This poem was shared with me by a dear friend (R.W.) who lost her son tragically. Only those who have lost a child would truly understand. I share it here because I have known too many friends who have buried their babies far too soon.

When you tell me how long its been
since your child’s death and you’re feeling so bad, I know.
When you worry that the pain in your heart will ever stop,I know.
When and anniversary is coming and you dread thinking about it, I know.
When you tell me your friends just don’t understand, I know.
I know because I have been there and I also know it will be easier someday ~
I know you’ll be able to share those happy memories ~
I know you’ll be able to reach out and help someone someday ~
And then you’ll say “I know”.

~ Therese Goodrich


What a fitting analogy of grief and loss.

I think this can apply to the loss of any close loved one.

“The best way I can describe grieving over a child as the years go by is to say it’s similar to carrying a stone in your pocket.

When you walk, the stone brushes against your skin. You feel it. You always feel it. But depending on the way you stand or the way your body moves, the smooth edges might barely graze your body.

Sometimes you lean the wrong way or you turn too quickly and a sharp edge pokes you. Your eyes water and you rub your wound but you have to keep going because not everyone knows about your stone or if they do, they don’t realize it can still bring this much pain.

There are days you are simply happy now, smiling comes easy and you laugh without thinking. You slap your leg during that laughter and you feel your stone and aren’t sure whether you should be laughing still. The stone still hurts.

Once in a while you can’t take your hand off that stone. You run it over your fingers and roll it in your palm and are so preoccupied by its weight, you forget things like your car keys and home address. You try to leave it alone but you just can’t. You want to take a nap but it’s been so many years since you’ve called in “sad” you’re not sure anyone would understand anymore or if they ever did.

But most days you can take your hand in and out of your pocket, feel your stone and even smile at its unwavering presence. You’ve accepted this stone as your own, crossing your hands over it, saying “mine” as children do.

You rest more peacefully than you once did, you’ve learned to move forward the best you can. Some days you want to show the world what a beautiful memory you’re holding. But most days you twirl it through your fingers, smile and look to the sky. You squeeze your hands together and hope you are living in a way that honors the missing piece you carry, until your arms are full again.” © Jessica Watson

Gorgeous piece written by Jessica Watson, Four Plus An Angel