your highest choice. The key is to not be swayed by fears and false beliefs.
Have courage in yourself and know that in reality, there are no wrong doors. There may be missed opportunities, yet within these lie myriads of learning experiences and infinite opportunities.
Reach beyond your comfort zone and open the doors of opportunity to see what lies beyond.
You may find the perfect mate, career or adventure on the other side. Enjoy life to the fullest, for you indeed are in a time of great transition.
Excerpt from Universal Truth © 2020 Theresa Crabtree. All Rights Reserved. Permission is granted to share this post when you include this copyright statement. theresacrabtree.com/books

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June 3 2023

Aligning with Divine Timing!

Do you ever feel like time is racing by and you’ll never get it all done? No matter what your to-do list entails, feeling behind and overwhelmed is a feeling I am all too familiar with.
I look back over my life in raising four kids while working full time, taking on higher education and numerous courses while juggling personal and business responsibilities, and I am not sure how I ever managed all that…

As you may know, I recently completely the Court of Atonement certification. I had a lot of things going on in March with a road trip vacation time, family visiting etc.
I started the course but got behind. Very behind. It is not that the course was overwhelming, I assure it was not at all. But like anything else in life, I dropped my attention there to focus on other things and soon found myself behind.
I was overwhelmed. I was frustrated.

Then I got a bright idea.

I have learned that “time” seems to be going fast for everyone these days. The explanation for that is that the Schumann Resonance (earth heartbeat) energy is rising steadily and when vibration rises, particles move faster, which in turn means that “time” seems to go faster as well.
Taking this into consideration, and trusting the Universe, I aligned myself with Divine Timing. I balanced my energetic blockages interfering with Divine Timing and viola! All the pressure subsided! I caught up day 7 to day 25 of the course within 10 days and managed to finish before a few other students as well.

Now I have been using this idea with all sorts of things and finding that I am managing to accomplish my to do lists much more effectively. YAY ME!!

I have to add here that I received my COA course completion certificate last week. I have many trainings and certifications under my belt, but this one really choked me up with happy tears. It has been a long time coming, and it is truly life changing to have this Court of Atonement technique so easily available to all of humanity.

I always take these new ideas and play with concepts to see what kind of energy shifts I can create with new knowledge and how that can affect me and my clients.

There are many new theories and diagnoses regarding ADHD (Attention Deficit and Hyper Activity Disorder). I refuse to get a diagnosis and label for myself. However, having taken psychology courses and learned much about ADHD through holistic education as well, I am sure I have many of the traits of ADHD.

Here I thought it was just my entrepreneurial spirit! Actually, I prefer to think I am intuitive and my spirit guides have a sense of humor as I have earned the nicknames Scrat, Chipmunk on Acid, and Ferret on Crack. Gotta love the industriousness of rodents lol.

The ideas that float in my mind can be so fun and innovative, but taking those ideas to fruition requires discipline and much energetic grounding. I am getting there…Even when my inner Scrat seems to have been flung off his hamster wheel…

Thank God for all my energy balancing and clearing skills so I can clear my energy and get things done!

To add to these new ideas, I recently watched a video about yet another ADHD trait. You know the whole “squirrel” reference? Well, there is a term for this called “time blindness”.
This I know all too well… start one task, get distracted, start another task… By the end of the day, I have several things started but nothing finished.
Multitasking is the art of screwing up several things at once, by the way!

Yet again, I have gleaned more ideas and neutralized time blindness, then aligned with conscious time awareness. I seem to be keeping more focused on tasks now. I have also tried this idea with some clients, so far with great feedback.

Here’s to getting our to – do lists done, all in Divine Timing!!

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Patience is bitter but its fruit is sweet. Aristotle.

“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather, it is “timing.”; it waits for the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.” Fulton J. Sheen

In a world of instant gratification, patience is getting harder and harder.
The elegance of waiting without imploding inside is an art.
It means we are mastering surrender, ceding to things we have no control over, and working in tangent with time and space.
It means we are breathing deeper and soothing the emotions that can accompany frustration.
It means we are free.
When we lose our patience, we just lose.
Period.
The end.
All kinds of things fall apart when we succumb to impatience.
… and when I find my patience well is running dry and I’m on the edge, I refer back to trust. Let it rain lemons; I will make lemonade. Debbie Lynn

“The two hardest tests on the spiritual road are the patience to wait for the right moment and the courage not to be disappointed with what we encounter.” Paulo Coelho

Change is the only constant. The key to succeeding in life, in overcoming the past, in being able to move forward is adaptation. It is only when we can become like water, as suggested by the Tao Ching, that we can really be in the flow of life. 

Life is challenging. We are either going into a challenge, navigating through a challenge, or coming out of a challenge.

Life is a series of ups and downs, life a heart beat monitor. It is supposed to be chaotic like Morse Code messages. A stagnant life is boring and deadening. We never want to flatline.

Heaven sends a feather, then a brick. Then, if you’re still not listening, you’ll get the Mack truck. Learn to get quiet and listen for the feathers. The Mack truck isn’t a fun way to move forward. (I know from experience…).

Change is not failing, in fact recognizing that we need change is the biggest success of all.

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“One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.
Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.
Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?
You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.
You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.
But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.
Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.
Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.
That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.
Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.
Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.
Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.
Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”
Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.
Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.
This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.
Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.
Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.
Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.”
~ PAULO COELHO

“When illness is part of your spiritual path, no medical intervention will heal you until your Soul
begins to realize the changes that the disease is supposed to inspire.” Caroline Myss

Healing is a matter of time, but it is also a matter of opportunity” Hippocrates

The greatest act of rebellion is to prioritize your health in a world that profits from your illness.

Disclaimer: These suggestions are not meant to treat or diagnose. Please see your medical professional for serious health issue concerns.

I’d like to start off saying that I have lost loved ones to chronic ailments so I know too well the anguish surrounding this topic. However, with each loved one lost and knowing their situation, this knowledge has only solidified and supported all that I have learned holistically about chronic ailments. In all my years of experiences and learning, I now know of many miracles cases where someone has fully overcome chronic issues to live a healthy vibrant life to the fullest.

Our minds and bodies in human form are so simple, yet so complex, and such a fascinating Divine work of creation. When we tune into our bodies, and “go within” connecting with our Highest Self, our inner Divine self, we can then take full accountability and responsibility for our own health and wellness.
Traditional medical practices definitely have their place and purpose, and holistic wellness is not a replacement for a proper licensed doctor’s medical care. Yet, it is essential to balance and integrate traditional medical practices with holistic wellness to be completely and fully informed in your choices and the protocols to follow for your own well being.

Personally, I have been blessed with medical doctors in my life that have a wonderful understanding of holistic wellness and integrate this knowledge into their practice. This makes for medical professionals that I can fully trust with my health. I invite you to ask questions and really quiz your doctor on the procedures and protocols they suggest for your conditions. A reputable doctor will work with you and be open to good health practices that work for your situation. I am wary of doctors who have poor “bedside manners” and “know it all/ better than you” type attitudes. When greed and money are the basis behind their reason to be a doctor, that is a red flag that should be heeded. 

A reputable holistic practitioner will always have disclaimers ceding to traditional medical practices just to cover their butts ethically and responsibly.

Now that we have all that out of the way, let’s get to some basics about holistic wellness.

“Holistic” is characterized by the belief that the parts of something are interconnected and can be explained only by reference to the whole.
“Holistic” is also characterized by the treatment of the whole person, taking into account mental and social factors, rather than just the symptoms of an illness.

In energy balancing practices, we look at the emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of imbalances within a person, not just the physical aspects.

Humans are much more powerful than we are led to believe. Society and modern medicine look mostly at the outside, tangible, logical, observable, and physical factors. Quantum energy healing is far from logical to our human brain, but can still be scientifically supported through quantum physics. Research anything about Fibonacci numbers and sequences in nature!

Our thoughts are powerful, so if we have hidden non beneficial beliefs or spiritual/ mental imbalances, this can wreak havoc on our level of Divine Discernment in what is best for us. Anger, guilt, frustration, grief, worry… our negative emotions have a vibrational frequency that brings down our overall vibration. A low and negative vibration is fertile ground for chronic ailments to persist.

Every imbalance starts on the emotional /mental level of our being before manifesting to the physical to create a chronic ailment within our bodies. Pain and discomfort are messengers! When we do not listen to our bodies intuitively, our body will create a way to make us slow down and pay attention.

Many of the “miracle healing” stories and cases I know of had a common factor of finding the root issues and addressing dis-ease from the cellular and energetic level to create wellness on the physical and holistic level.

It is absolutely crucial to do your own due diligence in exploring all avenues of care for yourself. What works for one person may not be a cookie cutter/ one size fits all type solution for another person. When we take into account that our bodies are unique and individual. Our chemical composition, toxin loads and intolerances, past traumas, and ancestral issues can all be factors.

Some will say that we are prone to certain ailments because it runs in the family. This is only partly true in holistic terms. While our DNA can carry memories and miasmas from our ancestors, it is only when conditions are right that a dis-ease or chronic ailment will develop into something physical. We each have the choice and the power to be aware of this factor and to break the chains of this belief.

Power of words: it is ok to say, “I was diagnosed with ___ but I refuse to own it”. Realize that the diagnosis is not part of you or your identity. Wayne Dyer, in his seminars and inspirational talks, was quite adamant that he would not allow certain dis-ease names into his vocabulary and energy field.
Many years ago, I remember someone saying, “Why would I want to send my child to a ‘hospital for sick children’? I would rather send them to a hospital for wellness”. (Yes, there is a hospital in Toronto with that name).

In their quests and research for the truth, Ty Bollinger and Matt Embry found what many people find out: that charities dedicated to certain dis-ease research are not really that helpful at all and it is more about the advertising and image than actual wellness and healing.
This is now my mantra as well. I am not likely to support any charities with a dis-ease name. I will gladly support wellness and personal development though!

Rupert Sheldrake is the man behind the concept of “morphic resonance”.
https://www.sheldrake.org/research/morphic-resonance
Morphic resonance: noun. the idea that, through a telepathic effect or sympathetic vibration, an event or act can lead to similar events or acts in the future or an idea conceived in one mind can then arise in another.
With this theory of morphic resonance, we can understand that a diagnosis of certain ailments, or just the name of certain chronic dis-eases can send anyone’s mind into a tailspin of fear with all the beliefs and implications of said dis-eases. Again, this is the reason we need to address the root issues behind the imbalances that create the experience of dis-ease. This is the power of words and the importance of addressing hidden beliefs as well.
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An eye-opening experience:
I was asked to give a short seminar talk at a local arthritis group meeting several years ago. I had not been given much information with this invitation and the event was extremely disorganized. When I arrived, I realized I was the introductory speaker for this group of about 50 people. I gave a 15-minute talk about energy balancing and the modalities I use. There were some questions and some feigned interest with mostly blank stares.
The keynote speaker was a research psychologist with a very condescending, haughty attitude. He started his talk by dramatically pulling a framed certificate out of his briefcase to show everyone his esteemed credentials. His whole talk was all about name dropping and the high-class publications he was involved in with research projects. He had all these people completely enthralled and almost drooling at his every word.

Then, in the Questions and Answers part of his seminar, many people spoke up and talked of their specific symptoms in detail and pronounced long disease names, completely identifying with each other and each drug they were taking. This whole event was a solicitation for research funding, and these people on disability pensions were opening their wallets and bank accounts in droves!
At that time, with my limited experiences, I felt completely alienated and outcast from this group. It was a horrible experience and I am now grateful for having been there to witness this atrocity first hand of how brainwashed people can be.
What I realized is that these people identified with their ailments. On some level of their being, they wanted to be sick and this benefited them with attention and inclusion in this dis-ease named club, albeit a club I wanted no part of.
Much of any kind of research funding is so irrational from a holistic viewpoint. There are many ways to heal available to us if we just tune into the natural rhythms and needs of our bodies.
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Many theories of chronic dis-eases suggest that our bodies are attacking us or falling apart. When you delve into the world of holistic care and being in tune with our bodies, you will quickly learn that our bodies are designed to keep us functional and safe. The Chinese medicine wheel explains that certain systems and organs have specific times and rhythms to do their own biological “housecleaning”, or “body defrag”, as I like to call it.

“Apoptosis occurs normally during development and aging and as a homeostatic mechanism to maintain cell populations in tissues. Apoptosis also occurs as a defense mechanism such as in immune reactions or when cells are damaged by disease or noxious agents (Norbury and Hickson, 2001)”. Apoptosis is described as an active, programmed process of autonomous cellular dismantling that avoids eliciting inflammation.

Many chronic ailments are just severe imbalances in a broken immune system. Tumors are often a build up of dead cells when apoptosis fails to work properly.

Now let’s look at some solutions to consider.

Realize that the belief that “physical ailments are a reality when we get older” does not have to manifest into your personal reality.
Health encompasses much more than physical. When the mind is sick, the body eventually will be as well.
Biological age has absolutely nothing to do with it when you overcome stuck or traumatic belief systems.

Louise Hay wrote a book on the metaphysical aspects of ailments way back when these concepts were not well accepted. Her book “You Can Heal Your Life” is now one of the top recommended holistic wellness books out there.

Similarly, “The Secret Language of Your Body” by Inna Segal is highly recommended to learn the metaphysical reasons behind chronic imbalances.

Reference books from Yvette Rose are an essential addition to a holistic library. These contain an extensive collection of metaphysical connections and explanations for innumerable ailments.

These books shown here: Book Resources for Practitioners | Book Recommendations:
https://youtu.be/MDJMvV3iFiU

German New Medicine is a modality created by Dr Ryke Geerd Hamer, a German physician, after he realized the implications of his own experiences and how that created an otherwise “terminal” type illness in his own life. In researching this modality, you may find a fair bit of controversy in the mainstream sources. In my opinion, controversy is a good reason to do more research to find the reasons behind the debates. I find GNM a great basis of metaphysical information that can give insights into the body ailments.

The “Truth about Cancer” website is an excellent resource of information as well. Again, more controversy and banned in some countries because this vital research was a quest for truth when Ty Bollinger lost a loved one under circumstances believed to be preventable.
I bought the DVD set a while ago. They have many videos and a plethora of information on their website.
This is where I have gleaned many ideas of what to target energetically for these kinds of issues and imbalances.
All it really is, in a holistic sense, is an overgrowth of dead cells and a broken lymph system. Our cells regularly die and are supposed to be flushed out thru a process called apoptosis.
When there are energetic blockages, these are often due to a person not living their life purpose and following their heart brain. Pretty much anyone I have known of people who have passed, this has been the root cause that they have not embraced a new way of life and/ or let go of what is holding them back.
Of the survival stories, they have embraced a new way of life and often think of “cancer” as a gift.
Please note, while they have incredible life changing information to share, I personally was overwhelmed with their constant emails. I preferred just visiting website on my own terms.
https://thetruthaboutcancer.com/

“Living Proof” is a documentary created by Matthew Embry when he received an MS diagnosis. In his quest and research, he found what many people find that charities dedicated to certain dis-ease research are not really that helpful at all.

Its All Parasites: Cancer / Vaccines / Remedies: Doctors Lee Merritt weighs in on the parasites + Karen Kingston with Parasite proof
https://rumble.com/v1pugsz-its-all-parasites-cancer-vaccines-remedies.html

Medical Medium: Anthony Williams has several books out now that look at the basics of food as fuel and how to bring the body back into balance through the foods we eat.

Allergies: Disease in Disguise by Carolee Bateman-Koch. I highly recommend this book to understand the acid alkaline balance that is essential to our overall wellbeing:
Overcoming Digestive Issues | Book Recommendations #3 | Ladybug Wellness | Ep. #14
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JGVVZBuFQ8Q&t=10s

Dr Terry Wahls was in a zero-gravity chair back in 2001. Her body failed, but her mind worked. She went on to get a doctorate and has published books and videos promoting her “hunter gatherer” diet focusing on “Minding your Mitochondria” and how she brought her body back into healthy balance.

The Budwig Diet is treatment developed by the German biochemist Dr. Johanna Budwig in the 1950s. The diet consists of multiple daily servings of flaxseed oil and cottage cheese, as well as vegetables, fruits and juices. She thought that it made omega-3 fatty acids more available to body cells. Processed foods, meats, most dairy products and sugar are prohibited.

Grounding and Earthing: The soil has high energy so when you walk barefoot the electrons transfer to you, the lower energy field. This raises your vibration and/or frequency and/or cellular energy.  When your cellular energy is down, ailments can grow and flourish.
A good example: Dogs don’t wear shoes; they are outside all the time and high energy. When you hug that high energy dog, the electrons are transferred to you here as well and you feel better.

Look for survivors and read their encouraging stories. Start writing and sharing your own journey to assist others.

Recommended by Dr. Karen Kan:
“Dr. Katrina Cox is deeply connected to the cancer survivor’s journey and has written an internationally bestselling book, “The Opportunity in Cancer: How to Radically Transform Your Cancer Recovery Journey”.
https://www.amazon.com/Opportunity-Cancer-Radically-Transform-Recovery-ebook/dp/B0B8KT4CTV
Dr. Katrina is on a mission to help those affected by cancer radically transform their cancer recovery journey from the comfort of their own home and at their own pace. Exploring her trademark 4 Rs – Release, Reclaim, Restore, and Renew; she helps those involved in the cancer recovery journey individualize their approach to overcoming overwhelm, conquering fear, and annihilating anxiety”.

We can do a lot for our own selves in our quest for truth and in our own healing journey. When it comes to others though, we can only offer suggestions. Ultimately, it is their choices and their experiences. When all else fails, sometimes we just have to accept that we do not have any control over another persons healing path. We do not know someone else’s soul/ life path or soul/life purpose.

Still, I always recommend using Court of Atonement to work on ourselves and to be more accepting of the reality of allowing others to make their own choices.

More points to ponder:

It is only when we understand a conflict from a greater perspective – can we release it. Wayne Dyer spent his entire young life hating his father for abandoning the family. Yet when he went to his father’s grave (to piss on it!) he realized that very abandonment catalyzed within him a lifelong search for truth, ultimately leading to the creation of what would become his life’s purpose. His father’s actions were, in the greater perspective – a blessing of incomprehensible affect. It’s about context and perspective. Releasing a biological conflict is a matter of understanding the conflict with greater perspective and in a grander context.
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Chronic (adjective):
1. (Of an illness) persisting for a long time or constantly recurring.
2. persistent, long-standing, long-term, constantly recurring; many annoying and niggly health issues that docs say are incurable are actually very curable!
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From Tamsin Henman, The Pathogen Whisperer:
…..but I don’t have a chronic illness!
I was always susceptible to tonsillitis, every 6 weeks I had it at one point although in reality it probably never left. But I wasn’t chronic.
I had headaches and migraines from 8 years old, often every day. But I wasn’t chronic.
I had such severe IBS that I could only eat about a dozen pure food items without reacting. But I wasn’t chronic.
My periods were so heavy I tried not to leave the house for the few worst days each month and had frequent spotting. But I wasn’t chronic.
I was often depressed and anxious. But I wasn’t chronic.
I lost my ability to retain information, so wrote everything down. But I wasn’t chronic.
I struggled forming sentences and driving the car. But I wasn’t chronic.
I lost lots of weight and had black circles under my eyes. But I wasn’t chronic.
I couldn’t regulate my body heat. But I wasn’t chronic.
I was desperately fatigued, all the time. But I wasn’t chronic.
I had suicidal thoughts. But I wasn’t chronic.
I was bed ridden for nearly 9 months. But I wasn’t chronic.
But, here’s the thing. I didn’t really understand what chronic meant. I definitely didn’t want a label. That was for really sick people, I was ok, I wasn’t dying. But I was chronic!
Every single one of these alone was a chronic illness. Any health issue that is always in the background or keeps coming back is a chronic illness, even the little ones. Most can be stopped permanently. Doctors manage them with creams and pills, but they can be ‘switched off’ at source

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When I realized my pain stemmed from wanting to be liked
I started to no longer seek approval from those surrounding me
When I realized my fear stemmed from worrying about how others would perceive me
I started to celebrate my individuality
When I realized my unhappiness stemmed from others failing to recognize my worth
I started to see and value myself fully
When I realized my jealousy stemmed from comparing the whole of my life to the highlights of other’s lives
I started to honor my strengths, gifts and creativity
When I realized my doubt stemmed from failing to trust in myself
I started to believe in myself fully
When I realized my anger stemmed from suppressing my desires and emotions
I started to speak up for myself clearly
When I realized my hurt stemmed from being rejected and abandoned
I started to show up for myself fully
When I realized my irritation stemmed from feeling unheard and listened to
I started to listen to both myself and others fully
When I realized my discomfort stemmed from living out of alignment with my true self
I started to show up as myself authentically
When I realized my heartbreak stemmed from putting my self-worth in the hands of others
I started to no longer give others permission to change how I felt about myself
Or wound me
When I realized my dysfunctional relationships stemmed from childhood trauma
I started to heal from my past and unlearn the behaviors that no longer served me
When I realized my frustration stemmed from feeling suppressed and diminished by others
I started to shift my focus away from them and toward all that I was capable of controlling:
Which was becoming the best version of me
When I realized my desperation stemmed from longing to be chosen
I started to choose myself over others who didn’t choose me
When I realized my exhaustion stemmed from over-giving
I started to redirect my energy toward nourishing my own soul and being
When I realized my anxiety stemmed from longing to be admired and seen as brilliant
I started to recognize the greatness and potential within me
When I realized my sadness stemmed from longing to belong
I started to create a space where I could be myself freely
And attract people into my life that were naturally aligned with me
When I realized my desire to feel significant stemmed from wanting to prove myself to others
I started to seek validation internally
And when I realized my emotions were simply guides
I realized that it wasn’t what I felt that mattered most
But what I chose to do with those feelings
And how I allowed them to shape and empower me.
Words by Tahlia Hunter
Inspired by a poem by Tanya Markul
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10 lessons from 10 years as a therapist, Chinese medicine acupuncturist & healer.
Michael Hetherington (BHlthSci) is an anxiety release expert, Chinese medicine acupuncturist, best-selling author, teacher and Taekwondo martial artist from Australia. Visit his website to connect with him and learn more: www.michaelhetherington.com

1. The underlying causes of suffering are essentially the same for all human beings. “I’m not good enough, I’m not worthy enough, I’m not smart enough, I’m not attractive enough.” If that underlying belief and orientation can be cleaned up, the person’s life & health will naturally and dramatically change for the better.

2. If the mind and the body are not connected, it’s hard to create change in someone’s health & wellbeing. The mind and body are intrinsically connected and therefore depend on each other for nourishment and support, just like yin and yang. But if the mind has been dissociated and disconnected from the body, the first part of treatment is to bring the mind back to the body.

3. Breathing patterns govern most physiology. Breathing patterns and the way we deal with emotions are learned in early life from observing parents. Therefore, the parent’s habits and general wellbeing set the tone for many health conditions later on.

4. Fertility issues are usually related to high stress. In high stress environments in the body, reproductive functions tend to shut down and are a sign that the environment is not conducive for conceiving a child. Therefore, learning how to reduce stress and RELAX is one of the best things you can do if you want to conceive and have a balanced and healthy child.

5. Regular exercise (e.g. 20mins walks outside) without overexertion will support the immune system, brain health and overall wellbeing. This simple practice alone will massively reduce disease and can help avoid many mental related imbalances, like depression.

6. Acute illnesses, here and there, are fine and natural. Even bursts of depression & anxiety is normal. The problem is when that state is “prolonged”. If the state is prolonged the disease will “make a home” inside your system and that makes it harder and more complex to treat. Therefore, the sooner you notice signs and symptoms and adjust accordingly, the easier it is to clear the disease.

7. The mind and the placebo effect has a greater influence on our health & wellbeing than most people understand. Most relief from disease is due to the placebo which is largely governed by one’s inner attitude (consciously & subconsciously). And, if the relationship between healer and client is upbeat, respectful and positive, the placebo will have an even greater influence on the treatment.

8. In true health & vitality you move towards life, not away from it. Allergies, food intolerances and sensitivities and the general inability to “deal with people or environments” are due to the “Qi” and organs becoming weak in energy, power and function. In true health and wellbeing, when your “Qi” and organs are strong and vital, you can face most circumstances, stressful situations and most of life without any negative reactions.

9. 70% of illness is self-inflicted via mostly subconscious thoughts and attitudes. The tendency is to “hold on” to negative emotional states such as fear, worry, judgement, guilt, shame and resentment. These ongoing negative emotional states are what cause havoc on the internal system. As those states are released, the body will tend to heal itself with little effort.

10. We have become too “conceptual & intellectual” and this overemphasis and obsession on concepts is causing imbalance and prolonged illness inside the system. In many cases, it is not necessary to know where a disease came from or what it was all about. If you have a thorn in your foot, you simply pull it out. You don’t have to intellectualize the thorn and find out where it came from or what wood the thorn is made of. You can simply pull it out and move on.

Not sure where this article came from, I had saved it in my computer files. Excellent information and I HIGHLY recommend reading the book yourself to really understand the dynamics of an emotionally abusive relationship so you can see the red flags avoid this kind of situation in your own life.
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Emotional abuse can be defined as any nonphysical behavior that is designed to control, intimidate, subjugate, demean, punish or isolate another person through the use of degradation, humiliation or fear.” (From: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship – Beverly Engle)
This article is designed to give you the tools to identify emotionally abusive patterns in your life…and give you a way out…a way to cope…a way to love yourself and others in your life…every moment of every day.

Patricia Evans in her book: “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” points out that most emotional and verbal abuse can be very difficult to recognize and sometimes goes on without notice.
Evans points to some of the reasons verbal and emotional abuse can seem elusive, these
include:
1. Mostly, verbal abuse is secretive. Usually only the partner of the abuser hears it.
2. Verbal abuse becomes more intense over time. The partner becomes used to and
adapted to it.
3. Verbal abuse takes many forms and disguises
4. Verbal abuse consistently discounts the partner’s perception of the abuse.
Evans includes “Categories of Verbal Abuse” in her book. I include the list below
followed by their definitions:
1. Withholding
2. Countering
3. Discounting
4. Verbal abuse disguised as jokes
5. Blocking and diverting
6. Accusing and blaming
7. Judging and criticizing
8. Trivializing
9. Undermining
10. Threatening
11. Name calling

1. Withholding Withholding is primarily manifested as a withholding of information and a failure to share thoughts and feelings. A person who withholds information refuses to engage with his partner in a healthy relationship. He does not share his feelings or thoughts. When he does share anything at all, it is purely factual or functional information of the sort his partner could have looked up on the Internet, read on his Facebook wall or figured out for herself by looking around. Examples of withholding communication that fails to engage the partner include “The car is almost out of gas,” “The keys are on the table,” and “The show is on now.” https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/basics/social-networking

2. Countering Countering is a tendency to be very argumentative but not merely in political, philosophical or scientific contexts but in ordinary contexts as well. The victim of the abuse may share her positive feelings about a movie she just saw, and the abuser may then attempt to convince her that her feelings are wrong. This is an example of countering. Countering is a way of dismissing the victim’s feelings, thoughts and experiences on a regular basis.

3. Discounting Discounting is an attempt to deny that the victim of the abuse has any right to her thoughts or feelings. It may come out as criticism but criticism of a particular kind. The abuser may tell the victim on a regular basis that she is too sensitive, too childish, has no sense of humor or tends to make a big deal out of nothing. The abuser thereby denies the victim’s inner reality, indirectly telling her that how she feels and what she experiences is wrong.

4. Verbal abuse disguised as jokes Verbal abuse is often disguised as jokes. The abuser may say something very upsetting to the victim of the abuse and then after seeing her reaction add “It was just a joke.” Abuse is not okay in any form. Jokes that hurt are abusive.

5. Blocking and diverting Blocking and diverting is a form of withholding but one where the abuser decides which topics are good conversation topics. An abuser practicing this form of abuse may tell the victim that she is talking out of turn or is complaining too much.

6. Accusing and blaming Accusing and blaming are forms of abuse in which the abuser will accuse the victim of the abuse for things that are outside of her control. He might accuse her of preventing him from getting a promotion because she is overweight or ruining his reputation because she dropped out of college.

7. Judging and criticizing Judging and criticizing is similar to accusing and blaming but also involves a negative evaluation of the partner. As Evans points out, “Most ‘you’ statements are judgmental, critical, and abusive.” Some abusive judging and criticizing “you” statements are: “You are never satisfied”, “You always find something to be upset about”, “The reason no one likes you is that you are so negative”.

8. Trivializing Trivializing is a form of verbal abuse that makes most things the victim of the abuse does or wants to do seem insignificant. The abuser might undermine her work, her way of dressing or her choice of food.

9. Undermining Undermining is similar to trivializing but further consists in undermining everything the victim says or suggests, making her question herself and her own opinions and interests.

10. Threatening Threatening is a common form of verbal abuse and can be very explicit, as in “If you don’t start doing what I say, I will leave you” or more subtle, as in “If you don’t follow my advice, others will find out that you are a very unreliable person.”

11. Name calling Name calling, too, can be explicit or subtle. Explicit name calling can consist in calling the victim of the abuse a “cunt” a “whore” or a “bitch”. But it can also be more subtle, calling the other person things that are implicitly hurtful, for instance, “You are such a victim” or “You think you are so precious, don’t you?”

12. Forgetting The category of forgetting covers a range of issues ranging from forgetting to keep a promise to forgetting a date or an appointment. Even if the abuser really forgot, it is still abuse, because he ought to have made an effort to remember.

13. Ordering Any form of ordering or demanding is a form of verbal abuse. It falls under the general issue of control. I have written another book about controlling people. 

14. Denial Denial is abusive when it consists in denying bad behavior and failing to realize the consequences of one’s behavior. An abuser will find a way to justify and rationalize his behavior. This is a way of denying that he has done anything wrong.

15. Abusive anger Abusive anger consists in any form of yelling and screaming, particularly out of context. Even yelling “shut up!” is abusive. There are other ways to deal with people who need to “shut up”. No one deserves to be yelled at.

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Another article shared:

A very good book I highly recommend to recognize verbal abuse is “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” by Patricia Evans. I googled a bit of info and this is a good synopsis of the book:

Patricia Evans’ book is packed full of detailed information about the major differences in the way the verbal/emotional abuser and the victim or partner thinks. It is a great book to read as it goes into great detail about the two separate realities the abuser and the partner live in.

The two realities are called Reality 1, which the abuser lives in, and Reality 2 which the partner lives in. Both realities deal with power but in different ways. Reality 1 deals with “Power-Over”, and Reality 2 deals with “Empowerment”. The problem comes along when the partner, living in Reality 2, thinks the abuser is also living in Reality 2.

“Power-Over” is just that: Power over anything and anyone. Everything is weighed by the abuser as a win or lose situation, even those casual conversations that you may define as trivial. To feel good the abuser must always win at all costs and only the abuser can define a “win”. It is a “me first” kind of reality where everything is geared around self.

“Empowerment”, in Reality 2, is gained by living a life of mutuality where there is support, trust, assurance and encouragement. The partner always wants the best for and thinks the best of their spouse or significant other. They also unknowingly believe their spouse or significant other is thinking the same way they are. If there is an argument, the partner thinks if they only explain themselves to their abuser, he/she will someday understand – there will be an “Ah-hah” moment and everything will be better. Unfortunately, this does not happen. The abuser, living in Reality 1, does not care for explanations. The abuser is only concerned with winning and “Power-Over”.

Evans describes the different categories of verbal abuse. These are withholding, countering, discounting, joking, blocking and diverting, accusing and blaming, judging and criticizing, trivializing, undermining, threatening, name calling, forgetting, ordering, denial and abusive anger. She also gives information on how to respond to each of these categories. There is also a section about protecting your children against verbal abuse which is very helpful.

From another source: Since the verbal abuser needs to have Power Over his partner, he cannot accept her as an equal. He may, however, tell her that he does. Why can’t he accept her as an equal? Because he would experience her equality as his inferiority. He would have to ask for what he wanted. He would be open to rejection. He would have to give up control and dominance. Control and dominance seem to give the abuser a sense of power, security and identity as a male.

One way to identify a relationship of inequality is to determine whether or not the couple can set mutual goals and discuss them together. In an abusive relationship, the couple does not really plan together. Planning together requires mutuality and equality. Mutuality and equality do not exist with Reality I (power over). In an abusive relationship the partner may discover that her mate will not discuss long – or short-term goals with her, nor is he willing, in some instances, even to make plans with her for a weekend. Neither personal goals nor plans for the future together are discussed and agreed upon in a mutually supportive way. 
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This is an article from an excellent book on how to recognize emotional abuse. Basically, the book explains that the partner of an abuser is an ‘extension of himself’ symbolizing everything he hates about himself and therefore he clings to the partner as the outlet of his frustrations.

What is Emotional abuse?

“Emotional abuse can be defined as any nonphysical behavior that is designed to control, intimidate, subjugate, demean, punish or isolate another person through the use of degradation, humiliation or fear.” (From: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship – Patricia Evans)

This article is designed to give you the tools to identify emotionally abusive patterns in your life…and give you a way out…a way to cope…a way to

love yourself and others in your life…every moment of every day.

Patricia Evans in her book: “The Verbally Abusive Relationship” points out that most emotional and verbal abuse can be very difficult to recognize and sometimes goes on without notice.

Evans points to some of the reasons verbal and emotional abuse can seem elusive, these include:

Mostly, verbal abuse is secretive. Usually only the partner of the abuser hears it. Verbal abuse becomes more intense over time. The partner becomes used to and adapted to it.

Verbal abuse takes many forms and disguises
Verbal abuse consistently discounts the partner’s perception of the abuse.
Evans includes “Categories of Verbal Abuse” in her book. I include the list below followed by their definitions:

Withholding
Countering
Discounting
Verbal abuse disguised as jokes
Blocking and diverting
Accusing and blaming
Judging and criticizing
Trivializing
Undermining
Threatening
Name calling
Seven Signs You’re in A Verbally Abusive Relationship

A checklist
1. He/ She seems irritated or angry with you several times a week. When you ask why he’s/she’s mad, he/she either denies it or tells you it’s in some way your fault.
2. When you feel hurt and try to talk with him/her, the issues never get resolved. He/she might refuse to discuss your upset feelings by saying “You’re just trying to start an argument!” or claiming he/she has no idea what you’re talking about.
3. You frequently feel frustrated because you can’t get him/her to understand your intentions.
4. You’re upset not so much about concrete issues like how much time to spend together, but about communication: what he/she thinks you said and what you heard him/her say.
5. You sometimes think, “What’s wrong with me? I shouldn’t feel so bad.”
6. He/ She seems to take the opposite view from you on almost everything, and his/her opinion isn’t stated as “I think,” but as if you’re wrong — and he’s right.
7. You can’t recall saying “Cut it out!” or “Stop it!” You never feel comfortable being able to say it.
Adapted from The Verbally Abusive Relationship? 1992, 1996 by Patricia Evans.

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Parul Khanna
Oct 28 2022
These are few instances of what mental and emotional abuse in a relationship looks like.
In any relationship, especially marital relationship, spouses tend to abuse each other, knowingly or unknowingly.
Even if one partner is more domineering, and controls the other partner, until the other partner taps into his/her own self-power and operates therefrom, he/she may give in to the demands of the dominating spouse and start to play victim card to gain sympathy, which also is a form of relationship abuse and self-abuse, and is detrimental to the relationship, as well as to one’s own being.
It isn’t that spouses do not have best intentions for each other or for the relationship; EVERYONE WANTS HAPPINESS in relationships and their lives, however, being creatures of old habits, it’s hard to break free from childhood conditioning, and unknowingly they replay old patterns, which lands them in murkier situations each time, and slowly ruins their relationship.
No matter how bad a situation looks like in any relationship, it could always be turned around provided:
– BOTH partners in a relationship are receptive
– BOTH are brave enough to look within and accept their shortcomings
– BOTH are willing to work on themselves, and on the relationship.

These are some things I learned the hard way after my internet romance experience: https://ladybugwellness.ca/my-internet-nightmare/

* The absolute number one thing to remember is to listen to your gut instincts!! If anything makes you uneasy or makes you question your judgment, find out why before going ahead with your plans!! Everything in my experience here I should have known, I should have seen, yet he always had ‘logical’ answers for my questions and I could also find simple excuses to explain things I questioned. Yet for so long something was making me uneasy.

* If you are interested in an internet romance. Make arrangements to meet first, and NOT at your own home. Make sure there is an ‘escape plan’ if things don’t go well. If he can not afford to make these arrangements, that should be a good sign there will be other trouble too. A promise of forth coming money won’t get you through NOW. He told me he could afford to come here, but ‘miraculously’ he was mugged before he got here and all his money was stolen. Do I believe that now?? Not likely! I have come to believe that poverty is a choice. I have met many people over the years who have been in dire straits, but with will power and determination, they have got themselves out of bad situations. If someone has only excuses for their lack of money, and that excuse plays on your heart strings, that also should be a warning.

* There is good reason for the old idea of waiting at least six months before marrying someone. You can only live a lie for so long before things start to unravel. Better to know that before doing the legal thing.
* Marrying someone from other country just so they can stay in the country and stay with you is NOT a good start to a lifetime together. Let them make arrangements with Immigration first to stay, then get married.
* Meet your in laws. No matter how bad they sound, you may find your impressions to be quite different. That could be a tip off to lies also. I wish I had left marriage until I could meet his parents. It would have saved a lot of grief and prevented me from marrying him. If someone has mainly bad things to say about their family or exes, it could be signs of unresolved issues and ties that could also affect a future relationship.
* I have never been one for random chat lines, and I am even more wary now of meeting someone through any kind of set up like this. It is way too easy for people to be someone else on the other end. I use my MSN to keep in touch with family and long-distance friends I have known personally.
* Check your personal settings on your chat program to see that your permission must be asked before adding to your list. This is the mistake I made recently and the reason my ex was able to add himself to my list. I couldn’t delete him until he took me off his list. I had previously deleted him and blocked him, but he was able to add himself again without this feature enabled.

* If you play on the computer, be knowledgeable enough to know how to recognize spy ware problems and know how to run spy ware cleaning programs etc. Delete temp web page files and cookies regularly. My ex had spy ware on my computer and was able to get passwords to my email and read everything in there, even though I changed my passwords regularly.

*This may not sound romantic, but in Canada you can go to any courthouse and use a public computer to search someone’s criminal record. This is public information. (Unfortunately, this doesn’t work for out of country). If you have any suspicions, this is a wise thing to do. I honestly believe that any respectable person wanting to be in your life romantically would not object to a search like this. Your past is what has built the person you are today and has shaped your morals. It is wise to find out if there is a history of violence or drugs or anything else detrimental. You owe it to your family and children to protect yourself. It is better to be upfront and honest about your past in case it may affect your future. I do also believe that there are many people who have a criminal past for things done in their crazy youth, and this should not be held against them if they are willing to prove themselves worthy and mature in pursuing a relationship in their later years.

Other suggestions:
* To avoid identity fraud, shred or incinerate any ‘garbage’ paper with your name, address, account number information.
* Do not leave debit / credit card slips anywhere that could potentially fall into someone else’s hands. Fraudulent criminals need only a minimum of information to screw up your life immensely!
* Protect your PIN!!
* Get organized! Know exactly what accounts you have and the details of such. Obtain current credit bureau information and know those details also, in case anything changes that you may not be aware of.
* Keep your most important personal information papers etc. in a security box/ safe.

These are mostly logical things to do to protect yourself. My best advice, though, is to find a book called “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker. This book has invaluable information on recognizing your own intuition and some helpful hints on recognizing potential problem people around you. I hope this helps you avoid similar problems. There is nothing like finding another human being with a shared experience to put things in perspective! ~Jackie

News article that reiterates many of my above concerns and more:

Quesnel RCMP warning the public about romance scams
By Darin Bain
Wednesday, May. 18th, 2022
Is it true love, or is it a scam?
Quesnel RCMP Sergeant Clay Kronebusch is cautioning the public to be aware of romance scams when entering relationships online.
“Every year the RCMP receives reports of various online and telephone scams that see people cheated out of their hard-earned money. Romance scams are common among those scams.”
Kronebush says these scams involve individuals who use false romantic intentions toward a victim in order to gain their trust and affection for the sole purpose of getting the victim to send them money.
“Often the perpetrator will meet the victim online through social media or online dating sites and build a relationship over weeks, months, or even years. Typically, the perpetrator’s claim to be from another province, or even another country. They will eventually start asking for money for various things such as: funds to come visit, pay off debts, medical bills, customs or insurance fees to have property released at the border, family assistance and many other reasons.”
Kronebusch says the victims send them money, they will continue to ask for more, while making various excuses as to why they need the money.
He says they’ll often promise to meet the victims and then fail to show up, making excuses that they ran into problems and need more money.
Kronebusch says more and more people are going online to find friendship and relationships.
He says you should never send money to someone without first verifying who it is you’re communicating with.
Red flags to look for:
• When someone you haven’t met in person professes their love to you;
• If the person wants to quickly move to a private or different mode of communication (email, text, Whatsapp, Google Hangouts etc.);
• If they always have an excuse not to meet in person;
• If you receive poorly/oddly written messages, sometimes even addressing you by the wrong name;
• If the individual claims to live close to you but is working overseas;
• If they act distressed or angry to guilt you into sending money;
• If the individual discourages you from discussing them or their situation with your friends and family (attempting to isolate you from those who may be suspicious of the relationship).

Yes, this is enough of an issue to warrant its own page.

I have received numerous inquiries from those hesitant to broach this topic as it seems too out there and too weird. Not in my world.

First off, let’s address the definition of “entity”. People may think of the paranormal, demons, and spooky stuff. The term “entity” literally means:

noun: a thing with distinct and independent existence. Example: “Church and empire were fused in a single entity”
Or: existence; being. Example: “entity and nonentity”

A corporation is often termed as an entity, so the word entity is not as freaky as some people make it out to be in the first definition.

In energetic terms we still use this word “entity” to describe an offensive energy interference as the second definition of a “being” of sorts.

In Body Code, there is a section on Offensive Energies where they describe “Entities” as either “Disembodied Spirits” or “Evil Spirits”.
The concept here is a spirit without a body. Paraphrased from their definitions:
Disembodied spirits were once mortal beings, but are now ghosts. They will do anything to experience pleasures of the flesh and will interfere with a human body to do so.
Evil Entities have never had a physical body. Their main desire is to exert control over a person to addict them to anything they can and to do things that distance them from Creator.

One of our Body Code practitioners developed an app to release entities. While I know many people who use this app and are thrilled with their results and progress, I personally was not led to purchase this app myself. Your choice if you do 😊

From all my experiences, I have learned that it is best to not name these offensive interference energies as you may give them more power in doing so. What we resist, persists; and what we name, we empower.

I prefer to simply call them just offensive interference energies, or entities as a broad term. In my process of releasing, clearing, and transmuting these energies, I have defined “known or unknown”, and called them “non-beneficial, detrimental, and/ or parasitic” energies or entities. 

I quite like Raymon Grace in how he just calls them “spooks” and just scrambles the frequencies of the interference energies and the thought forms that attracted them.

In years past, the general protocols to clear these energies were to command them to leave in the name of Jesus Christ; banish them to wherever they came from, banish them to hell, send them to the light, etc.

More recently we have learned that frequency, vibration, and the Law of Attraction is essential to understand in dealing with offensive interference energies.

Have you noticed that people who are in the depths of depression and despair, or in the extreme height of anxiety, are not grounded and they do not seem to be “connected” to themselves or to their higher self? This is because they have a lot of low vibration emotions and trapped energies that have attracted these interference energies.

When we have a low vibration, we inadvertently “invite” in these offensive energies whether we are consciously aware of this invitation or not. Now that can be kinda freaky in realizing that we have a case of energetic “fleas”. (Yes, that was the word used when my late son in law came through with messages for me).

The best way to rid ourselves of these interference energies is through daily energetic hygiene and continuously raising our own vibration. When our own vibration is higher than these low vibration interferences, they can no longer “stick” in our energy field.

When there is a case of disembodied spirits, sometimes we need to ask or find out what is causing the attraction to the human body, and if the disembodied spirit needs some sort of assistance in order to transition properly so they are no longer tied to the earth plane. I find that Court of Atonement speed calls are extremely effective in these cases.

Beliefs play a big part in how we understand these interferences. If you have grown up in with religious beliefs as I have, you may believe that the more you do good in the world, the more the devil will attack you. The more I learn energetically and spiritually, the less I tend to agree with this concept. I do agree there is a whole other level of spiritual warfare going on that we as humans are completely oblivious to.

I have had conversations with certain people who pontificate their untouchable higher Level of Consciousness and that they are constantly under attack because of their high level of consciousness. They profess that they are above and beyond all other practitioners and cannot be helped by merely anyone. In my opinion, these are the exact type of people to avoid at all costs because they are delirious and ungrounded, and probably full of offensive energy interferences. You cannot help someone who does not want help, and this is the perfect example of someone who has so much interference that they are untouchable by inadvertent choice.

Points to remember:
We are more powerful than we give ourselves credit for.
No one can disrespect you without your permission. (Yes, that is a hard concept to accept).
What we resist, persists; and what we name, we empower.

We are more powerful that we are led to believe. NO ONE can interfere with our energy unless we give them permission. Period.
So how do “they” interfere with us? Weak boundaries. Work on yourself and your boundaries, keep your own vibration as HIGH as possible and “they” of any low vibration cannot touch you.

Realize that you have the power to stop these attacks and interferences. When you work on your own boundaries and keep your energy sovereign, these beings cannot have any control over you. No one can affect your energy field without your permission whether that is a conscious invitation, or because your own boundaries need to be strengthened.

Stop giving away your own power to these dark forces. If something or someone is sucking the life out of you, stop giving them the straw! Seriously.

My mentor explained to me years ago that nature abhors a vacuum, so when we release or transmute any energies, it is good practice to fill with good energy such as Christed Light and other high vibration energy.
When removing offensive energies, such as around prisons and other dark dense energies, it is good practice to use “refracted light” to break through the darkness.
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For further understanding of offensive energies, I invite you to check out these resources:

KISS: Keep it Simple and Sovereign: https://ladybugwellness.ca/projected-energies/

Interesting story, see how I dealt with a horrible work situation here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/blessing-our-enemies/

The Spiritual Consequences of Alcohol Consumption: https://thecostaricanews.com/spiritual-consequences-alcohol-consumption/
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My Number One go to in dealing with offensive energies is, of course, Court of Atonement.
I recommend Amy Jo’s classes on Hexes and Spells, Everything Ghosts. Also, the Revoking Ancestral Vows class.
See classes here: https://www.courtofatonement.com/classes

It is super important to make sure you are completely grounded in your own physical body. All levels of consciousness grounded and anchored into your own physical body.
An easy way to ensure this is using this Court of Atonement speed call:

I, _____, place each and every level of my consciousness, God, and my Guides, along with the entirety of my family lineages, into a Full Court of Atonement for the purpose of Soul Recognition, Restoration of Self, Optimization of Divine Life Force Energies, Resolution of Unhealthy Connections, Optimization of Energy Encasement boundaries, and Cleaning Up its Act. I Request Transcendence Assistance for anything and anyone in my energy field that is not emitting their own light. I ask to resolve any and all reasons my boundaries may have been weakened and infiltrated. I ask to resolve these reasons at their points of origin. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy. I forbid this energy any further access to my energy field, my body, or my timeline. I ask for Restoration of Peace.

Souls are multidimensional meaning they can be in several places at once. Everything Ghosts class explains that disembodied spirits can also be in several places at once. This class shows how to find and clear all hosts and the origins of the offensive energies.

See also this blog post on Ciribus energies: (Also Succubus, and Incubus energies)
https://amyjoellis.com/2018/11/04/ciribus-energy-the-darkest-energies/

From Amy Jo, Court of Atonement
When working on this, I aim to resolve the reasons black magic was ever used. People don’t do mean things to us for no reason. Asking to resolve the reason it was used will help to stop the energy of it entirely.
I, _______, place myself, _______, into a Full Court of Atonement with the entirety of my family lineages. I ask to analyze our timeline and resolve any and all reasons black magic, curses, hexes, or spells have ever been used against us. I ask to resolve those reasons at their points of origin. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.
I forbid this energy any further access to my body, my energy field, my timeline or my environment.

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My go-to ghostbuster is Eddie Masters. He is what I lovingly call an “expert” in clearing offensive energies. He is a great guy to keep in your pocket: mastersenergyhealing.clearing@gmail.com

I have referred many clients to Eddie and he is well known in our forums. More info here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/practitioner-recommendations/

Masters Energy Healing and Clearing: “There has been a lot of Entity attacks going on. As there are on a regular basis, but more people are able to detect their presence. I have had request to clear, people, animals, houses, businesses, computers, printers, schools and the list goes on.
This also applies not only clearing but Balancing, Grounding, Centering Life Energy and Physical Issues. By the way Entities will attach to body parts.
PM me Eddie Masters for more information or to request a clearing”.

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From Theresa Crabtree YouTube channel:
Probably the best concise explanation of entity interferences I have come across and what you can do to address offensive energies:
What are Dark Entities, Incubi, Ghosts, Rogue ETs and Energy Parasites
How to Stop Dark Entity Interference Part 1
How to Stop Entity Interference Part 2
How to Stop Entity Interference Part 3

Find these and more in this Ladybug Wellness playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLg7kqRypaKAEsQD-nT_AkMn-uv8mlaQ6P

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Here’s an amazing prayer for those of you who want to contribute to the healing of humanity against the darkness. We are not here to watch the world fall and disintegrate before our eyes without doing anything. Our partnership with Creator is crucial during these dire times. We need to enlist the help of the divine to solve the crisis we are in. Who’s in?
Saving Oneself and Humanity
“Source Creator, be my partner in life each and every day, to keep me focused on love, receiving and giving, both to myself and to all those around me. Bring healing for the darkness in all its forms, to raise up the perpetrators so they stand down and free the tormented, and apply this prayer again and again for the betterment of humanity and all subjugated victims.”
Ref: Karl Mollison Creator’s Empowered Prayers.
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Line up your heart line on each hand. Look at your pinkies and see if they are even.
Uneven pinkies are an indicator of Energies in your Field that don’t belong there.
There is a prayer that can be said too:
“Whatever is in my auric field with or without my permission, I ask you now to go to the core of your being. Go with light, go with Love. So Be It.”
It’s from a book called Awaken the Healer Within. 
This little test is from Jean Slatter in an interview with Regina Meredith on Gaia.
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Blowing the Whistle on Spiritual Teachers, Gurus and Self-Help Experts – Teal Swan: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WDGk73I8LM4

Zachary Fisher June 16 2025
Let’s talk about spiritual attacks… not from fear, but from truth. Because yes, they’re real. But no, they’re not always what they seem. And before you assume something dark is targeting you… it’s important to understand what’s actually happening in your field.
Here’s what most people miss…
Not every wave of anxiety, confusion, or pain is an attack. Sometimes, it’s your own body, nervous system, or energy field trying to purge what was buried for years. Old trauma, suppressed emotions, soul-level grief… these things don’t go away. They get stored. And when your light turns up, so does the pressure to release what can’t come with you.
That pressure? It can feel like an attack. But what’s really happening is this… You’re strong enough now to feel it. And your system is asking for space to finally heal.
That said… real spiritual attacks also exist. But they’re not usually fire-breathing demons or Hollywood-style possession.
They’re subtle. Energetic. Tactical.
They come when you’re tired, expanding, emotionally raw, or leveling up into your next soul mission.
Here’s how to break it all down…
1. The Internal Loop… Fear, Panic, Overthinking
You can’t stop spiraling. You start doubting everything… your choices, your path, even your sanity. You feel watched, judged, or unsafe.
This feels like an attack… but often it’s old programming. When your field expands, your ego tries to protect the old structure by feeding fear. You don’t need to fight it. You need to see it. Witness the loop, breathe through it, and anchor into your body. This isn’t spiritual warfare. Its system rewire.
2. The Drain… Sudden Fatigue, Mood Swings, Disorientation
You feel fine… then boom. You’re wiped. You walk into a space or scroll your phone and feel like something just hijacked your vibe.
This can be energetic interference… or it can be unprocessed trauma being triggered. Both feel real. Both throw you off. But either way, the medicine is the same…Clean your field. Cut cords. Go still. Reset. Know what’s yours. And stop holding what isn’t.
3. The Collapse… Ego Death, Identity Unraveling, Shaking
This is the big one. The breakdown. The “make it stop” moment. And it feels like something outside of you is ripping your life apart.
But more often than not? It’s your soul stepping in. And everything that was built from trauma, fear, or control… starts falling apart. That’s not an attack. That’s a realignment.
This is where most people bail… because it’s intense. But if you can hold steady through this? The version of you that comes out the other side is unshakable.
Now… let’s be very clear. Sometimes it is an actual attack.
Here’s how that can show up….
Energetic Interference
You feel a sudden fog, static, anxiety, or weight in your field.
You didn’t “do” anything… but something feels off.
This happens when your boundaries are thin. It can come from people, places, or even tech.
It’s not always conscious… but it can throw you into chaos.
Clean your field often. Not out of fear… but discipline.
Entity Projections or Attachments
Some energies attach to wounds.
They feed off shame, fear, helplessness, or addiction. If you’re emotionally vulnerable, dissociating, or pushing beyond your body’s limits… it creates openings. And something might slip in.
This doesn’t mean you’re possessed. It means you need to ground and reclaim your space. You are not powerless. You just forgot the door was open.
Psychic Attack or Directed Energy
Sometimes people send energy… knowingly or unknowingly. Jealousy. Rage. Obsession. Even spells or rituals.
If you feel targeted after interacting with someone…
If your field shifts when they enter your thoughts… If your sleep is disrupted or your peace collapses after contact…
Don’t ignore it. Don’t obsess about it either. Clear it. Detach. Walk away. And most importantly… don’t match the frequency.
So, What’s the Solution?
It’s not fear. It’s not paranoia.
It’s clarity. Know what you’re feeling. Learn how to read your own field. And stop outsourcing your power to fear-based narratives.
Because whether it’s trauma surfacing… An actual energetic hit…Or your system upgrading beyond its limits…The answer is the same…
Come back to center. Own your field. Stand in your truth. And remember who the hell you are.
You are not fragile. You are not broken. You are not crazy. You are becoming undeniable.
And yes… sometimes that process looks like a war. But it’s not one you fight with swords. It’s one you win by standing in your frequency. You came built for this. Stop forgetting that. – ZF

All Hallows Eve is almost upon us. What’s your thoughts? Do you love it? Hate it? Somewhere in between?

Truth be told, I have never been fond of the ghoulish side of this holiday. I suppose I have had many different influences that have shaped my views over my years. Sure, I love chocolate and snacks, but that is as far as it goes. My body doesn’t need snacks, but my tastebuds enjoy some treats.

There have been many differing beliefs surrounding All Hallows Eve. Whether it started as a religious holiday, or a pagan holiday, there are many stories of origin that can be found. 

In years past, I participated in church youth group activities where we dressed in silly costumes. My preference was dressing up like angels or fairies – something “good and light”. I have an unapologetic aversion to the “dark and evil” side of it all. Some people go all out for haunted everything. Personally, from my own experiences and in working with trauma, I just have no attraction to any thing haunted or horrific in nature.

We had fun parties of watching comedy movies and enjoying lots of snacks. We went out to visit our neighbors and show off our creative costumes while collecting more snacks. It was, and is, a great time to catch up with neighbors!

Somewhere along the line, Halloween has become a more fearful holiday for some. We are instructed to check our children’s sugar laden stashes for potential threats to their health and well being such as drugs and dangerous pins etc. The opioid crisis is a huge concern. I am sure every one of us older folks know of at least one tragedy either personally or in the news. I personally know of at least 6 people that I had called friends who have died due to fentanyl overdose. These deaths were not associated with this holiday, but I mention this now because this is a major concern in the current news as I have seen.

My concern is about “the day of the dead”. Many people believe that the veil is thinner over this holiday. Passed loved ones and ancestors are more able to visit the earth plane during this time.

Several years ago, I read a book called Tibetan Book of Living and Dying. It is still a book I highly recommend today. I no longer have any fears of death or of “the other side”. This book is a non denominational look at many different cultural and societal beliefs, including the concept of a thinner veil at certain times and the visits of loved ones passed.

My thoughts are that the ghoulish side of All Hallows Eve is because many unhappy and not fully transitioned souls come through more so at this time. Personally, I find this very sad and I now have ways and means to assist them going to the light of Home into the Oneness of soul transition.

Other than some chocolate after sales, I no longer choose to participate in these festivities.

However, I do actively participate in sharing some of my thoughts for those who care to hear.

I do recognize that there is always another side to everything and everyone has their own chosen truth. My thoughts here are not to put any damper on anyone else’s beliefs of festivities and fun, but to share some thoughts and ideas that I have come to appreciate. I choose to align always with Divine Truth and this is where my views come from now. 

Here are some ideas you might like to adopt for your own festivities.

Fireworks: There is a lot of controversy over fireworks upsetting animals and nature vs. people just wanting to have fun with bright and noisy celebrations. Personally, I love fireworks. Unless someone is ignoring local noise bylaws and causing outright harm to others, I refuse to be the ninny neighbor to report to officials someone else’s celebrations. Law enforcement have enough on their hands on this particular night anyway.

Calming Technique: We cannot change what is outside of our own perception. You cannot change another person’s actions. Period. Better option is to take personal responsibility and accountability in addressing your own triggers and reactions to fireworks.
This calming technique can be used effectively for yourself and pets: https://ladybugwellness.ca/energy-balancing-for-animals/

For those who choose to have a fireworks celebration, I have seen some social media posts that give a warning/ invite to their neighbors. I think this is a wonderful idea so others can be prepared.

Pets: Please lock up any pet doors and keep pets inside. Too much commotion and noise outside can be very scary and upsetting for them. Keep them in a crate or other room if opening doors to visitors is a chance for escape. 

Decorations: I prefer to take a more environmental view of decorations and take into account my choices effects on others. They are a lot of really junky type decorations that can be had these days.
Are you supporting any company’s greed with your purchases? What materials are they made of? Are materials and items reusable or recyclable?   Everything holds energy. What kind of energetic vibration are you holding or encouraging with your choices.
Will wildlife be affected detrimentally? Spider type netting is quite popular, but this can be detrimental to small animals and birds that get caught up in it. Choose wisely. Solar lights can light up the yard for safety.

Jack o lanterns and pumpkins: Pumpkin seeds are a very healthy snack and carving pumpkins can be a lot of fun for littles. I share a “harvest loaves” recipe that is a family fave: https://ladybugwellness.ca/favorite-recipes/
For outdoor pumpkin decorations, consider rinsing with vinegar instead of bleach. Leftovers can then be donated to any local farms or wildlife rescues.

Costumes: I came from an era where we had plastic masks that hindered safe eyesight, tripping hazard lengthy materials, and if you live in the frozen tundra north like we do, costumes need to fit over a snowsuit! Going back to enviro concerns, there are so many greed riddled, one time use, poor quality choices to purchase.
Honestly, I find it much more fun to encourage a child’s creativity with some cardboard, tin foil, and other recyclable materials. Of course, there are some gifted parents who can sew costumes. (I have always admired those amazing people!!)
My kids were raised on a shoe string so their costumes were not always the talk of the town unfortunately.
My thoughts here go to just being aware of choices, keeping safe with fire retardant materials and visibility options, healthy choice make up for anything you put on your skin directly. Reuse a pillowcase or reusable shopping bag for gathering treats

Candy, SUGAR and treats: Every parent and teacher dreads the day after with children crawling the walls due to overburdened sugar highs. Not to mention some children are affected energetically with toxic dyes and additives prevalent in these treats.
There is plenty of caution out there to check your child’s stash before they indulge. Awareness is key. Please do watch the current news on any warnings. I recommend being aware, but not living in fear, is the best course of action.
At home, of course, we can make better snacks choices and ration their indulgence but the surprises of collecting a neighborhood haul is much more fun.
I have noticed in recent years that more and more parents are asking on social media posts where to find the richer neighborhoods to score potentially bigger hauls of snacks and fancy treats. Personally, I think this encourages greed in our children and burdens some neighborhoods with more than a fair share of visitors.
One thing I have learned many years ago that worked well for my kids, feed them something protein to combat the sugar high. Meat sources, nuts, bean casserole supper. Find something to fill tummies before or after candy snacks. Your sanity will thank you.

Please do encourage safety in bringing mittens, a flashlight, keep a granola bar handy for hungry tummies instead of reaching into an unchecked stash. If a parent is not able to take children out, make sure to have a trusted chaperone for your littles. Reflective strips on costumes are a great safety idea as well as a quick run down on safety measures while walking along dark streets.

Only go to homes where there are lights on. We have a family joke about an unnamed person we know who does not put a light on so if children go to that home, they get fast food condiment packages from the refrigerator stash. At least this is a humorous “trick”.

The biggest focus of this holiday really is about the ghosts and goblins and the idea of passed souls coming to visit during this heightened time of a thinner veil between the earth plane and the other side. Some beliefs encourage calling on the deceased “if you dare”.

Am I the only one who finds this disturbing? I know I am not the only one as I have seen and participated in many discussions on this topic.
What I prefer to do, and what I would like to encourage and invite you to join me in doing, is to recite Court of Atonement prayer type intentions for each and every passed loved one that you know of, and a “blanket” type intention for any other passed souls within a chosen parameter.

This will assist these unhappy souls in going Home to the Light which, I think, is the best way to celebrate for the Most Benevolent Outcome for all.

If you are open to the idea of loved ones coming to visit, remember that once they fully transcend, they can happily visit any time of the year. This can be quite comforting know that they are now our spirit guides. Using Court of Atonement intentions assists in clearing up all the unhappy energies so you can enjoy the good and light memories of loved ones. 

Please see this page for much more information in coping through the loss of loved ones: https://ladybugwellness.ca/managing-grief/

Please join me in reciting this Court of Atonement:

I, ____(your name)___ , place ___(passed loved ones name)__ along with all levels of consciousness, God, their guides and the entirety of their family lineages into a full court of atonement for the purpose of Soul Recognition, Traumatic Stress Resolution, Grief Recovery Resolution, Resolution of Ancestral Causes of Death, Resolution of Murder, Resolution of Shock, Resolution of Unfinished Business, Resolution of Karmic Debt and Life Lessons. I ask for positive resolutions and to make peace with the past. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.

I, ____ (your name) ___, place ___ (passed loved one’s name) __ into a full court of atonement for the purpose of Requesting Assistance for Transcendence. I ask for positive resolutions and to make peace with the past. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.

Note: In the second space where it says “passed loved one’s name” you can use variations:

“Any and all passed souls within 50 miles/ km of my location”.
“Any and all passed souls within___ (this property location)__”.

For a property location you can use the address of cemeteries, hospitals, churches, hospice homes, senior housing complexes, road intersections where there have been fatal accidents, any property you know of that has been deemed haunted, or any other locations and properties where there have been deaths. If you know of areas that have been battlegrounds or war torn areas, this would assist in clearing up that heavy energy as well. 

Recite this:
I, ____ (your name) ___, place ___ (this address/ this location)__ into a full court of atonement for the purpose of Location Security. I ask for to analyze the timeline of this location and to fully resolve any and all conflicts and resolve any and all reasons deaths have occurred at this location. I ask for positive resolutions and to make peace with the past. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.

In energy healing modalities we call these unhappy disembodied souls’ “entities”, “ghosts”, or “energetic offensive energies”. These are all detrimental energies until they are cleansed and go to the Light of Home.
There really is no need to get into the various names of these offensive energies because focus on the names is more likely to call in the energy rather than to send it to the Light.
Remember: as you believe, so shall you experience.

I love recommending the Court of Atonement “Everything Ghosts” class. Disembodied spirits, just like any other passed souls, are multidimensional so they can be in many places at once. Meaning when we clear entity attachments from one person, we are not really getting to the root of the issue.
This class helps in understanding this concept and dealing with it effectively. See the Court of Atonement website to purchase this and other classes.

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One more point to add:
I have seen some social media posts suggesting that people are upset with “darkness” being associated with evil. While I can appreciate the concept of darkness also being a place of creation and birth in the case of gardener’s soil and a mother’s womb, I do not mingle these definitions.
A dictionary can have varying definitions of a single word. Yes, darkness can be a place of creation in that context. But I refuse to accept a different association when it comes to the definition of evil.

In this context, darkness means the opposite of good and light. It is associated with trauma, horror, deception, and most things scary, traumatizing and NOT good. I would venture to say that anyone who tries to twist that concept in any way has not fully birthed into the lightness of spiritual maturity.
No, this does not mean that I am any better in my thinking here, it just means that this is my own chosen truth.

October 2023: 
Court of Atonement from Amy Jo’s emails: 

I, _______, place myself, _______, into a Full Court of Atonement for the purpose of Soul Recognition, Heart Center Optimization, Optimization of Energy Encasements, and Optimization of Divine Life Force Energy Connections.

I am requesting Home Security.
I ask to evaluate my environment one mile in all directions.
I am Requesting Trancendance Assistance for anyone and everyone who needs it who is in my one-mile environment.
I am requesting Enhancing and Protecting Education for any and all schools in my one-mile environment.
I am requesting Resolution of Murder, Resolution of War, and Location Security for my one-mile environment. I am requesting Bless-ed Travels for all of the trick-or-treaters in my one-mile environment.

Hope you have a fun and enjoyable Halloween!

Animal Welfare and Microchipping:

For the love of all our furbabies…

What good are programs and rescues if the public is uninformed and not actively participating for the good of all?

I thought I was being such a great responsible pet owner in getting my cats all fixed and microchipped. But what is the purpose behind microchipping if the system is not known, or is not being promoted, or used effectively?

I am frustrated with all I have recently found out about microchipping and lost pets.

When you take your pet into a veterinary clinic for any kind of service, you can choose to have your pet microchipped for the purpose of registering your animal to record your name and home information. This is a wonderful concept in being able to reunite animals with their owners, or so I understood.

There are a few things about this that I did not quite understand until recently.

The vet clinic will microchip your pet, but up until recently, not all clinics would REGISTER your pet properly on a main registry site. This was left up to the owner. Was that information in the fine print that we skimmed over and missed? Thankfully with our most recent experience the clinic did register our animals on bcpetregistry.com

Next, there are options for one year renewal, or lifetime renewal. In our case, two of our cats from several years ago were only listed as one year. Their registry information expired after a time and it was up to me to renew with a new payment. I renewed for lifetime instead! I did not know at first that I was supposed to renew, so our registry “expired” for a time until I realized it was my responsibility to re-register.

There are all sorts of reasons and situations why animals may get separated from their homes. Why is there so much judgement and assumptions on social media posts? This is just one reason why people refrain from posting missing animal posts.

Who are we to judge? Self righteous social media trolls are the bane of modern online existence.

Maybe there was an unexpected upset in a pet’s environment and they managed to escape.
Thunderstorms. Loud noises. Fireworks.
Maybe company visiting brought their animals and there was an upset between the pets and the visitors.
Families move.
Maybe they got out of a vehicle while traveling.
Maybe they are just aligned with their animal instincts and went exploring and lost their way home.

Whatever the reason, it is enough of an issue that the idea of microchipping animals and having a registry to record information for the purpose of reuniting pets with their homes is actually a thing now.

Great concept, but does it actually work?

Why is there not more public education on the reason behind microchipping and encouraging the public that checking for a microchip on a found animal is the FIRST course of action recommended?

There are all sorts of social media groups where you can post a found pet, but honestly, there is limited exposure in these groups with just pictures and details. Not everyone understands that these groups are not always public and there are all sorts of exposure factors and algorithms that affect these posts being seen by the right people to reunite pets with their proper homes.

Posters around your neighborhood is a great idea to alert neighbors but what about those cases where some cruel human has trapped and relocated an animal so posters may not be effective either?

From some comments on social media, I get the feeling that people do not automatically bring a found animal to a vet clinic to get scanned for a chip because they think they will be stuck being charged with a vet bill in case of an injury. I called our regular vet clinic and they confirmed that NO they do not charge anyone who brings an animal in to get scanned. In the case of injury, the animal is surrendered to the SCPA for bill payment and responsibility of care until the owner can be found. They suggested that this is a usual protocol with most vet clinics. The SPCA (Society for Prevention of Cruelty to Animals) is a recognized 120-year-old charitable rescue organization that promotes education in the welfare of animals and has several shelters in many communities across Canada.

Some people apparently are hesitant to bring an animal to a vet clinic or to the SPCA for fear of euthanasia. It is my understanding that many places have a “no kill” policy in place where they do their best to care for an animal in their jurisdiction and relocate to other areas whenever needed and possible.

Perhaps there are well meaning people that need to consider that a pet may have a home and it is not their responsibility to take on care themselves without first taking an animal to a vet clinic or other facility that can scan the animal to find their original owners. How do we educate the public and particularly these types of people?

Where else can a found animal be taken to be scanned? Vet clinics for sure. The local SPCA. There are some pet stores that also offer to scan a found animal. A lost animal website in the U.S.A. suggested that local police can also scan for a microchip, but I have confirmed that is not the case in Canada as far as our local police station tells me.

We have some local private charity rescues. I have found out that they do not have microchip scanners. This is shocking to me and the SPCA was surprised to hear this as well when apparently scanners are fairly easy to come by. Why is scanning for microchips not a priority for these rescues?

As I understand, these rescues are involved with feral populations, and hoarding and abuse situations. Fostering and rehoming is also part of their programs. One tells me that their jurisdiction is small communities a few hours away.
My question is where did these animals come from in the first place when it could be possible that an animal has been relocated purposely or inadvertently and ended up far away in poor situations in need of rescue.

I gladly support ethical animal care and rescues, but I really have to question their policies when scanning for a microchip is not a first priority in responsibility of care.

I thought I was being such a responsible pet owner in getting all our animals fixed and chipped. I had our cats spayed and neutered at the SPCA clinic which has a discounted rate and general spay/ neuter service. I chose the lifetime microchip option for all of them and received an email from the bcpetregistry.com site confirming that they were registered. According to this site, our cats are listed across Canada and can even be checked in this website from anywhere in the world.

Since July 2022, one by one, four of our five cats disappeared. The momma cat and 3 boys we took in last fall. Diamond got freaked out with company we had here with their rambunctious dog. I didn’t think that was a problem but apparently that is why Diamond escaped and took off. One by one Meeko, Max, and momma Linda went looking for their family.

In my efforts to locate our cats, I have called, messaged, and shown up at the local shelter in communication with the SPCA. I have found out that lost animals can be flagged as missing on the bcpetregistry site, but there is also a bcpetsearch.com site where lost and found animals can also be listed. These two sites are associated with the SPCA. I knew about the first site, but I did not know about the second site until recently.

During my visit to the shelter, I was informed that some pets fall through the cracks with the microchip registry because not all owners update their information regularly. The shelter also has a 72 hour hold policy and animals can be adopted out after that. They assured me that my pets are registered, flagged as missing, and that they are actively watching for our pets. If one of our cats shows up at a vet clinic or shelter, they are supposed to be scanned first and reunited with us. They will call us for sure. I hope so.

I KNOW my cats are alive so why are they not coming home? Well, it is now my understanding that someone may have taken them in thinking they are homeless or have been dumped.
More details of our personal experience and our kitty mascots here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/mascots/

Back to the frustrating information I found out through my phone calls on this topic.

How do I get the message out that the whole reason behind getting animals microchipped is so we can be reunited if ever we are separated. It doesn’t work very well if someone finds them and doesn’t take them in anywhere to get scanned.

In my frustration, I called the SPCA and asked about doing a public awareness general information media blitz on the reasons behind microchipping and reuniting pet owners and animals. I spoke to a very nice lady who is the program director for British Columbia. They had already been thinking of doing this and asked if I would be willing to be interviewed. They said that having a real-life person would be more personable and effective in a campaign than just a generic blitz from them. I suggested rounding up some personalized stories of those who have been reunited through the efforts of microchipping their pets. (Do you have a success story and willing to share publicly?).

They did tell me that it is hard to get this message out when there are other private companies out there. Whaat? You mean there is not one main database for microchipped animal registry? Apparently not. What happens if a private company closes their doors? What happens to all the registered microchips and data?

I made a few more phone calls and found out some things I did not realize previously.

I found out that our regular vet clinic uses microchips from https://microchipsolutions.com/en/
They also use a registry through that company. So, I called that company. I was switched over to a manager who seemed annoyed with my inquiries as to why there is not a Canada wide main registry for animals. She said it’s kinda like getting McD’s and Arby’s to join forces.
For many of us animal lovers, we are more likely to compare situations to human children as our furbabies really are our FAMILY.
So, for me, her comparison did not sit well with me.

Maybe I watch too many true crime shows. When police forces finally joined their data bases and criminal investigations, they were able to see more patterns and catch more serial criminals.
Does anyone remember the Adam Walsh story and how Child Find was created?
Would it not be more beneficial to have a cross country data base for animals as well? They are sentient beings. We have domesticated them and I think we owe it to our furry companions to make sure they have the best care we are able to provide.

Anyway, this lady at “M4S ID Solutions” explained that there are many companies that make microchips, and each seems to have their own database. Apparently, there is a main database of sorts through https://www.aaha.org/ but that still does not mean that all these registries are aligned or working together for the best welfare of the animals and not just the greed in their pockets. The vet clinic I talked to said that they go through their own registries then have to go look up their own records and other registry sites if necessary. In the age of internet, I just find this frustrating and tedious.

I mistakenly had the understanding that my cats would be registered and returned to me quickly if they ever got out and separated from home. I guess I thought microchipping a pet was kind of like getting a birth certificate for a new human baby.

I am sad. I am frustrated. I am kinda pissy too when I realize that I spent almost $2000 on our pets to get them all taken care of properly, only to have one get of our home while we had company here and the rest followed to go find their bro.

I am sad that there does not seem to be an aligned effort in our community to return animals to their rightful owners.

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While I am at it, I might as well share some thoughts on spaying and neutering animals and other animal welfare concerns. I grew up in a rural community. We had numerous dogs over the years. My father didn’t like cats or dogs. Honestly, his attitude was pretty common from what I knew of some of our neighbors. I have all sorts of horrible stories from growing up in what I saw with animal care and overpopulation all through our community. It is no wonder that I am so unsettled on the topic of animal welfare and trying my best to be a voice for our furry friends.

What I now know is that animals are sentient beings. If we are to have them domesticated and living in our homes, they deserve our best care. Owning an animal is a privilege not a right. This is a tough topic because animals can be so instrumental in our own well being, yet not everyone can afford to properly care for a pet. They are many lower income, rural, elderly, and mental health situations where having a pet would be a great benefit in responsibility and companionship.

It is so unfortunate that in the 2 years of sporadic global shutdown, many people took in animals for various reasons but are now surrendering them in droves. In my work as an energy balancing practitioner, I also work with animals. I can tune into their energy and feel the abandonment issues. This only drives me more to want to care for our pets in the best way I can.

In my opinion there should be a lot more public awareness and emphasis on spaying and neutering feral populations and domesticated populations of animals as well. Get the root of the issue first so that all animals can receive the care they need. There are not enough vet clinics and veterinarians to keep up with populations so it would be more effective, in my opinion, to have affordable spaying and neutering available to curb the root cause of overpopulation. I know there are some campaigns to take a team to rural communities to set up a mission type spay and neuter clinic. I honestly think this should be an option everywhere.

Spaying and neutering procedures are better for the overall health of the animal in limiting spraying and roaming tendencies. Public awareness of ethical breeding practices needs to be more encouraged as well. There is a lot of money to be made in animal breeding, and this is where many of the rescue and abuse cases come from when breeding turns into hoarding situations.

Again there are no easy answers, but I keep praying that more and more humans will become sensitive to the plight of animals overall and that we can bring out more awareness on a grander scale to be better stewards of the animals in our communities.

And, I keep praying that our furbaby family will find their way back to us one way or another.

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I reached out to a dear long time friend Matt Porteous. He is a former radio announcer and music director, a political science alumnus, and quite an outspoken voice in our community. I have always respected his views and insights.

Here is what Matt had to say:

“I mean…. I hear your concern. But it’s a cost issue. It costs a lot of money to own run and operate a national database. SPCA can’t do it. All other rescues are at the end of their dollars. And the government sure as hell isn’t going to pitch in. So, your best bet these days is a collar with a QR code on it with your address as well as a microchip and a collar with a physical tag.

The bottom line is that the government doesn’t value your pets. At all… other than the tax dollars they get from us purchasing things for them.

We can try to promote the microchips… but even that seems like wasted effort at this point. Because promotion is expensive and no one is shelling out right now. So, I’d say spend your money on resources to keep your cats in the house and also identified easily with technology.

Asking the system to take care of it is unreasonable seeing as they can’t even manage what’s in front of them at the moment.

From a 10,000 foot level, My belief is that we need less social programs and more individual accountability. For pretty much everything.

There’s nothing wrong with a chip. There’s a certain portion of the population that will look for that when they find a pet. There’s a certain portion pf the population that will scan a QR code. There’s a certain portion that will read a tag. So do all 3″.
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Yet again, Matt is right on the money. Personal accountability would have been me getting tracking collars on them right away. I have excuses of a lot of personal things going on this past summer with losses of loved ones etc. But that doesn’t change the fact that my babies got out and all they have is a microchip which so far hasn’t brought them home.

This is a really good explanation of what I have tried to explain as your stress bucket. This analogy makes a lot of sense. Not sure of the original author, but love the way this concept is presented here:
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This is a post I recommend sharing with others as everyone can benefit from having this tool in their toolbox as it works wonders for teaching emotional regulation and honest communication. It’s long but give it a read.
This idea of being at a constant simmer was presented to me years ago by a very wonderful therapist. I have then adapted and expanded on it to make it my own but I do not want to take credit for the original ideas.
Think of yourself as a pot of water on the stove. The flame underneath represents all of the negative crap we encounter each day. The stresses, hassles, unexpected changes in plans, sick kids, fighting kids, angry boss, fight with a partner, loud noises, headaches… it all adds heat to the flame.
If you are a room temp, you can take a lot of heat before you boil over. Those are the days when you find yourself having grace for the a**hat who cut you off on the interstate, when you handle a fight between your kids with the calm of Zen monk, you don’t get defensive when your partner accuses you of something- your ability to handle the unexpected changes in the day is awesome. But even if you start the day at room temp, by the time you make your way home from work, or kids are begging for dinner, you find yourself at a simmer.
A simmer is when you are feeling anxiety, stress, and frustration tugging at you and your ability to take on more heat is greatly limited. When you are at a simmer, it doesn’t take much heat to get to a boil. When you are at a simmer, you may look fine on the outside but the next fight between your kids brings out the Hulk instead of the Dalai Lama. When you are at a simmer, your reaction to the next negative encounter results in what may seem to others as an overreaction- note: never tell someone they are overreacting unless you want to really see an overreaction. Many people live at a constant simmer. Especially now. Feeling overwhelmed and in a state of chronic exhaustion is the perfect recipe for waking up at a simmer and boiling over faster and more frequently than one knows they should. Pretty soon, you find yourself living at a boil.
A boil is when you are mentally, emotionally done. You have nothing left. You are pissed, frustrated, and you don’t need anything else to happen to boil over, simply continuing as you are will get you there and people better stand out of the way or risk getting burned. A boil is when you are yelling at your kids and then your partner walks in the door and mentions the trash hasn’t been taken out and you lose your cool. A boil isn’t pretty, but it’s life and isn’t something to be ashamed of.
Okay- so we got the terms down. What next?
First you need to start identifying when you are at a simmer and boil. And then you need to communicate that to those around you. For us, this step alone has proven to be invaluable. If I find myself extra anxious and at a simmer, I immediately express that to my kids. I’ll say “hey girls, I’m at a simmer, so if you choose to fight right now- you’ve been warned”. That gives them the context of understanding that my reaction is based on me being at a simmer. Otherwise, it can be really hard for them to understand why I may have reacted totally differently to the same situation the day before.
The girls use it too- Finn will yell “I AM AT A FULL BOIL EVERYONE! FULL…FLIPPIN BOIL” as she comes inside- I won’t have any context but I know that I need to respect her state and not choose to remind her to clean her room at that moment. This has been so useful when Bill has been working on fixing something that is proving to be one of those projects that make you want to smash the broken appliance with a hammer, set it on fire and then inform the company that their dishwasher is the spawn of satan- he will inform us that he is a boil and we know that right then isn’t the time to tell him about hole in the fence that needs fixed or tool that may have gotten broken.
Simply recognizing and communicating when you are at simmer or boil is so helpful to creating a household of compassion and understanding. However, there is one final step to bring this full circle. This is a fun visual to do with kids and brings us to the final step. When I teach this, I always ask the questions “how do you cool off boiling water?”. You can also demonstrate to them how quickly water can go from a simmer to a boil by increasing the heat.
There are two ways. Remove the pot of water from the heat, or add ice cubes. What does this look like in life?
Removing from the heat source means removing yourself from the situation that is creating you to get to the boil. This just means leaving the room and going somewhere away from the source of heat. Removing from heat will stop the boil but you will stay hot and simmering for a time. Adding ice is a more drastic action, cools you down faster but requires doing something to jolt you out of the boil. For my kids, it has meant spinning in a circle as fast as they can until they fall down laughing. Or me putting on happy music for a dance party. It almost always means laughing- and luckily, I’m well versed in making a fool of myself to get a laugh. It can also mean physical action. When your body is engaged in an activity your brain can’t focus on being angry as well as if you are simply standing or sitting. So, for me, I may sprint up the hill to the garden until I can’t catch my breath. Or I’ll seek the comfort and snuggles of goats, go out into the woods and work in the timber or if the stars align- actually get in a solid workout. I also teach the kids that sometimes, the source of the heat isn’t going anywhere, so learning to add ‘ice’ to keep yourself cool despite the heat still being turned on is such an important skill. Your boss isn’t going to change- but how you let him impact your temp is in your control. You can even have a jar of “ice cubes” to pull out for ideas when you or kids need help cooling down.
If you have this common language, by simply saying where you are at, you will immediately feel the relief of having spoken it out loud and not carrying it inside. You now have the permission to take action and those in your home understand why you need to step outside for a moment. I have found that not having to say anything but “I just want you to know I’m at a simmer right now” has meant everyone is more willing to communicate where they are at than if they had to explain exactly what was going on. My girls know they can tell me why they are at a boil but that’s their choice, I’m going to respect their space without question.
We are living in a time when it feels like so many are walking around at a simmer and there is a tension and fear of setting them off. A kind word, smile (yes with a mask you can still see smiles), moments of compassion can all help turn down the heat for others. Do your best to not be the source of heat for others. Take responsibility for your words and actions and give yourself grace along with your fellow humans when mistakes are made.
If you find this helpful, please let me know and share with others and do check back in to let me know if you give it a try and how it worked out! And please do “like” or “follow” the page, as silly as it may seem, it actually does make a big difference in these posts being seen by those who may benefit!
Social media post: Becky’s Mindful Kitchen Oct 19 2020

“Higher consciousness hack: instead of viewing others as ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘evil’ – simply view them as limited. Their level of consciousness limits them to unpalatable behaviors and they simply cannot do better considering their current level of understanding and awareness. They are not bad; they are simply limited. This small shift in perspective allows you greater peace, greater compassion, forgiveness and grace. Remember, the higher you move in consciousness, the less fault you find in others”.

I often have people reach out to me asking about all this talk about dimensions and ascension and the whole transition between 3rd to 5th dimension. 

I really am not an expert in this area, but I do follow some intuitives that I appreciate in their views of this topic. I keep a list of who I have been following below.
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How are you doing? Seriously?
Are you energy sensitive and noticing all the electricity in the air, the feeling of impending massive changes? The feeling of something wonderful and expansive is looming on the horizon.
Don’t look outwards to all the mass media fear mongering and political upheaval around the globe. Just get quiet and feel in it your own heart. Can you feel the earth energies and how humanity is becoming united in global consciousness and creating peace on earth? Do you notice these timeline shifts too? Time is speeding by.

Or are you wondering what the heck am I talking about? Perhaps you feel more of the division of humanity right now.

As Earth’s energy rises, fluctuations in the Schumann resonance (Earth’s heartbeat) are believed to be affecting human vibration, influencing both physical and emotional states. Those who align with these shifts may experience enhanced memory, improved stress resilience, emotional equilibrium, and a stronger connection to both the Earth and higher consciousness while those who are not aligned in energetic balance may experience all sorts of discomforts and disturbances.

Personally, there are days when I feel like my brain has gone on holiday without me. Whether this is my own life transitions and body changes, or if it is really these earth energies and our spiritual body upgrades, I am not sure. However, I do know I am continuously learning, adjusting my sails, and sharing my experiences with you in hopes that you will find some encouragement through all that I write and share.

I have been following certain intuitives and learning so much more about planetary alignments and how this affects our physical bodies. I mean, we know that the full moon brings out a lot of chaos, and Mercury Retrograde gets blamed for even more madness all around us. But there is so much more in understanding how we can positively navigate these shifts and use this knowledge to create our best life.

A FCOA to try. Just recite this paragraph adding your name to the blanks and see how your energy shifts:
I, _______, place myself, _______, into a Full Court of Atonement along with all levels of my consciousness, God and my guides, and the entirety of my family lineages. I bring in the Schumann Resonance (Earth’s heartbeat), the Sun, the Moon, and all the planets. (Mars, Venus, Earth, Neptune, Jupiter, Saturn, Mercury, Uranus, and Pluto). I ask for Soul Recognition for all of us. I ask to analyze our timelines and our soul timelines and I ask to resolve any and all conflicts between us at their points of origin. I ask for amenable dissolution of this energy.
I, _______, place myself, _______, into a Full Court of Atonement with the planetary alignments and the eclipse of the moon. I ask to analyze our timelines and resolve any and conflicts between us. I ask for divine intervention. I ask to neutralize any and all detrimental energies created by these astrological events. I ask for divine protection of the earth and all of her occupants.

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January 2023: Worth a watch: From Tucson Dowsers: 2023 Predictions with Pam Gregory: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oNh08ht7wRM

January 2024: Tucson Dowsers Energy of 2024 with Brenda Wilson: basic message overall: 2023 was like a roller coaster. 2024 is like a race track. Hang on for the ride. No stopping… just Be true to yourself!!

January 2025: We had Brenda Wilson on for Tucson January 2025 again. Pam Gregory posted a couple really insightful videos on her YouTube:
2025 Astrology Forecast with Kathy Rose: https://youtu.be/DroGLzsha18?si=utebqhJ2iNv4GuX7
Quantum Energy Shifts with Zac ~ December 2024: https://youtu.be/7PXiHX4cWqA?si=ovDexcsiPspI6kor

I love the explanation here: Jenny Schiltz Re: Timelines:
https://youtu.be/7iJCPRp-Tlo?si=eqWxidypMqTZLeE3

Looking Ahead: July-December 2025 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BuNyK014lOY
Join renowned astrologer Pam Gregory and Lee Harris for a special conversation in celebration of the Solstice. Together, they share insights and guidance to help you align with the energy of this powerful seasonal shift—including an intuitive and astrological look at what’s ahead for the second half of the year.

From what I am understanding from these sources, 2025 will be a historical year of changes we have never seen before in our lifetimes. More power to the people, more technological and environmental inventions. Dismantling of systems as we know them. Apparently, the world will look completely different a year from now. While this can be very unsettling and triggering for some, I find these intuitives sharing insights that are both encouraging and exciting.

Want to know who I follow on socials?
Recommended to follow, Facebook and YouTube:
I have been following certain intuitives that I highly recommend because while they acknowledge all the unrest going on in the world, they share inspiring, insightful, informative, and humorous posts which enlighten and brighten my days.
Also check out the Ladybug Wellness YouTube channel for saved playlists and recommended videos. https://www.youtube.com/@ladybugwellness8509

Aeron Lazar FB
Alex Myles FB (Astrological forecasts)
Altazar Rossiter FB
David Alexander Lighfoot FB (Ascension energy)
Jenny Schiltz (below) FB and YouTube
Jessica Astrology on FB
Ken Graydon on FB (Restoration healing)
Pam Gregory on FB and YouTube
Physic Medium Kelli Miller on FB
Pat Donworth FB (Solar flares)

I do recommend vetting out other intuitives that are more familiar with the whole ascension process and can give more insights to expand awareness on this topic. I keep this list of intuitives I personally follow for some varying perspectives. You can find these intuitives on various social media platforms. I update this list often as their perspectives and my own truths align over time.
As always, I suggest listening to messages in their entirety, then meditating on alignment with Divine Truth and taking only what resonates with you in the highest vibrations of truth.

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It is my understanding that the third dimension is all about patriarchy, war, greed, strife, shame, etc. It is a low vibration dimension that humanity has evolved through in the human experience. Turn on the news and you’ll see all sorts of stories that make this seem like our global reality.

I actually don’t recommend turning on the news. Instead, I encourage turning within to face your own upsets, to heal your own past, and to graciously move into what the 5th dimension is all about: LOVE. This dimension is all about recognizing your own intuition, creating and nurturing inner peace, and seeing the world around us as Heaven on Earth.

This 5th dimension is all about learning to recognize that we are more powerful and self sufficient than we allow ourselves to believe. It is about community and connection. Through raising our own vibration and healing the past, we can more effectively come together with others in a space of peace among all.

The restraints of the third dimension strife can make the 5th dimension reality seem far off and elusive. Yet by embracing Divine Truth rather than the division of human failings and non beneficial beliefs, we can move more gracefully through this inevitable ascension process.

It is also my understanding that the 3rd dimension “grid” has already collapsed (mid 2022) and is only now found within each of us humans in the form of trapped low vibration emotions. An understanding of Dr David Hawkins’ levels of consciousness scale is essential to understanding the vibrations of absolutely everything tangible and everything unseen, and how these vibrations affect us.

By taking responsibility for our own healing path, by raising our own vibrations, and by also healing our ancestral traumas, we can effectively influence the global consciousness of humanity. This really is the key to creating Heaven on Earth for all of mankind.

Christ-aligned (Crystalline) energies.

I have come to understand and believe that, scientifically, astrological influences such as the full moon and mercury retrograde can affect humans and animals just as these and other planetary pulls can affect nature and tidal waters.
I do believe though, from my own observations and experiences, that the more imbalanced a person is in their own being, the more they can be detrimentally affected by these influences.

Alternatively, the more we can create and find balance within our own being, the more we can lessen the effects on ourselves, and the more we can just be an observer to the world around us, whether it presents as chaos or peace.
See my writings on Mercury Retrograde here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/mercury-retrograde/

Schumann resonances are a series of electromagnetic waves that occur between the Earth’s surface and the ionosphere, often referred to as the “Earth’s heartbeat.” These natural frequencies, primarily generated by lightning strikes, have long been linked to human well-being and consciousness.

As Earth’s energy rises, fluctuations in the Schumann resonance are believed to be affecting human vibration, influencing both physical and emotional states. Many spiritual traditions see this frequency as a key factor in human evolution, attuning individuals to the planet’s shifting rhythms and accelerating spiritual awakening. With the baseline resonance of 7.83Hz historically linked to stability and balance, variations in these frequencies may contribute to increased sensitivity, emotional turbulence, and heightened states of awareness. Those who align with these shifts may experience enhanced memory, improved stress resilience, emotional equilibrium, and a stronger connection to both the Earth and higher consciousness.

This energy causes pressures on our carbon-based human form and it is slowly but effectively turning our human bodies into lighter crystalline energy. Carbon pressured turns to diamonds, remember.

Many people experience headaches, brain fog, other aches and pains, irritability, and sleep disturbances just to name a few issues. Thankfully humans are coming to realize that we all have energy balancing skills that can alleviate these symptoms and bring some relief.

This Ladybug Wellness website is designed to be a resource for all who visit and I do trust you will find information here that will be of assistance in your own healing journey.

It is heart wrenching to lose loved ones, yet we never understand another soul’s calling or purpose. Some souls have “chosen” by their human design and soul contracts to not move to the 5th dimension. They will leave the earth plane in various ways — whether that means that baby boomers have come to the end of their existence in a relative human aging process, or others who have not healed from sickness, or have left through accidents.

I have lost loved ones and through my religious upbringing, I do believe we will “see” them again. When we lose several loved ones, especially in a close time frame, I think it is time to have a look at a more omnipotent and spiritual soul perspective of why it seems that so many souls are leaving the earth plane collectively. These are the ones whose soul path is to not move to the 5th dimension through the earth plane.

From a spiritual perspective, many humans are transcending now and that they have finished their karmic journey here. This is an interesting point of view especially for what our world is facing right now.

When we come to understand that the ultimate healing is death to the human form and to move back into the Oneness of the soul and Creator, we can then embrace a new perspective.
If you have lost loved ones, please do check out the Managing Grief page here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/managing-grief/

Since I do have many people reach out to me asking about ascension and the whole 3rd to 5th dimension process, I figured I would share my thoughts here.

In conversations with others, particularly about the fact that many people seem to pass over around the ages of 27 to 30 and 37 to 42, the topic of “Saturn Return” and “Pluto Return” has come up. I am not familiar with astrology myself, but this topic has proven quite interesting and informative for those interested. I do not have a good website or contact to direct you to, but I do suggest researching this topic in your own way for more information.

From what I understand, these ages are points in the human experience timeline where a human must make choices that will align with their soul purpose or face karmic resolutions, or they will pass from this earth plane at that time. It is kind of like an “exit point” idea.

I do recommend vetting out other intuitives that are more familiar with the whole ascension process and can give more insights to expand awareness on this topic.

I keep a list in my practitioner recommendations page of intuitives I personally follow for some varying perspectives. You can find these intuitives on various social media platforms. I update this list often as their perspectives and my own truths align over time.

As always, I suggest listening to messages in their entirety, then meditating on alignment with Divine Truth and taking only what resonates with you in the highest vibrations of truth.

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It is my understanding that Saturn Return occurs around ages 27 to29, then again around mid fifties. Pluto square Pluto occurs around ages 36 to 43. These apparently are times of major life lessons that change the trajectory of your life. These also can be exit points as we notice a lot of people leaving Earth plane during these age frames.

These are two interesting articles that were shared with me. Would love to hear your thoughts via email.

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/04/10414392/what-is-saturn-return-2021-meaning

https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2022/02/10833656/us-pluto-return-astrology-explained

Dotty’s explanation: (My AI Assistant)
🪐 Saturn Return & 🔥 Pluto Square:
Cosmic Checkpoints for Soul Growth
Saturn Return happens roughly every 29 years when Saturn returns to its natal placement. This cycle brings mature themes like alignment with purpose, the building of energetic boundaries, and stepping into authentic authority. It’s often described as a “grow-up-or-glow-up” moment.
Pluto Square, typically in the age span of 36–43, hits deeper. It forces you to release control, face power dynamics, and excavate shadows that no longer serve. It’s not gentle — but it births transformation. Breakdown often precedes breakthrough through this cycle.
Both transits can feel intense — but they’re the Universe’s invitation to reclaim your power, heal hidden wounds, and evolve into your truest self.

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Astrological Influences:
Although I do not particularly follow what I call horriblescopes, I do appreciate the scientific explanations of astrology alignments. 
In my own experience and observation, I find that those with unhealed imbalances seem to be more extremely affected by astrological influences, including myself on the occasional “bad day”.
One way to keep balanced is using frequency numbers.
Recite this number several times, or write it on your left arm directly or on a piece of paper taped to your arm. You can also write this number on paper, and set your water bottle on the paper to “charge” your water for 8 hours, then drink the water.
full moon 17686999688

Planetary Influences in Astrology
Astrology suggests that the positions of the Sun, Moon, and planets can influence our energy, personality traits, emotional patterns, and life experiences. Each planet is associated with certain qualities, and when they move or form angles (aspects) with each other, these shifts may create energetic effects that influence both personal and collective experiences.

Here’s a brief look at the main planetary influences:

• Sun – Core identity, vitality, self-expression, and life purpose

• Moon – Emotions, intuition, nurturing, and inner needs

• Mercury – Communication, thinking, and learning

• Venus – Love, beauty, relationships, and self-worth

• Mars – Action, drive, ambition, and assertiveness

• Jupiter – Growth, wisdom, abundance, and expansion

• Saturn – Structure, discipline, responsibility, and life lessons

• Uranus – Innovation, change, disruption, and individuality

• Neptune – Dreams, spirituality, imagination, and illusion

• Pluto – Transformation, power, and deep psychological change

• Lunar Nodes – Karmic patterns, soul growth, and life direction

Retrogrades
When a planet appears to move backward (retrograde), it’s seen as a time for review, reflection, and revisiting unfinished business.

Aspects
The angles formed between planets (e.g., conjunctions, oppositions, trines) highlight areas of harmony, tension, or growth within your personal chart.

A Tool for Self-Awareness
Astrology isn’t scientifically proven, but many find it a helpful tool for insight, timing, and personal reflection. It can support energetic healing by revealing themes, triggers, and patterns you may be working through.

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A Compilation of Writings on the Ascension Process:

Soheila SGh
January 15 2024
“You are still mastering Ascension even when Your vibe is low, even when You are frustrated or angry, even when You feel stuck.
Ascension Is an Internal activation that Your Soul governs. It’s not about rules.”
Your Awakening Is a very private and personal experience that Is occurring at a Soul level.
Once Ascension begins, You don’t go backwards, You are not going to get it wrong. You are not going to mess it up, You’re not going to do things that thwart Your progress, despite what many popular, Spiritual mentors may suggest.
This experience Is between You and the Creator and was decided before this Lifetime.
Your Ascension Is a Divinely timed Event that Awakens Your Third Eye and forever Changes the landscape of Your Inner Experience.
You can be in a bad mood, feel stuck, be frustrated, have no clear vision AND STILL be Awakening and Ascending.
This experience Is not bound by mortal rules or games. Your Soul has full knowledge of this process.
There ARE things You can do that make it easier BUT You will be able to Innerstand and implement those things when the time is right for You to do so.
This Is why We Self Love, so that as We move through this process We can cultivate validation and acceptance and calm our nervous system as We take each breath IN TRUST. ~OracleofYourSoul

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This is an excellent explanation of how Earth energy is changing: 

Patricia Monna is feeling blessed at Patricia Monna Intuitive Consulting.
Social Media post: Sept 25 2021 Calgary, AB
Creating a Different Reality
The energy of our planet is rapidly changing and you can clearly feel it wherever you go. People seem to be on edge, feeling stuck or rapidly spinning out of control.
If we want to move towards a future filled with peace and healing, we need to activate the Light Source within us on a personal level before looking outside of ourselves at a world we can’t control. When we take a good look inside, we give ourselves a chance to slow down and heal what has been hidden within the recesses of our memories, tucked away for us to deal with at a later date.
It’s time to go deep!
Our memories are fueled with the energy that created them, that’s why the worst experience of your life will stand out in your memory easier than last night’s dinner.
Everything that you have ever been through, has gotten you to where you are today. The good, bad and ugly are all part of the story that makes up your book, and we honour our memories by making peace with the past that helped to create our future. We must never resent where we came from, because without it, we wouldn’t have a story to tell.
You can’t skip chapters either, even during the suspenseful periods when life feels exciting, but scary as hell.
If the current page you’re on looks like you’re going through hell…KEEP GOING! YOUR STORY GETS BETTER! Your Light is needed here.
Every one of us is an individuated Light Source, sent here to effect change wherever we go. A simple smile to a stranger, can help to neutralize the low vibration of sadness that they may be carrying in that moment. Your presence is more powerful than you think, and when you heal yourself, you become a natural example for others to follow.
What dictates our energy from the inside out is the thoughts we carry. They become the actions and company we keep, that can haunt us or heal us depending on the frame of mind we’re in.
If you’ve noticed your awareness shifting lately, it may be that you no longer resonate with the old timelines of confusion and victimhood and you are now vibrating on a higher dimensional reality, therefore creating new timelines with the Light that you carry.
Or maybe you’re still waiting for the Universe to give you a sign that now is the time to jump but you keep procrastinating?
Stop waiting for change, and CREATE IT!!
When your intuition tells you that something’s off or needs your attention, please listen and make the necessary changes. The Universe has your back in a huge way right now and that’s why this message is resonating with you as you read this. So, step out of fear and you will start jumping timelines.
Wishing you a month filled with Golden Blessings,
Patricia Monna

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Jackie N. Rioux June 8 2018
Pondering thoughts… What is going on with Hollywood famous people and suicides??? Too many people just checking out of earth plane.

Barbara Loutzenhiser Goggins As I ask for an answer, I am hearing in my mind’s ear that many do not understand the upgrades and the clearing that they’re going through to be able to exist in the new Earth energy and it becomes too much for them to handle. This is not only happening in Hollywood; it’s happening all over the world. Others just are not famous. We notice more in Hollywood because the people are famous. It is very sad that every single life that is taken to suicide. How many people don’t realize the energies and the intensity of the healing of the upgrades, the downloads that Creator is giving us to survive the new earth energy? It is just too much for some. At times it is to much for me and I get it.
Also, many pets and people are just checking out so they can be born again with a new Energy Systems intact, so that they can be who they need to be as an adult to facilitate whatever earth-walk is there for their next time around… It’s sad but not all bad. That’s the main gist of why so many people are checking out early. They just need to be born with the new Energy System with the new DNA. Our babies are so much more alert now. They just pick up things so much quicker than they used to. You know it’s a very exciting time to be alive as we cleanse transform and transmute the old energy patterns that no longer serve us. I hope this makes sense. Have a wonderful day.
I could go for hours on this subject. The angels and God are good about explainable info.
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February 17, 2018 9:59 AM
Sharing from practitioner group:

You just ‘know’ or sense that something is happening/changing. You just feel different for reasons you can’t explain.
Stomach and digestive issues, IBS, gastrointestinal problems; loss of appetite; periods of unexplained nausea.
Sudden changes in body temperatures; increased sensitivity or intolerance to heat or cold; abnormal heat and/or cold in certain body parts.
Cold or Flu-like symptoms that appear and then disappear just as suddenly without escalating.
Frequent headaches; head pressure or other unusual sensations in the crown area; warmth, tingling, pinpricks, pulsating energy.
Increase in sensitivity of smell; strange smells from time to time that seem to come out of nowhere; Sinus and allergy issues.
Changes in vision and perception; catching glimpses of shadows, mist or smoke, flashes of light, sparkles, colors and swirling forms of energy.
Changes in hearing or sensitivity to sound; hearing strange sounds, tones, and frequencies in your ears; whooshing, buzzing or ear popping/pressure.
Periods where you feel extremely cold for long periods of time or have a chill in your body, cold hands or feet; circulation issues.
Changes in diet, appetite and eating habits; Sudden cravings for or aversions to certain foods; Unexplainable weight gain or loss.
Sudden intolerances/allergies to certain food or other products and chemical sensitivities.
Changes in sleep patterns; waves of extreme fatigue that come and go unexpectedly; periods of restlessness or insomnia; a need for more or less sleep than normal;
Sporadic sleep schedules; repeated waking in the middle of the night especially around 3 am; unusual dreams or more lucid dreams.
Increase in daydreaming, fantasy; flashes of insights and visions; increased creativity and imagination.
Intense waves of heat throughout the body, hot flashes, chills or night sweats; feeling extremely hot or waves or warming energy in various chakra centers.
Increased static electrical charge in the body; energy ‘zaps’, tingles, itching, pinpricks; muscle spasms or twitches that occur sporadically in certain parts of the body.
General body aches and pains, tension and soreness not caused by injury or exercise.
Clumsiness, lack of coordination at times, bumping into or dropping objects more often; dizziness or feeling ungrounded.
Sporadic bursts of increased energy or inspiration; feeling hyperactive or frantic energy; panic attacks; accelerated mental energy; racing or scattered thoughts.
Unexplainable nervousness or anxiety that comes and goes spontaneously for no apparent reason.
Feeling Intense or unusual vibrations; experiencing pulsating or rushing waves of energy, tingling sensations pressure throughout the body or in specific areas (chakra centers).
Extreme sensitivity; feeling over-emotional; Episodes of crying for no apparent reason or bouts of hysterical laughter for no apparent reason.
Periods of intense frustration, anger or rage, short-tempered or easily agitated or impatient.
Moments where you experience an increase in heart rate out of the blue, or unusual sensations in the heart chakra area.
Unusual skin changes that come and go (rashes, hives, itching or tingles).
Changes in hair and nail texture, color or rate of growth. Hair and nails may grow faster than normal.
Feeling more drawn to be in nature and in more serene environments.
A sudden increase in synchronicity (meaningful coincidences); seeing 11:11 or other recurring numbers often.
Abrupt changes with job, friends, hobbies, interests, or living environments or strong urge to relocate.
Physicality may feel ‘unreal’ at times and external reality appears dreamlike at times.
Increased “self-talk” or inner dialogue; issues with voice or speech.
A need for more personal space and alone time; introversion.
Feeling invisible, alienated or detached from others and/or the world around you.
Feeling lost or a sudden loss of your old ‘identity’ and a calling to find your true self.
A deep longing to go Home even though you may not know where ‘home’ is.
A sense of urgency like you are running out of time or that ‘something is about to happen’.
Moments of heightened energy where you may receive channeled information; or automatic writing.
Sudden lack of mental focus and ability to concentrate or comprehend linear information; feeling scattered; brain fog; confusion; forgetting things more often.
Feeling ungrounded at times, scattered or spacey thoughts; feeling detached or in a dream-like trance.
Time distortions; losing track of time; a sense that time is ‘speeding up’ or ‘slowing down’ at various moments;
You begin to see halos of light around people, animals and objects; distorted or blurred vision; sensitivity to bright light; more intense closed-eye visions.
Increased Telepathy with other people and animals; flashes of insight and increased Intuition.
Feeling that you have a Divine purpose on the planet and that you are on a special ‘mission’.
Profound feeling of love, peace, understanding and interconnectedness with All things.
Increased psychic awareness and sensitivity, clairvoyance, clairaudience, clairsentience, and intuition.
Bizarre or intense dreams; prophetic or precognitive dreams or dreamlike visions occurring more often.
Electronic devices may malfunction often in your presence (lights may flicker or bulbs burn out often).
A feeling that you are not alone or that there is a non-physical presence near you (visits from angelic beings, spirits, e.t’s, messengers and guides)
Experiencing sudden inspirations and divine revelations, rushes of energy and flashes of deep insight.
A feeling that something is ‘about to happen’ or something important is coming, although you don’t know what or when.
A Word of Advice
Remember that not all of these symptoms may be due to the ascension process. Please follow your own inner guidance and consult a health care professional as needed. If you are experiencing a majority of these symptoms, it is a good indication that you are experiencing the ascension process more fully or at an accelerated rate. For treating ascension symptoms, more holistic healing methods and natural remedies are always encouraged alongside any other necessary treatment and for overall long-term health and healing benefits.

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Aeron Lazar
October 29 2022
Preparing for the monumental change between 3D and 5D and the ‘New Earth’
When we hear the term ‘New Earth’ it can almost sound like a new planet, or that at our collective ascension gateway, we will suddenly be whisked into another dimension to start again.
I prefer to call the New Earth ‘Consciousness 2.0’ instead, as for me this language feels more accurate and authentic.
When we collectively embody Consciousness 2.0 on this planet, we will have ascended from 3D to 5D and we will be living very differently.
It’s going to be incredible to not only witness but experience, considering what we’ve lived through, a true ‘dawn of the ages for mankind’
Love. Joy. Beauty. Equality. Service and Respect, to name but 6 virtues.
We are in a season of preparation right now for what’s about to unfold and the change that’s about to take place.
Now is the time to shed the shackles of the old paradigm to embrace and embody the new higher frequencies and gridwork here on our planet.
Now is the time to completely change your life and to shift timelines, to purge the old which isn’t serving you, to heal your inner wounding and pain, to release all patterns both ancestral and karmic, to fully shift and align yourself with the new paradigm and new reality which is currently being birthed in front of our eyes.
If you’re beginning this transformational journey, you still have time, but you need to begin the work now.
Your highest timeline of love, joy and abundance is now only an intention away.
Our ascension gateway is approaching.
Here’s to a bright future ahead, for all of us as we Transcend Dimensions.

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Feb 8 2022
The basic definition of metaphysical Timelines starts out corresponding fairly well with conventional Timelines, which is that we recall sequences of events that we experience in the form of ordered events. For example, we might recognize the sequence of events in our typical day, starting with waking up and doing our usual morning activities. We might recognize a divergence between conventional and metaphysical Timelines any time we sense a perception of being adjacent to parallel possible realities. We can experience these other possible realities when we notice reality shifts and Mandela Effects, where we notice that a past sequence of historical, recorded events does not match what we remember. We can also experience these other realities when we make a choice to make a quantum jump. We are now witnessing shared experiences of Timeline quantum jumps in the form of the Mandela Effect, where groups of people have shared memories that are different from historical records. We thus may find others who remember, for example, that the term “kidney punch” used to have meaning and significance when the kidneys were actually situated in our lower backs, and were thus vulnerable to injury if struck. When we consider the idea that the reality each of us observes is continually in a state of ‘collapsing’ out of having been smeared in a blur of quantum probability wave functions–then we can start to appreciate that we are each ‘creating’ the reality we experience in the way we make a choice of what and how we are observing. Our individual observations may not necessarily always agree with the subjective observations of others, and this is very much at the core of the quantum paradigm. All possibilities might thus be considered to already exist in the form of pure potentiality–only to be experienced in the form of reality when we invest our observational attention and energy in a particular choice of what we are focusing on, and how we are focusing. Individuals can choose and select Timelines, and to the degree that we are choosing Timelines that are aligned with our higher dimensional levels of consciousness, we can sometimes witness instantaneous positive results. The ability to experience individual Timeline Shifts often starts by first feeling a close proximity to an adjacent reality–one that we feel attuned to and affiliated with. This awareness might come through awareness of seeing a possible future reality in a dream or daydream, or it might appear as a knowingness. Some of the best ways to practice such conscious Timeline Jumps is to make a jump to a reality that feels within close reach–something that feels possible to your subconscious mind. Groups of people can join together with shared observational attention and energy–for such things as prayer or meditation groups, for example. The International Mandela Effect Conference (IMEC) https://imec.world/ has been tracking some such positive collective Timeline Shifts in the form of “mandanimals” that have returned from extinction (noted as “Lazarus” species), or are Golden or Rainbow or White colored, or have other remarkable qualities. As to the source of Timelines and Dimensions, this becomes a philosophical question. Some of my favorite book sources to address these matters are philosopher Nicholas Rescher’s book, Axiogenesis, and Tarthang Tulku’s book Space, Time, and Knowledge. Sincerely,
—Cynthia Sue Larson, Reality Shifters

Some articles to further understanding:
Schumann Resonance. The veil is lifting: http://prepareforchange.net/2017/02/02/humans-are-waking-up-for-first-time-in-recorded-history-schumann-resonance-jumping-to-36/

20 Universal Laws: http://www.radioastrology.com/TFG/20PrUniL.htm

The Laws of Energy Exchange and Karmic Debt: https://ineliabenz.com/debt-a-link-in-the-chain-of-enslavement/

Spiritual Laws of the Universe: http://universalspirituallaws.blogspot.com/p/index-of-spiritual-laws.html

A lot of Earth Energy changes were quite noticeable in 2012:
Archangel Michael called 2012 “The Year of the Indigo.” I thought this meant that the indigos would rise up in protest regarding wars and economic corruption. What I now realize (halfway through the year) is that he meant that in this new energy of 2012, we are all adopting the “Indigo Energy” of truth-telling and instantly recognizing dishonesty.

This new energy compels us all to be completely… honest and stop the habit of telling “white lies” or sugar-coating the truth. Those old practices are a form of manipulation, to try to get people to react to you in certain ways and/or avoid their anger or disapproval.

The angels say: “Tell the truth always, and let the chips fall where they will.” In other words, don’t try to control the outcome. Let go and trust that the truth will set everyone free.

Of course, the angels guide us to speak the truth in loving and respectful ways. There’s no need to mow anyone down with aggressiveness during truth-telling. Plus, the anger energy shuts down the other person’s ability to really hear what is being said.

With this energy, relationships are changing and will continue to change. You’ll have relationships fall away that were built upon white lies or upon stuffing true feelings. New relationships built upon integrity and truth will come to you.

TRUST the process. TRUST this new energy and new ways of living. It’s healthful and it’s necessary.
If you are pulling away from people who are practicing toxic lifestyle practices, you’re not alone!

When the purpose of a relationship has been served, the “pull” of the relationship decreases. You may feel less attracted to spending time with the person, and may even avoid them. Please don’t judge yourself for this process, as it’s as normal as any other cycles in nature.

Avoid making lists of all the reasons why the relationship isn’t working, as this creates inner toxic turmoil. Avoid having internal arguments with the person! You don’t need to justify pulling away from another person, or get their blessings or permission to end a relationship. You’re not “the bad guy” any more than they are!

The angels can help the relationship to end with as much kindness as possible.

Think of them as you would a person driving you to the airport: they helped you to get to where you are right now (including making you a stronger person for having gone through turmoil with them). As your flight takes off and you go higher and higher, you can feel love and gratitude to that person’s role in your life . . . even if they’re not with you on the current flight.

Ask Archangel Raguel (the angel of harmonious relationships) for help in healing current relationships and to attract healthy new relationships.

And remember that your healthful lifestyle and radiant happiness is the ultimate teacher and role model that may inspire others to release old toxic ways, too.
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This is from friend Annette… a very good explanation of the cranky and off kilter people we may notice:
“Today could prove to be a very interesting day indeed. Summer Solstice touches us this evening in North America, although the energy is already affecting many people. For those 24hrs people are likely to experience a wide array of emotions coming up. This roller coaster of emotions is really about making a final choice of how you want feel overall. If you seek peace and joy, all that interferes with it will be stripped away. This will happen much quicker than most people are used to, as it will likely happen in days & weeks, not months & years. Those who choose to stay in unhappiness will find things collapsing quickly around them as the earth is no longer willing to actively support this choice.
It may be hard to be patient with people having difficulty through these times but it’s worth remembering that much of it is based in fear, and in some cases outright panic at the sense that the world is changing fast and they have little or no control in some areas of their life. The same old things that used to work for many people simply do not work anymore and it is difficult for many people to adjust to this because it requires a sincere look at oneself – the good and the bad. To keep it in perspective, if you find yourself feeling this way, remember that you’re a wonderful work in progress, still growing and learning.”
Annette Donald June 20 2012

Dr Karen Kan has shared much information about the 4 stages of ascension with cycles explained:
Light Warrior Network Karen G Kan October 10, 2020
This week’s Spiritual Medicine Digest is in two parts. First, I talk about Ascension Cycle Deaths. Yes, during the naturally occurring Ascension process, there are times during particular cycles where we experience a sudden slew of human deaths, many of whom seem random and unexpected. It has been happening this past week. If you’ve been affected personally, as I have, my heart goes out to you.
I also share some really AMAZING news. We now have the ability to “download” the Unconditional Love Bubble to anyone we think about at the speed of thought, (and here’s the cool part), even when we do not have permission to do energy healing on them. This Unconditional Love Bubble makes them impervious to most entities (attachments) whose Light Scores are 4 and up.
Entities such as the Darkness of the Dark, Darkness Masked in Light, and Pseudolight who have light scores of under 4 can still potentially attach because of they have ways to withstand the Love bubble and other expertise is needed to heal and release them (found in my Light Warrior Bootcamp 2.0 program).
Watch this week’s Spiritual Medicine Digest below and get all the juicy details on how to get the ability to download the Unconditional Love Bubble to another at the speed of thought:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xinzpad_L2c

Notes:
Causes of Ascension cycle deaths:
o 32% Can’t hack the higher vibration physically
o 35% Choose to leave – too much emotional pain
o 25% alternate self’s death experienced
o 8% Soul Experience Template and Mission fulfilled (and no new mission)

The Akashic Academy January 30 2018
THE POWER OF ENERGY HEALING: THE 4 STAGES OF THE ASCENSION CYCLE
Are you ready to find out what you need to know about the 4 stages of the ascension cycle?
Join my guest, Dr. Karen Kan, a Spiritual Medicine MD and holistic physician. She will share her insights about the 4 stages of the ascension cycle: Expansion, Rising, Resistance, and Integration, and what that means to you, especially if you’re a sensitive soul. She’ll explain the common “symptoms” that occur during those stages and share tips on how to ease them.
Dr. Karen will do a group healing during the show. If you have questions about your own ascension journey, Dr. Karen can connect with Source and ask questions on your behalf.
We look forward to you joining us live or for watching and sharing the replay!
Thank you!
Christy Warnick
Spiritual, Intuitive and Energy Healer
www.christywarnick.com
www.facebook.com/christywarnick1
https://www.facebook.com/theakashicacademy/videos/1810650235906575

Karen G Kan: We are beings of light in a human body. We have incarnated into a dense human body so we can bring those light energies into incarnation into the physical. It is still a challenge for most to embody the light 100% of the time. Thus we can ASK to be connected to Source with our intention during a healing session and in part, so that no wayward lower vibe energies can interfere.
Carol S: The leftover bits are the encoded “trauma” that we have experienced and are not ready to/unsure of/or afraid to let go of. As you say, it is the holding onto these and not allowing the ascension work to fully integrate that keeps us in “sickness”. There are really quick and easy ways to clear those so that the spirit is healed. When the spirit that initiated the psychosomatics is healed, then the body follows. Great work Karen

January 5 2023 Karen G Kan
In case you haven’t remembered the cycles, we are in the death cycle where many people leave us. Much love
Cindy O: I have noticed so many leaving.
Megan M: Maybe this is why I’m experiencing grief that doesn’t feel like mine?
Lisa G: They sure are. Yeah, where can we learn about the cycles? Greg Brandon talks about many of the cycles that the earth and humans go through.
Mandy Jane: Are you referring to the cycle of the government where they tell a huge lie and kill off a bunch of people who believe them?
Karen G Kan: It has been my observation that there are cycles within cycles. Tonya A, as you know, there are four phases of the ascension cycle. My guess is that it is the expansion cycle where we see the most folks “leaving” us or choosing to leave this plane of existence until they recycle back here at their choosing. I don’t know why we see the phenomenon, but it probably follows some sort of Fibonacci sequence or something! Maybe I’ll ask Marcus Bird when he comes back from holiday!
Amie R: this is what two of my Reiki friends have told me. It just seems like lots are choosing to leave us.
Tonya A thanks for the explanation. It reminded me of when a couple of days ago a friend and I were talking about the cycles of the moon and how when she wanted “to get rid of / eliminate” energies she does it on the full moon, and when she wants to set intentions “to bring about / to manifest” something in her life she works energetically in the new moon phase. Yes please, I am curious what Marcus says about this… thank you for asking!
Kate D: It seems to be happening non stop the last 6 years or more, or maybe as I get older, more people I know leaves the world. But I find animals are departing at an alarming rate too!
Karen G Kan: I know it seems this way, but there are weeks were there are a slew of deaths, then later a massive number of births!
Maria T: I have believed for a long while there would be this divergence where the vibration rises and people either choose to change and rise with it and stay or leave. Staying requires overcoming many challenges and learning many lessons.
Erica G: In Numerology we use 9 yr cycles. I’m guided to know that there are also 9 period cycles. We have been in a 9 period cycle. For me I’m in my personal year 9 of a 9 period. I’ve been purging throughout this period, and my mother, sister, son, oldest son’s mother in law, all crossed over, and a divorce. Read more in my upcoming new book Numerology New Discoveries: Who are you?
Maria: It definitely makes sense. Those who don’t feel ready for ascension choose to leave and return later and those who are ready are waking up.
Kaitlyn K: It’s like the play equipment when we were kids of the merry go round were all us kids would hang on and someone would get it spinning so fast and some hung on and others it would get to be too much and they would just let go and spin off. No judgement they were just not ready for that intensity this time around.
Karen G Kan: There is much truth to that!
Karen G Kan January 6 2023: Just to balance out my post from yesterday about cycles of death. There are cycles of birth as well. Lots of babies!! YAY!

Victoria Reynolds November 16 2023
For those who believe that 5D (Love-Based reality, New Earth, Heaven on Earth) will just magically happen and everyone will live happily ever after, it’s important to understand that 5D is a state of consciousness.
You live in it every day that you choose pure, absolute, unconditional love and feel the bliss that comes with living in absolute knowing that all is well. The collective 5D, Heaven on Earth will be experienced when at least 1/3 of us choose to live our lives in love in all things, and service to all.
Remember, we can change our environment but we take ourselves with us. If we don’t change within ourselves, the external environment won’t matter.
Maybe there will be an event in which the purveyors of darkness disappear (as some are predicting) and even with that, there is a lot of cleanup to do before we reach paradise.
We have our individual and collective baggage to go through and process before we reach heaven within ourselves. As above, so below, as within, so without. As our internal reality shifts, our external reality follows suit, not the other way around.
Yes, a better external environment can help to make the inner process more graceful, but heaven is within and occurs when we are willing to let go of everything that isn’t that.
Commenter: I think Jesus (or Mary Magdalene) said that heaven is within all of us. Perhaps it was partly this 5d shift that they were referring to. 💜
Victoria Reynolds:
Michaela Light, yes, it’s just been branded as 5D in the past few years. Heaven has always been found within. Heaven and Hell are both in our own hands, in our personal perceptions of our human experiences. This is why some people who appear to have everything that “should” make them happy are still miserable and why some people who appear to haver nothing can find bliss in the nothing, and even in the suffering. Our internal reality determines our state of being.

Jenny Schiltz January 22 2024: The falling away of people, places, and things in this energy is really something! It is taking everything to a whole new level.
Luci Martin: I’m sensing people falling away from my world before THEY even are….. I listened to a speaker advise us not to even try to figure out what is no longer working in the relationship… he advised simply to honor the understanding that the friendship is no longer serving us and gracefully allow it to go for as long a time as it meant to. Wild and crazy times.
Jenny Schiltz: Great advice!
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Morning Messages – Peggy Black January 16 2025
Artificial Frequencies
It is important to remain consciously connected to this planet. Your earth has a magnetic field, rhythm and frequency which have a significant affect on your personal well-being, wholeness, health and balance.
In the past humans lived closer to the earth and the rhythms. They lived out-of-doors, slept on the ground, farmed the lands, hunted and walked touching the soil. This way of living offered a deep sense of belonging and connectedness to the resonance and vibrations of the planet. Your society at this time is less likely to experience this deep connection with the earth.
Most of the population lives in a world of man-made concrete and asphalt. They are born into a home that is surrounded by buildings. Those in the cities can go days, weeks, months and even lifetimes without a real connection to the earth.
Humans are not connected in a healthy way to the vibrational field of earth. People surround themselves with artificial, discordant vibrations created by man. Everything in your home has a vibration no matter how solid it feels to your touch or seems to your eyes, it is vibrating slowly perhaps, but it is vibrating. These surroundings in the workplace or the home do not support your balance and well-being.
Add another layer to this artificially created matrix–the electronic frequencies from all your appliances, TV, computers, telephones, refrigerators. These are the discordant man-made energy frequencies in which most people live.
Alarmingly, these high frequency energetic grids are increasing and as they do, the populace becomes more chaotic, unbalanced, unwell, and dis-eased.
The personal energy or matrix of the human is sensitive to these energetic grids, these electronic frequencies which are passing through their tissues and their bones, affecting their state of mind, their health, their sense of wholeness and balance.
We invite you to make it a conscious practice to connect with the healing, whole energetic matrix of nature, and what it offers in balance and freshness to your energy. The cohesive frequencies of nature, the vibrations of living trees, plants, stones, lakes, oceans are like whole, alive food to the human energetic field.
If you live in the city you will need to be more creative. Bring living plants into the space, the caring for these living plants offer a simple method to balance the artificial frequencies. Make it a point to find a park or some form of nature and spend time there. This allows your energy body to discharge any unwanted stale energy and to be replenished with a more cohesive, whole, alive, healthy vibration.
You can also sing, move, stretch, dance, look at the beauty of the day and create a flow of joy and gratitude in your personal field.

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Alexander Quinn – Starseed July 29 2024, 5:04 PM
The symptoms associated with ascension are currently very pronounced. This process demands a comprehensive purification of all aspects of one’s life, particularly those concerning the physical body and its utilization. Individuals who are not experiencing these symptoms to some extent may still be in earlier stages of this transformation or have not yet begun to develop their crystalline structures. Those who are intensely experiencing these changes are likely undergoing significant upgrades and transformations out of necessity. Lightworkers, in particular, must advance ahead of the collective, enduring sometimes disconcerting changes to sustain the planet’s light and serve as guides for others. The metamorphosis from a caterpillar to a butterfly is a substantial and demanding endeavor. Deep breathing is recommended, as even the Earth’s atmosphere is undergoing electromagnetic alchemical shifts, presenting a different composition compared to the pre-2012 era. This transformation may result in some individuals experiencing challenges in acclimatizing to breathing and other physiological functions as your crystalline self becomes apparent.
Moving forward, the energies have been so high recently that I was floating on a wave of electricity and ended up not sleeping for two days. A wonderful experience but now some rest is needed hence taking a break from making a video this week. I shall be back on that soon however. Remember – You’re not dying. You’re adjusting. Change is not easy, especially when it is permanent. The new you is a huge upgrade. See it for what it is. A celebration. All my love. AQ

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Matrix Education September 26 2024
Karma is often misunderstood as a force of punishment or revenge, but in truth, it’s a teacher, a guide on our path to healing and self-awareness. Karma is not about balancing the scales of justice or making sure that those who wronged us face consequences. Instead, it’s a mechanism of growth, a gentle nudge from the Universe to help us see the areas within ourselves that need love and attention.
When karma returns, it’s not there to harm us, but to illuminate our wounds—the places within us that still carry pain, hurt, or resentment. It brings our triggers to the surface, not so we can live in them, but so we can heal them. Every time we encounter a difficult situation or person, it’s an opportunity to see more clearly where we are still holding onto old hurts or unhealed aspects of ourselves.
Rather than hoping for others to “get what they deserve,” karma invites us to shift our perspective. The people who wrong us are not enemies to be defeated; they are, in fact, soul teachers. Our higher self has chosen these experiences—however painful they may seem—to show us the parts of ourselves that need healing. In this light, karma becomes a mirror, reflecting back the lessons we need to learn in order to grow, evolve, and ultimately find peace.
Once we start to heal those wounds and let go of the pain that karma has revealed to us, we become free. Free of resentment, free of blame, free of the patterns that have kept us stuck in cycles of suffering. We realize that karma’s purpose was never to inflict harm, but to guide us toward a higher state of being—a place where we can experience love, joy, and fulfillment without being held back by past hurts.
Karma, in its essence, is beautiful. It’s a gift, though it may not always feel that way at first. It helps us break free from old cycles, purify our energy, and become more aligned with our true self. It’s something we can be grateful for, not feared or resented. Because through karma, we find the pathway to our own self-realization. We discover our strength, our resilience, and the infinite capacity for healing that exists within us.
So, let’s embrace karma, not as a force of retribution, but as a powerful tool for personal and spiritual growth. With every karmic lesson, we are one step closer to wholeness, to blooming into the fullest, most authentic versions of ourselves.

Karma is not about revenge or justice. It is about healing and blooming. Karma returns so you can see your wounds and triggers and can heal them. Karma is not to create hate in your mind that people doing wrong to you will suffer in hell. Rather people doing wrong to you are the one your soul has chosen to show you your unhealed parts. Once you are healed you are free of karma. Karma is beautiful and we should be grateful because karma leads us to self realization.

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Guruofcalm instagram
Calling the Universe to confirm if I really signed up for all these life lessons and see if I can drop a few. Before our arrival to this earthly plane, each soul maps out in detail the experiences and lessons it wishes to tackle; a sacred pact with the universe to evolve spiritually. We are not here by chance, but by our own choice, with a defined purpose that gives meaning and direction to our existence.

In this earthly journey, every challenge, every relationship, and every difficult situation are essential parts of this predetermined agreement. These experiences are not punishments nor coincidences, but steps that bring us closer to our essence and full understanding of our life’s mission. They allow us to grow, strengthen ourselves, and, above all, remember who we are and why we are here.

We embrace each moment with gratitude and resilience, knowing that everything contributes to our growth. We become more compassionate and patient, both with ourselves and with others, recognizing that each person we meet is also navigating their own path of agreed learning.

This understanding invites us to live with greater awareness and purpose, inspiring us to seek deeper and more meaningful connections, and to face life with a renewed perspective, where each experience is an opportunity to advance in our spiritual journey.

Do you ever wonder why you have certain quirks or mannerisms and where they may have come from? Then we observe our parents and realize we have similar traits. If we have living grandparents, we may recognize similar traits in them as well.
We can inherit familial facial features with similar looking eyes or a nose shape makes itself apparent in family group photos.
What else have we inherited? There are modern day scientific studies that have discovered and proven that our DNA carries memories of trauma. This means that we can be detrimentally affected by the effects of war, famine, plagues and any other kind of global unrest that our ancestors experienced.

Why does a certain person in our family get severely depressed or develops a chronic type of imbalance or disease and there doesn’t seem to any reasonable explanation for it?
In energy healing terminology we call this a miasm otherwise known as a family pattern weakness. We are likely carrying a whole lot of emotional baggage that isn’t even our own!

Previously we defined a miasm as a suppressed disease energy. Meaning, that someone could have a miasm of, for example, leprosy. The explanation here is that in carrying the miasm of a disease, the disease could possibly develop in a person now, IF conditions are right for that disease to develop. Otherwise, the person may just present with the energy of our example, leprosy which would be “isolation”. In years past having leprosy meant that you were banished outside of the city creating the isolation feeling.

To add to more explanation, we can have imbalances in any of our energy bodies: emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, etc. More recently, energy practitioners have learned much more about miasmas in understanding that these imbalances can be different kinds such as Karmic, Planetary, Inherited, or Acquired. That leaves a lot to be discovered in how miasmas can affect us personally, and can be a huge part of ancestral and lineage healing.

Thankfully, we now have energy balancing tools that can heal these family patterns and bring peace to our present mind and body.

This is why I love Court of Atonement work. It can help clean up energies all through our ancestral lines! See more Court of Atonement information here: https://ladybugwellness.ca/court-of-atonement/

We can find miasmas in Body Code energy clearing and balancing. More than that, with defining miasmas as a “family pattern weakness”, I have discovered in my work with clients over the past few years, that a miasm can be absolutely anything!

Some examples:
I have had miasmas of infertility and miscarriage come up for a client who had issues with getting pregnant.
Miasm of psoriasis came up for several people with skin issues.
Traumatic warfare, and cultural genocide came up for some clients dealing with current day repercussions of ancestral atrocities.

Some of this terminology came from random word charts, some from intuitive suggestions within their sessions.
The point being is that I never know what might come up for a client in regards to their inherited imbalances, but it is always fascinating and effective for them.

Trauma repeats itself until it is resolved and healed.
When we work with energy clearing and balancing, we are always working only on those energies that are active or currently triggered.

What is your personality other than a collection of responses you learned over your life that have become who you are. Dr Joe Dispensa says that by the time we are 35 years old, 95% of our thoughts and thinking are repetitive patterns/programs we learned decades ago. In other works – most people are living in the past… And if you have a cluttered past, then your personality contributes to dis-ease.

The world has suffered through a global shutdown because of a “plague” of sorts. We have learned that there was a similar global event about 100 years ago. What I have realized it that many people today are being triggered by unresolved inherited imbalances in their DNA.
Our ancestors would have experienced scarcity, uncertainties, untimely deaths, sickness, abandonment, just for some examples. Those unresolved imbalances are exactly what I have been seeing come up for clients quite often. This is also some of the imbalances I address for my Sunday group.

I use this analogy as an example to explain how trauma repeats itself:

A client can tell me, for instance, that their relationship broke up last week and their partner ran off with their best friend. They may be understandably upset about that recent event. When we do their energy balancing session, that event may seem like the most important upset to clear. I may get some imbalances of betrayal, loss, grief, abandonment etc but the date that comes up may be from childhood.
The client might remember and event from grade 3 when a lunch box was stolen and lunch was eaten. In this example, the partner and lunchbox are not the same. The lunch and best friend are not the same thing. Yet we find that we have uncovered the original root issue behind these imbalances of the partner issue.

I often add a few notes to the beginning of a session and then let things come up. Often energy work seems to have this weird way of finding the roots and residuals behind what I have in the notes and it all gets addressed in ways I cannot even explain. I have been doing this work several years. Lots of experiences and yet still totally fascinated with each and every session.

In recent months, “Activate Atlantean Healing Energy” has come up for several clients. I know that this is an energy modality on its own, but I asked in my forums why this would be coming up so much right now. The explanation I was given is that Atlantis, the lost city, learned a lot about healing and human consciousness ascension, but they “screwed up”. It is my understanding now, that this Atlantean healing energy is vital to our human consciousness evolution.

If you look back through history, there are a lot of generational traumatic events. It seems like our ancestors left us with a lot of emotional baggage to clean up.

Karma is ancestral wounds bought forward for you to heal. When an ancestor did wrong and never righted it, then it’s bought forth for the next generation to heal. If no-one heals it there, it’s bought forward again and so on, until someone steps up to heal and release it.
So, if you do wrong and don’t correct or righten it straight away, then you are creating further karma for the next generation in your family to heal.

This is an amazing time in history where we can clean up this energy and then realize that we can also embrace the good things we have inherited like generational strengths and skills.

So how does this work to clean up our ancestral lineage when I am only working with the client in front of me? Energy is connected everywhere. On an energetic level, we release the imbalances for the client. When we are releasing something inherited like a miasm, it also releases throughout the lineage.

What about free will? It is important to understand that we can only work with permission on the earth plane. This means that yes, the imbalance releases for the client, and all their passed ancestors through the lineage on an energetic and spiritual level.

For those relatives still living and on the earth plane, the imbalance may release for them as well if they are willing to accept. Quite often on an energetic and spiritual level, all souls want to resolve their past. Energetic imbalance corrections can become evident for the client and they also may notice energy shifts in their relatives as well.
Sounds a bit confusing, doesn’t it? I have been doing this work for a long time and it still fascinates me continuously. I love sharing my passion of energy balancing and observing the reactions in my clients when they experience the shifts for themselves!

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***August 2022: I have just recently binge watched a Netflix series called “Another Self”.
This is a Turkish drama series about three best friends who set out on a healing journey to unearth the past to restore the present. What is interesting for me is that this series shows Family Constellation Therapy which is an energy healing modality I have experienced myself and have seen used with others.
The series is a great representation of ancestral energy healing to bring understanding to other methods of ancestral energy healing.

July 2023: Generally, when miasms and inherited energies come up, we can make sense of some imbalances by what was going on globally in history. For example, 3-5 generations back is often associated with World Wars and the atrocities our ancestors experienced then.

I have seen 18-19 generations come up for lots of people in the last few months to the point I finally asked my daughter who has a BA in History.
Jackie: What happened about 18 generations ago? Coming up lots for several people.
Melissa: Year?
Jackie: 18 x 20/ 25?? Like 1570s
Melissa Rioux: Bunch of sh*t between Elizabeth I and Mary Queen of Scots…. Bunch of massacres there.
Ivan the terrible living up to his name in Russia. Bunch of massacres there.
Bunch of wars in France.
Bunch of conquistadors f*cking shi*t up in South and Central America.
Jackie: Kinda blunt but makes sense of all what I see coming up for people lately. Desertion, abandonment, inhumane stuff etc. Glad we have tools to clean this all up now.

“Ancestral Lineage Clearing”
Have you cleared your ancestral lineage? Our ancestors bequeath quite a lot to us, through our genetic material, cultural traditions, and emotional patterns. And as multi-dimensional beings floating in the same soup together, our ancestors exert their influence, but can often only guide us through the fog of beliefs they clung to when they lived. Because of social changes alone, what worked for our ancestors in their day doesn’t work for us today.
A lot of life has been lived and a great deal of emotional resonance has been created in the living of those lives. Some of it is beneficial and some of it is non-beneficial. Ancestral Lineage Clearing provides spiritual healing that enables you to access, identify, and release troubling issues that limit your life and inhibit the full expression of your Essence and your Being.
Let’s take a minute to do some Ancestral Math. In order for you to be born, you had:
2 parents
4 grandparents
8 great-grandparents
16 2nd great-grandparents
32 3rd great-grandparents
64 4th great-grandparents
128 5th great-grandparents
256 6th great-grandparents
512 7th great-grandparents
1,024 8th great-grandparents
2,048 9th great-grandparents. For you to be born today from 12 previous generations, there were a total of 4,094 ancestors over the last 240 or so years. Think for a moment:
How many struggles?
How many battles?
How many difficulties?
How much sadness?
How much happiness?
How many love stories?
How many expressions of hope for the future?
What did your ancestors experience for you to be here at this moment in time?
If you go back to the very beginning of your family, the numbers become astronomical. Whether you use EC or BC, you can ask “What imbalances can be cleared from my family lineage?” This will clear you, your children/grandchildren, and your ancestors (including all their children). Think of all the aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. that will also benefit.

Ancestral Vows

In recent months, ancestral vows have been coming up more frequently in client sessions. Some traditions teach that promises, oaths, contracts, commitments, and deeply held beliefs can continue influencing us long after the original circumstances have passed. Whether viewed spiritually, psychologically, or symbolically, many people find it helpful to explore and release patterns that no longer serve them.

When we begin clearing our energy, we often realize that some of the emotional baggage, blocks, fears, and limitations we carry may not have originated with us. They can sometimes be connected to family patterns, cultural conditioning, ancestral experiences, or inherited beliefs.

Emerging research in epigenetics suggests that traumatic experiences can influence future generations through changes in gene expression. World wars, famine, displacement, cultural oppression, and other global events may leave impacts that continue through family lineages. This is something I see reflected in client sessions in various ways.

Some practitioners also explore the possibility that ancestral roles, cultural expectations, religious traditions, or spiritual commitments may continue influencing current beliefs and behaviours. For example, if there were nuns, monks, priests, or other religious figures within a lineage, vows such as poverty, silence, obedience, sacrifice, or chastity may still be affecting a person’s relationship with abundance, self-expression, relationships, or personal freedom.

Resources

April 2026: Jad Chamcham’s book 300 Vows: Clear the Hidden Vows Holding You Back contains an extensive collection of vows and energetic agreements that may be influencing various aspects of life.

Purchase here:
https://a.co/d/0iI6s6iq

Note: The book is currently available only on Kindle. I created my own working list from the vows in this book and often use it as a resource during client sessions.

May 2026: Amy Jo Ellis released a class called Revoking Ancestral Vows through Court of Atonement, which includes a list of nearly 100 common vows.

Class information:
https://www.courtofatonement.com/classes

Healer Vows

Several years ago, a Body Code practitioner created a list commonly referred to as “Healer Vows.” These are vows that often appear when people begin developing their spiritual gifts, healing abilities, or personal growth practices. This list, along with additional information on vows, can be found in my Resources files. Simply search for “vows.”

If vows come up in client sessions, I often clear them by intention using the phrase:

“Void, Revoke, Cleanse, Bless.”

This is my personal Full Court of Atonement variation for revoking vows:

“I, _______, place myself ________, into a Full Court of Atonement, along with all levels of my consciousness, God and my Guides, and the entirety of my family lineages, by love or by blood. I ask God to analyze our timelines and our soul timelines and to revoke any and all vows of ________. I ask for divine compassion and recompense.”

The following parable can be found in many variations across the internet. As far as I can tell Paulo Coelho was the original author.

What I take from this parable is a good life lesson that it is not good to be striving to live beyond our means. It all comes down to the idea that we want to live a good life with our families. In trying to “keep up with the Joneses” so to speak, it only creates more headache and stress to strive so much only to want to come back into balance anyway.

What is all the push for big ticket luxuries and coveting what is outside ourselves? Money is an energy. When we treat money like a cherished friend, it will stay present in our lives and our monetary needs will be met sufficiently.

Referencing the Law of Attraction and Levels of Consciousness from Dr David Hawkins’ book “Power vs. Force”, a company run on greed and money has a low vibration while a company run on compassionate service to employees and customers will have a higher vibration and will be more successful.

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The Fisherman’s Parable:

There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village.
As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”

The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman.
“I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”

The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”
Paulo Coelho

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With this parable in mind, I prefer to avoid mass marketing schemes, poor customer service, and companies where the bottom line is based in greed.

Yes, I love traveling. Yes, I appreciate going on a cruise. Yes, I still splurge on things once in a while. Yes, I still promote striving to be my best self for my own benefit and the benefit of others.
I just keep an awareness about me of what is behind the scenes and what I am supporting in my choices.

More on the idea of greed and the misuse of money, I often reference the website “Story of Stuff”. There is a 20 minute video that explains the marketing trend of materialism and a consumption crazed culture. Go here: https://www.storyofstuff.org/

I can fully appreciate high quality items in my life. What I have learned though my experiences though, is to be aware of the energy of material items. Where was it made? What is it made of? Who was involved in the production of items? Where were the materials used produced?
All of these factors can affect the overall energy of a material item.

Mass produced, poor working conditions, low quality disposable materials. Is that what we want to bring into our home and personal environment?
I would rather support natural and ethically produced items where ever possible. With this in mind, yes I still shop at some chain stores and continuously clear and bless the energies of items that come into my home.

4 Pillars of Sacred Economics
⁠⁠Moving from Consumerism to Contribution⁠ ⁠
⁠⁠Moving from Isolation to Community⁠
⁠⁠Moving from Transaction to Trust⁠ ⁠
⁠⁠⁠Moving from Scarcity Consciousness to Abundance Consciousness⁠

Ladybug Wellness
Published by Jackie Rioux to social media September 2 2014

Years ago I took a Business Communications course. There was one thing that stood out for me and has been useful to me all these years in understanding communication.

There are 6 stages to communication:
1. First person must think of a message to communicate
2. First person must think of a way to communicate the message thru words, body language, tone, symbols, writing, taking into consideration the intended recipient and how the message might be received.
3. First person must communicate the message to the second person
4. Second person receives the message
5. second person must interpret the message based on their unique comprehension and understanding
6. Second person responds to the message

When you break down the communication process like this, and consider that every single person is completely unique in their experiences that would affect their communication skills and comprehension, we can easily see how communication can break down and cause misunderstandings. It is thru the collective efforts of two people that communication can be discussed until each person understands the relayed messages in the manner in which they were intended to be received.

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10 Communication Tips
1. Obtain the attention of the person to whom you wish to speak. Ask if this is an appropriate time to have a conversation. If appropriate, give an approximate length of time you expect to converse.
2. When you are in conversation with another, give them your full attention. Avoid performing other activities, including doodling, while others speak.
3. Stay focused on one topic to avoid confusion. When appropriate, repeat what the speaker is saying in order to gain clarity. This may seem tedious, but can avoid misunderstandings and emotional upset.
4. Avoid unnecessary chatter. This tires out the listener who is likely to tune you out. Keep conversations to the point and relative to the issue at hand.
5. Avoid idle gossip. This not only hurts the targeted person, but also has the potential to decrease others’ trust in you. By remaining optimistic and refusing to participate in gossip, you will gain the respect and trust of others.
6. When topics are important, meet with that person face-to-face. Conversations that allow each person to see their body movements and hear their voice, are less likely to be misinterpreted.
7. Develop your intuitive skills. If you have a sense that the other person is not expressing their truth, let them know they can trust you and encourage them to speak from their heart. If you typically get emotionally upset from what other people are saying, it is less likely they will feel comfortable sharing their heart-felt emotions with you.
8. Release your fears, judgments and stinking thinking. These blocks hinder you from having a heart connection with others. When you are empowered, you will more likely have conversations that are productive.
9. Allow others to express their beliefs freely. When both of you are mature and not reactive to what the other says, communications are likely to be productive, even when you disagree on the topic.
10. Let others know when your communication is complete, then allow the listener a chance to respond. This gives the listener confidence that he will be able to be an active part of the dialogue and will less likely feel the need to interrupt when you are speaking.
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